Anonymous: My bf and I made anal only our new years resolution and since Jan 1 (actually we started a few days before so we’d already be doing it when the new year came) he hasn’t fucked my pussy and I haven’t played with it or my clit. I’m so horny all the time now! It’s frustrating but I love it and I play with my asshole when I feel like touching myself. It makes me feel really sexy all the time to know I’m anal only and my pussy is just a decoration. Thank you for the inspiration!

You’re welcome! Thank you for sharing.

It sounds like you’re on the right track and have found something you both really love. If you can get past the increased arousal and manage it effectively without giving in to your old ways, you’re in for a far more pleasurable life in general, and you get addicted to that increased state of arousal and want to stay that way, which reduces any urge you may have to use your clit to cum and ruin how good you feel all the time.

You didn’t say if you can cum from anal. Anal orgasms are often far more intense than clitoral orgasms (though everyone is different), and they also tend to have the effect of not throwing your arousal levels out of whack and making you feel asexual/turned off for a while afterwards as is usually the case with clit orgasms. Instead, you can usually keep going and have multiple anal orgasms until physical exhaustion becomes the limiting factor instead of just no longer having any desire to continue. So if you can’t already have them, you might want to explore pure anal only orgasms as a goal.

Stick with it, and you just won’t have any interest in going back to vaginal sex. Why would you want to, when it can’t come close to anal only?

If you aren’t already living the anal only lifestyle, the new year is a perfect opportunity to take it out of the realm of fantasy and fully embrace it going forward. Make it your new year’s resolution for 2018 to give up vaginal sex and go anal only.

If you are already anal only, this can be a chance to reassess how anal only has been for you since you’ve started, whether you want to continue, and strengthen your commitment to it if you feel that it’s what you still want. It can also be an opportunity to mix things up a bit and explore more fun and related things—whether that be clitoral denial/anal only orgasms, ass to mouth, long term plug wearing, increased anal training, more frequent anal sex, or anything else you might think of.

If you’ve been anal only in the past but fell out of the habit and are finding yourself drawn to it again, take the new year as a sign that now’s the time to get back into the anal only lifestyle. Sometimes taking a break from it can be what it takes to make you realize that being anal only full time is what you really want and to dive back in stronger than ever.

Happy new year to everyone in (and interested in) the anal only community!

Anonymous: I am in a ddlg relationship and starting in the new year my resolution is to have more anal sex with my daddy? it just feels so right when he fucks my asshole. I can’t wait to convert myself into a 100% anal only girl?

Sounds like an excellent new year’s resolution! I presume from your wording that you won’t be going immediately anal only in the new year, but will just work on increasing the frequency of anal sex for now and then at some point in the future transition to anal only? That’s an approach that has worked for many couples, a slow transition to anal only until you just haven’t had vaginal sex anymore for a while and decide not to go back to it because you don’t miss it.

Good luck and happy new year!

Anonymous: I’d love to see more challenges throughout the year instead of just at the end of the year. Maybe a couple of basic anal only challenges as well as some more advanced ones for people who are already anal only?

This is a great idea, and I’ve been thinking of spreading them out for a while now anyway—more on that to come.

No Pussy November (and other challenges) have always encouraged people who are already anal only to try adding an additional challenge component to their routine for the month—whether clitoral denial/anal only orgasms, ass to mouth, 24/7 plugging, double anal, or whatever goal suits each person. It could be interesting to have a monthly challenge specifically for one of the various more niche elements of the anal only lifestyle, though. A month where everyone is encouraged to experiment with clit denial. A month where everyone is encouraged to wear a plug as often as possible. And so on, as an opportunity to explore new ideas and then incorporate them into their full time routine after if they enjoyed it.

I’d be interested in people’s feedback on that, as well as suggestions for such challenges—specifically with relation to the anal only theme—to be utilized going forward.

Anonymous: You keep saying AO is not a forever thing for you, but you’re doing it. I just feel like you’re not respecting the lifestyle. I’ve been AO for 2 years and I will never go back. You’re not committed to the lifestyle if you keep saying you’re only doing it for a short while..

ilikeitintheass: Ok. First of all, congratulations on being AO for 2 years. Good for you. Honestly I think that’s a huge achievement and I can’t imagine doing this for 2 years.

Second of all, I think that being anal only is a hugely personal thing. It takes its toll on any person and surely, everyone that chooses it has their own reasons, limitations, ideas, expectations, etc.

I’ve always said, from the beginning that I don’t know if I can keep doing it. I love anal. I love getting my ass fucked. I love stuffing it with things. I also love my clit and my pussy and having orgasms using my clit and my pussy. I miss it sometimes. One day I’m gonna have sex with two men and get both my pussy and ass fucked at the same time. One day soon based on some recent conversations with friends in fact.

