Anonymous: I actually have a couple questions if you don’t mind 🙂 Q1. I’m looking to stretch my hole and create a cute little gape, how do you suggest going about this? I know to use plugs but I’m not sure how many times and for how long! Q2. My Master and I are thinking about participating in AO August, however, we haven’t done much sexually in quite some time. I’m craving it but not sure if I could handle a whole month. Some tips? Thank you! 🙂

1. A gape is something that becomes possible as you gain greater muscle control and can relax at will, generally in combination with recent anal sex or play to help temporarily relax the other involuntary muscles around that area. Just keep training with plugs and dildos as regularly as is appealing to you. Wearing a plug while you walk around and do other things can really help develop muscle control as you retain it and keep it inside you. It’s up to you and your body how long you keep one in per “session”. Do it for as long as it’s comfortable or you are otherwise able, then take it out and put it back in at a later time. Over time, the duration you can comfortably wear a plug will increase. You also, of course, want to make sure you have a plug that’s comfortable to wear for longer than a few minutes and which stays inside easily and comfortably without wanting to pop out all the time. As you stick with this, gradually increasing the size you can fit, you’ll be able to relax more easily, and as you can do that, you’ll find yourself able to gape your ass.

2. Anal August doesn’t have to be a whole month of anal. It can serve as a first introduction to anal only of whatever length works for you. If you’re worried about a whole month, try a week or two. (And you could of course continue after that if you wanted.) Anal August is something that’s been around for a few years now, unrelated to and before this blog existed, and isn’t strictly Anal Only-specific. If you end up enjoying whatever duration of anal only you try and then want to go for a full month, keep an eye out for announcements later this year for the third annual No Pussy November, an actual full month anal only challenge. (Or try it on your own anytime!)

Hope that was helpful in some way, and feel free to ask more if you have any other questions.

kinkymilf4u: I’m practicing anal only August!! I cannot wait for the festivities to commence tonight 🙂

Excellent! I’m sure you’ll have an amazing month.

sillysexystupid: My butt always feels so empty after plug time is over. I’m barely on day 5 of Butt Month, but having something inside my ass feels like my new normal.

That’s the idea. Before long it may be all you want, and if you do it right, you might even learn to need something in your ass in order to cum.

Anonymous: Is butt month the blushy success it seemed it would be? Has your cunt received any attention at all?

sillysexystupid: I haven’t touched my cunt at all & it’s driving me craaaaazy ._.

How likely do you think it will be that it will be extended indefinitely at the end of the month, or resumed after a short break? Because, really, once you’ve made it a month anal only, why stop? By that point many women realize that their pussy and clit aren’t necessary and they can and should just keep using their butt instead?

lilbit39232: One more day of “Anal Only April”…tomorrow I get pussy sex again and I can’t wait. I do admit that I do love anal sex way more now than I used too…after 30 straight days of anal only (at least 3 times a day)…my ass will NEVER be the same, and I love it.

I can virtually guarantee that now you’ve had a taste of it, a few months (or less) will go by and you’ll find yourself beginning to crave the idea of another month of anal only. You might go back and forth with it for a while, then try a longer period of several months. Eventually, your interest in vaginal sex will diminish and you’ll want to become fully anal only.

Anonymous: My question is simple. My girlfriend adores anal and I absolutely love it. But most of the time we have vaginal sex, or at least we do that first. Its fantastic sex but I’m interested in trying AO, How should someone bring up the subject of becoming an anal only couple?

Sorry for the long delay in answering.

First off, you are in a great position where you both like anal. Secondly the fact that you are interested in trying anal only suggests you aren’t fully satisfied with where you both are with your sex life. This is normal, as many guys are also ready to move on from vaginal to the more certain pleasures of anal.

You should start out by making sure anal sex is always the most positive experience you can make for her; any foreplay she likes; her favorite positions; play with her clit while you fuck to make sure she always has an orgasm. Stuff you can do outside of the bedroom also helps put her in the right mood.

Next you need to steer the sex towards anal as often as you can. Say “Do you mind if we go straight to your ass tonight?”, or whatever you think is most effective. Don’t push to hard, but make it your objective to have more anal than vaginal or skip vaginal when possible.

After a while you’ll need to start telling her her good her ass is, how hard it makes you cum. And that you’ve noticed how hard she cums too. Tell her how hot she looks during anal. Let her know how much of a pleasure it is. It’s important that you both talk about it, and eventually you can start dropping hints like “I think I could be a happy man with anal alone”.

Only you will know when to finally drop the question. By this point it shouldn’t come as much f a surprise to her. But remember, you need to frame it in terms of what you do together, as a couple. Always us “we” and not “I” when proposing going anal only. Remind her of the better and more exciting times you have with anal compared to vaginal. Tell her it would be something new to try together. It’s an adventure, something to share.

Sometimes you won’t even have to ask. If you can gradually increase the frequency of anal while always reducing vaginal you may both transition naturally, without even noticing.

Anonymous: I’ve been really excited about the change over to anal only! My boyfriend and I have been playing with it off and on, but I finally agreed to my first full month. No penetration in my pussy, no clitoral stimulation. I really like being dominated so he’s told me I won’t be allowed to cum unless I can do it while he’s fucking my ass. Fingers crossed and wish me luck!

Good luck! Sounds like the two of you will be in for a lot of fun.

deep-and-lovely: I didn’t make a post before because I wasn’t sure I wanted to do this in March, but I’ve finally made up my mind, and i’m in.

I will have the assistance of naughtyowen to keep track of my progress and establish rewards/penalties for playing with my butt only, and staying away from my pussy and clit.

Why am I doing this? As a personal challenge. I don’t intend to give up my clit forever, but the idea of being anal-only excluding clit play completely is kinda hot. At least in theory :D. Also, I have read that some women can have orgasms this way, and it would be amazing if I could learn how to do that. It may not work for me, but I should try at least, right? 😛

Anonymous: I’m trying to get my wife to go anal only. Not only does it look and feel better but being effective birth control will be a good reason for her too. We are about 50/50 right now and if she agrees whats the best way to go about it? Should we work up to replacing her pussy slowy? I’ve seen you recommend weeks/months anal only at a time, but isn’t it better to have a gradual change? While I’m at it I have to say I love this blog and the sister site! Keep it up!

A gradual change is good for working up to the point where someone is open to the idea. Spending a month anal only as a trial period is a good way to dive in and for all involved to see what’s really going to be involved by doing so.

Ultimately it should be up to the both of you. If you both think that working up to it, slowly increasing the frequency of anal and decreasing vaginal over time, will work better for you, by all means give it a shot. Many people have reported success with a full anal only trial period, but it’s not guaranteed to be the best approach for everyone.

Anonymous: My wife and I will probably never be anal only, but the thoughtful and helpful suggestions you’ve given through this blog has allowed us to incorporate anal into our love life on a consistent basis! It has improved our lovemaking and made for an overall more intimate and caring experience. We may even try No Pussy November!

I’m glad to hear it! Most who enjoy and practice anal sex find it to be more intimate, it seems. And you never know, once you try going anal only for a while, you might find that there isn’t as much keeping you doing vaginal as you thought!