Samantha: I recently heard of “anal only”. I find sexual psychology very interesting and I was browsing around trying to understand why anyone on planet earth would ever want to have anal sex, especially anal only. what goes through someone’s mind when they decide to use the anus for sex?
Thanks for the question! The anus contains a high concentration of nerve endings that feel really good when stimulated, the sensation of being filled is greater with anal, and it’s possible to orgasm easily from penetration alone without clitoral stimulation from anal. It’s also natural birth control, which is a great advantage!
For men, it’s tighter, it’s not self lubricating so there isn’t an issue with loss of sensation like happens often with vaginal, it’s got more of a grippy feeling, and it has a greater feeling of intimacy and being primally and naturally the right thing to be doing.
It’s also just sexy to reject the reproductive-centric norm of vaginal sex and replace it with pure anal.
Unfortunately, there is still a stigma and a lot of prejudice related to anal and people who choose to make it a part of their lifestyle or those who simply prefer it over other types of intercourse. On this sub we have seen a lot of posts from people who have had a bad experience sharing their desires and choices with others.
This post is different though, I want to share some positive situations, and hear your stories too.
Starting off with a simple one but very important for me. I once met a guy, we went on a few dates and eventually things started getting closer to the bedroom. I decided it would be better to just say upfront that I am AO. I expected the worst, but he was very mature and respectful about it. He wasn’t into anal at all, he didn’t even want to try it but at the same time he made me feel accepted. He didn’t try to force or preasure me into doing something I didn’t want, he didn’t mock me or anything, we just had different desires and it was comepletely ok. We still talk from time to time.
Another one happened between me and a female work colegue. She dropped by at my house to collect some documents. I wasn’t prepared for it she called me like 2min before knocking on my door. I asked her to come inside, and from the hallway she could see my kitchen. There was a towel with four freshly cleaned, butt plugs drying out right on my kitchen table. I live alone and hardly ever have unexpected guests so I completely forgot about it. You can imagine how embarrased I was when she noticed it. Fortunately, she just laughed it off and said that she also like it up her butt from time to time. We occasionaly have joke about it but it’s light hearted and we also had few chill conversations about anal where we shared our experiences.
The day is here and the 10th Annual No Pussy November has officially arrived! Join us in celebrating by adopting the anal only lifestyle and giving up vaginal sex completely for the month of November.
If you’re new to the anal only lifestyle and you want to give it a try, this is a great time and way to do it! Talk with your partner now in advance of November and make sure you’re both on board with the idea, or if you’re single and want to try it with toys, get yourself to the point where you’re comfortable with anal masturbation on a regular basis—at least 3 to 5 times a week, if not every day.
If you’re already anal only, there are plenty of other things that you can try as a No Pussy November challenge this year!
If you still use clitoral stimulation, you can challenge yourself to stop and focus purely on anal pleasure and anal orgasms. The more you go without your clit and rely on anal only to orgasm, the easier anal orgasms get!
If you aren’t wearing a butt plug regularly, you can challenge yourself to wear one at some increased interval, or to spend the entire month plugged as often as possible. If you want to reach the latter goal but aren’t quite there yet, you could work yourself up to that point over the course of the month.
You can challenge yourself to make ass to mouth a regular part of your sex life, normalizing it by doing it every time you have sex this November.
You can start to introduce double anal to your sex life, either through play with two dildos, a partner and a dildo, or two partners.
Along the lines of that latter idea, for those who are particularly interested or experienced with double anal, we’re continuing our official advanced challenge this year as well: Double Anal Only November, where those who want to or are able to masturbate regularly with two dildos in their ass or have double anal sex regularly spend the entire month only having double anal sex every time they have sex. Naturally, this may be somewhat limited to people who have multiple partners who want to have double anal with them, but you can also participate by always using a toy along with their partner to achieve double anal, or by masturbating with a minimum of two toys in your ass at a time.
Hanna: I’m Anal Only almost 10 years and happily married with my husband 7 years. He supports me in my passion in every way. We sometimes watch anal-centric porn movies and I really like to see a good action. This includes a nice, big, round anal gape. We are regularly having anal sex but I never was capable of showing such a gape like in the movies even though I am relaxed and pretty good stretched. What can I do to surprise my husband with such a nice big round anal gape myself? Any advices?
Congratulations on 10 years of anal only! How regularly do you have anal sex? If you can do it more often, that can help somewhat. Wearing a butt plug that has a thick neck can also help with more stretching.
You can also practice more anal muscle exercises to relax and control them more easily and practice spreading and holding open your anus after he pulls out which can help more with anal gaping.
