daddysanalkitten: Wow, this is so hot! I had no idea this was a thing. I have loved anal sex since I was 15. I am 35 now. My boyfriend and I are going to try this for a month thanks to your blog! 🙂

Glad to hear it! I recommend everyone who loves anal to try being anally exclusive for a while. Many people find they don’t actually need vaginal sex and anal can provide all the sexual satisfaction they need, and they get off on the idea of being anal only. Good luck with your month of experimentation! Once you’ve done it for a month, don’t be surprised if you don’t want to go back to vaginal!

I’ve read your questions regarding your boyfriends request to go anal only with you and felt compelled to also give my own response, for what it’s worth…

You say  you are looking for reasons to feel positive. I think this is positive in itself as you’ve not turned him down out of hand but are seeking out answers to all these questions that have naturally arisen.

I really believe the first reaction from women is surprise. They’ve not heard of such a lifestyle, have been unfairly and unjustly primed to feel negatively, and to question their femininity. Rest assured he cares for you just as much as ever. He doesn’t dislike your vagina, instead he simply feels very passionate about your ass! The truth is, if you can accept it, that a large proportion of men need to express sex and love anally. It’s normal, and far from any rejection it’s a healthy sign of how much he desires you!

Think about the bold and brave step he has taken by approaching you with this. He’s reaching out to you. I don’t think that can ever be easy. Given that, I feel that you owe him a chance at least. In your own words you claim to be slightly sub and have strong O’s through anal. Even better! You have a good chance of making this work, and after a few weeks when you gotten used to regular anal sex you’ll probably be able to then focus on the positive aspects. Increased intimacy for one, and as he’ll no longer be faking desire and finally be having the sex he likes your relationship will grow even stronger.

But be prepared to be patient and give this a real chance. You may not know straight away and you don’t have to commit to anything. Think very carefully and ask yourself, is your vagina really essential to a happy sex life? Honestly? What would you miss by being anal only and weigh that against what you’d both gain. Keep that open mind as there is no one right way to have sex as part of a loving couple.

Anonymous: Anon female from 12/12 here. TY for feedback. I only ask as most of the information here is practical stuff, not why men are so motivated. Trying to keep an open mind, as he says being strictly anal will become easier and he keeps saying it will be better for both of us. He also says its normal and many couples are now doing this. It’s true I have strong orgasms with anal, but I’m not so sure yet. Perhaps I could give it a trial run as you suggest. Just need reasons to feel positive.

While it’s certainly not extremely widespread, it is becoming more common—or at least, more people are being open about it—in recent years. The majority do it for mutual advantage: they both get pleasure from it, and may enjoy the kinkiness aspect of being anal only as well. For me personally it is both a physical preference for anal sex and the appeal of the kink of a woman choosing to exclude her vagina from sex and just use her ass and mouth instead. That’s a huge turn on for me, but a major part of that is that it’s what the woman truly wants.

At the beginning, of course, no one knows whether they want it or not, because they haven’t experienced it yet. That’s what the trial periods are for—experimenting and seeing what you think. If you end up liking it, great. If not, you gave it a fair shot and might revisit it again in the future to see if you change your mind, or just decide it’s not for you and move on.

Anonymous: my girlfriend really enjoys anal, we have more anal than vaginal, but i don’t know how to ask her if she wants to becoming anal only. any advice?

Bring up how it’s becoming a thing that some couples are trying and ask if she’d be up for trying it for, say, a week to start. If she liked that week, try it again another time, maybe for the same amount of time or maybe for longer. Then see where it goes from there and if you both find yourself looking forward to the periods of anal only, suggest going full time.

Anonymous: I just wanted to say that my boyfriend and I are now officially anal only! 🙂 As a fun little experiment we’ve be doing No Pussy November, and we just talked it over and have decided that we won’t be going back. I am so so happy with our decision. I haven’t been able to have an anal orgasm yet, but I have a feeling that will change once November ends and clit stimulation is allowed again, since we were being very literally about the “No Pussy” thing. I can’t wait for my next orgasm to be anal!

Congratulations! It’s amazing how many people discover how much better anal is if they go a month without vaginal, and quite often they make the same decision you have. It’s the best way to be.

Regarding clitoral stimulation and anal orgasms, if you feel the need to go back to it after, by all means do so, but if you’d like to keep pursuing pure anal only orgasms, why not try going without your clit for a while still and see where it takes you? Sometimes it can take more than a month to figure out how to do that.

philamoxie: I would love to get fucked in my tight ass all day, EVERYDAY, but my cunt is just soooooo hungry and greedy and NEEDS to be filled. How do I make my pussy stop aching for cock and cum?

Gradual practice. Start with a short period of several days where you’ll have an opportunity to get lots of anal sex and don’t have any vaginal sex at all during that period. Repeat that several times when you get the chance, then bump it up to a full week sometime. Eventually try for a whole month, and if you can make it through that there’s a good chance you can go longer.

No Pussy November, coming up in a couple weeks, is the perfect time to start experimenting with this.

It’s that time of year again. No Pussy November is coming up next month, and if you haven’t already, it’s time to start making plans with your partner for how you’re going to celebrate this vagina-free, anal only month. If you’ve been interested in the idea of going anal only, here’s your chance!

secretlaurie: I will be back, I promise. I am going on vacation and will not have access to a computer at all. I will tell you all if anything fun happens. My husband and I did discuss that he is only going to use my ass this vacation. No pussy, just ass. I am kindof excited…

Here are ways make anal sex pleasurable for both you and your partner.

August is anal sex month, so I’ve put together some tips for how to try it without any pain and, possibly, find it orgasmic.

I’ll summarize the tips below and you can go to the full article to read the details of each.

1. If you can’t see it happening, it will never happen.
2. You must know your own body.
3. Make sure you lubricate!
4. Use a condom for all anal sex.
5. Women in porn often stimulate their clitoris during anal play.
6. Use your fingers or a small anal toy, like the Bendi Butt Plug, to warm up for anal sex.
7. As Jayme Waxman said on Better Sex Radio, porn stars are sexual athletes.
8. Women should use her muscles to push as she moves onto the penis.

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Anonymous: Have you had an anal only weekend yet? I noticed about 4 months ago you mentioned you’d need some frequent anal attention to do it. Just wondering if it’s been attempted by you yet.

thepublicproperty: I will do it on my South America trip next month. In fact, I will start the trip anal and bj only, and keep it that way as long as I can.