So I don’t appreciate being told that I’m not respecting the lifestyle. Everyone has their own way of doing it. I think I’ve done quite well with it. I choose to keep doing it every day. I will continue to choose it until I don’t want to choose it anymore. Am not gonna lie or pretend otherwise.

And I’d hardly call nearly 7 months of being Anal Only a short while.

While I didn’t coin the term anal only or start the first discussion of the concept online, I did create the first AO Tumblr blog, coined the term “anal only lifestyle”, and created and grew the associated communities. So I think I have a pretty good say as to what anal only and the anal only lifestyle means.

And I say that it’s a highly personal definition each person gets to apply to themselves however it fits for them. For some people, anal only is something to try for a few weeks or months at a time and nothing more. For others, it’s a lifetime commitment. And an entire spectrum in between. Some who start in the first category may gradually shift towards wanting it more permanently over time, while others who start out wanting it permanently may later change and move away from it. People change.

Everyone is welcome in the anal only community, and I really dislike seeing someone who identifies as AO attacking someone else for “not being AO enough”. It’s fantastic that the anon loves AO enough they’re committed to being that way permanently, but that’s a personal choice, and you can’t force that on other people or disparage them for not making that same commitment.

Anonymous: I love your blog!! I really like anal and you’ve inspired me to try going anal only too! My husband is on board (of course lol) and he says he’s going to help keep me from using my pussy. We’re going to try it for the rest of 2017 first and see after that if we want to continue. Wish us luck!

ilikeitintheass: WOW how cool is that. I am so happy to inspire you two. Good luck. Take it easy and go slow, don’t force it, and most importantly, have fun. It took me a few tries before I got to 6 months.

If you ever want to talk about it or if you have any questions, feel free to message me or send an ask. I love sharing my experience and helping those who need it. GOOD LUCK woohooo

No Pussy November 2017 has officially come to an end, but that doesn’t mean the fun has to be over!

If you participated this year and made it through the month and enjoyed being anal only, why not commit to staying that way indefinitely? It doesn’t have to be a permanent commitment, just keep going and see where it takes you. Most people find it just keeps getting better the more you stay anal only.

If you missed No Pussy November this year, don’t worry! Just because we celebrate this particular month more publicly, any month is a good month to try becoming anal only! If the idea interests you, get your partner on board any time of the year and declare pussy off limits for a period of time to really focus on anal and try out the anal only lifestyle. Several weeks works as a starting point for some people, but a month is usually best as a real introduction to full time anal only, and some find it takes several months to really stick. Whatever you end up doing, if you have a desire to become anal only, give it a try with a short term commitment and see how it works for you before making a long term commitment.

Anonymous: I just saw your post about No Pussy November and I want to try it. I really like anal a lot and it makes me cum so good. I don’t know why I never thought about trying anal only before, it just seemed like I was supposed to keep doing vaginal too, I guess. Thanks for making me look at things differently! I’m going to tell my boyfriend I want to try going anal only for a month and see where things go from there.

I’m glad to have inspired you to try going anal only and hopefully discover it’s exactly what you really want! I think there are many out there in the same boat, who prefer anal but don’t really consider the idea of becoming anal only, just because it’s not the norm. Good luck and have fun!

Anonymous: Yay! I showed my boyfriend your posts about No Pussy November and all the people trying going anal only this month and he agreed we should try it too! The idea of him only using my ass and mouth and both of us ignoring my pussy just makes me so wet and happy, I’m so excited we’re going to finally do it. We decided that we’ll ignore it completely, including my clit, and I can only cum from anal. (Which I can do easily, thank god!) This is going to be a great month (and hopefully more)!

That’s awesome, thanks for sharing! It’s great that you’re both into it and want to try it—you’re both going to be in for a great time! I definitely encourage just sticking with it and staying anal only if you’re still enjoying it and having a good time at the end of the month.

Keep us updated!

Anonymous: I want to do Anal only November but I don’t know a lot about anal prep. Like I know how anal works and have done it before but I would like to know what you think all the steps of prep should be.

I highly recommend participating in No Pussy November!

Everyone has different needs and preferences for preparation before anal. Some will want to clean out beforehand, others don’t much need to, as the rectum is generally empty except right before going to the bathroom. If you plan to, I recommend just using a small amount of warm water to only flush any residue out of the rectum and not get the water deeper into the colon. Repeat a couple times with just a small bit of water. It should only take several minutes. If you use more water and get into deeper enema territory, you risk causing a bigger mess rather than just cleaning up a little bit.

As for warmup, wearing a butt plug for a while before having sex can be an excellent and enjoyable way to do so, especially if you already have anal experience. A bit of dildoing can do the trick as well. If you’re less experienced, you may want to work through more of a gradient from something small like a single finger, then add fingers as you feel comfortable doing so, working up through the sizes.

If you have any other or more specific questions, feel free to ask!