Jess: If my husband doesn’t want to have anal sex due to religious beliefs and only wants vaginal sex, would anal sex with another partner be cheating if we only do anal and not vaginal sex? Vaginal sex will only be for him and my ass for play. I think as long as I maintain the vagina just for him, then I am not really cheating since he doesn’t want anal, right?
This depends entirely on your relationship and dynamic with your husband. Most people consider cheating to be any sexual or romantic activity with another partner without everyone agreeing that you aren’t monogamous.
If your husband agrees to let you be anal only with another partner, then it’s not cheating.
I’d encourage moving past vaginal sex entirely and going fully anal only, even if that means not having sex with your husband anymore. Perhaps he would agree to go oral only instead, where you simply give him blowjobs but he doesn’t use your vagina?
I’m about 7 months, and doc says sex is fine, no health issues etc. The issue I’m having is my partner’s uncomfortable with doing it this late and my libido is insanely high. Due to my size and lack of grace, solo play is very awkward, and the real thing is better than rubber. I’d love advice on how to allay his fears. I’m due in 10 weeks, and after that, there won’t be much going on in the bedroom for a couple months. I really want to get it while I still can.
Jess: Does an anal creampie allow your body to absorb more testosterone via the colon? I have low libido since starting menopause and I wanted to use a testosterone supplement or simply ask my doctor for testosterone prescription to help increase my libido, but I am intrigued that maybe I can do this the natural way and see if this method can raise my own levels. Any tips on this? I have been swallowing but doesn’t seem to be working, should I try retaining it in my colon? Has anyone tried this?
While I am not sure on the amount of testosterone in semen compared to other supplement sources, rectal absorption is a great proven way of getting other known benefits from semen and is also commonly used to administer drugs and supplements especially in cases where oral consumption may prevent it from being properly absorbed due to stomach acid breaking it down. Anal absorption also tends to work faster.
In addition to the potential benefits of semen absorption, you will likely find that your libido increases by eliminating any clitoral and vaginal stimulation and focusing purely on anal stimulation. This tends to be a massive arousal boost, especially with the exclusion of clitoral stimulation and orgasm and learning to orgasm from anal only, because you won’t get the loss of arousal post orgasm that comes with clit stimulation.
Ok, so here is the thing. My gf (got together around 6 Months ago) is very sexually sensitive. So when we got together she was a virgin. Of course at some point we had a romantic evening and started making each other horny (I had many sexual partners before her so I waited for her to be ready). We tried having sex very carefully but it still hurt her, so we did other things to orgasm. We tried desensitizing her by using fingers and even had vaginal sex once. But she is so sensitive that it is really hard for her to enjoy it and not find it painful. Then she suggested anal. We found out, that she can orgasm from just her ass. So I was on board and now we do the anal only lifestyle for three months. However, I found it weird… so I looked for other people with a similar situation. During my looking around I found the AOL scene. It was not hard to find as I already had an Anal fetish, but for me something is missing without vaginal sex (not to mention, that I really want children one day). So I ask, what do you think about my situation and how did you get into anal only?
Once thought of as a kinky, taboo act, ass to mouth has become fairly mainstream among practitioners of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. It’s still seen as something sexy and fun to do regularly, but it’s not a rare act—rather, it tends to happen throughout sex every time and a session can often be seen as lacking something if ass to mouth doesn’t occur!
While men commonly love and are turned on by this, it’s actually the women who prefer doing it and who often choose to make it a normal part of their routine. Performing oral sex immediately following anal sex builds intimacy and connection, boosts arousal and desire, keeps one in the mindset of anal sex and anal only, provides a natural source of lube, and it also just tastes really good. Contrary to popular belief, a clean asshole is very delicious and can taste sweet with a little spice.
So, if you haven’t tried ass to mouth yet, or if it’s not part of your daily routine yet, don’t you think it’s time you started?
I see a lot of posts on here about how people have partners to help them change their view on what their primary sex organ is. I’m single, so I don’t have anyone to help me in that area.
I used to do anal years ago and loved it, but due to some health issues I developed a hemorrhoid and stayed away from ass play for probably 8 years now. I’ve always wanted to go back to it, but I was worried about the pain and if the hemorrhoid would come back. Now I feel ready to start again. I’d like to buy some trainer plugs to start off with, any recommendations? I’d also prefer to be anal only by myself first and find a partner who never wants to fuck my pussy. I’d love to do clit denial too because I’ve always wanted to cum from penetrative sex. I already use orajel on my clit when I masturbate to train myself not to take pleasure from my clit. What is the best way to train my mind to see my ass as my primary sex organ and also be able to cum from anal?
