AubreyS: Hey! I went anal only with my husband in 2020 and we both really love it, we enjoy anal play a lot and have a really wonderful balance of him fucking my ass and me using dildos and strapons on him, and it’s really fulfilling. Neither of us miss vaginal sex at all!

But, we’d like to take it to the next level and stop clit stimulation for me too so I’m getting only anal stimulation and feel like we’re truly anal only. My husband wants this and finds it really arousing, but I honestly really want it too, the idea makes me super hot and I feel like my clit has held me back to some extent from true anal only.

I’ve been really addicted to my clit all my life, though, and giving it up is harder than expected. Do you have any advice?

Hey, that’s awesome that you have such a great anal only relationship together! I’m glad you’re committed to anal only and are ready to stop clit stimulation as well! There are a lot of benefits, including more intense pure anal orgasms and a total boost in desire when you eliminate the distraction and loss of arousal that clit stimulation brings.

I’d encourage trying a few different things:

• When you feel the urge to touch your clit, rub and finger your anus instead, clench down on a butt plug if you have one inside, or if riding a dildo or your husband’s penis, focus on the feeling inside your ass and thrust down deeper onto it. Really work on redirecting that clitoral arousal into an anal focus instead.
• Get and apply a topical anesthetic whenever masturbating or having sex so that even if you do touch your clit, you can’t stimulate it due to temporary lack of sensation. You can get mild anesthetics at most pharmacies over the counter, including Orajel and others intended for dental pain.
• Try taking it gradually. Giving up clit stimulation is more difficult for many women than giving up vaginal penetration, so this challenge is fairly common. See if you can get through a day without using your clit, then add another day. After a few days, try for a week. If you get through the week, see about going two weeks, or a whole month. Before you know it, you’ll have gone so long without it you won’t be as desperate for it, and you’ll have built up such a streak that you won’t want to go back. And if you do slip up, don’t feel too bad about it. It’s a part of the process oftentimes. Just jump right back in and keep going.
• If all else fails, you could consider a clit shield or chastity belt.

Good luck, and I’m sure before long you’ll be totally clit free and living the pure anal only life you want!

In an age where abortion is rapidly being banned in parts of the United States and even birth control is coming under threat, it simply no longer makes sense to consider the vagina as a source of primary non-procreative sexual activity and pleasure. Now, more than ever, going anal only is the logical move.

Anal sex provides greater pleasure and intimacy than vaginal, with a much higher rate of orgasm for women than vaginal penetration can provide (less than 1/3 of women orgasm from vaginal sex). It’s also more desirable and attractive to a growing number of people, with anal rising the ranks through the generations and it’s now one of the top three most popular porn categories among Gen Z.

Most relevant to this topic, however, is the fact that anal is natural birth control and you can’t get pregnant from it. With hormonal birth control at risk of being next on the chopping block, not to mention all the negative side effects that can come from their use regardless, having vaginal sex is just too risky at this point if you aren’t actively trying to get pregnant. Going anal only provides increased sexual enjoyment and satisfaction with less pregnancy risk.

So, we should all recognize the vagina as being just the birth canal and not a primary sexual organ for the non-procreative sex that is the norm for almost everyone these days. Let’s move past vaginal sex for pure anal only!

Anonymous: Hi! I’ve been following this blog for a long time (I hope you’re still active!), and I’ve been anal only with my current and previous boyfriend for a few years now. I love it and so does my boyfriend, and I really like the idea of encouraging my friends to do it too! I’m not sure how to really bring it up, though, do you have any suggestions?

I’m glad being anal only has been such a positive experience for you that you want to share it with others! If your friends are more sexually open minded and you talk about sex on some level with them already, wait for one of those moments talking about your sex lives or what you like and bring up that you and your boyfriend are anal only and that you really love anal and prefer it to vaginal, and if they show any interest or curiosity encourage them to try it out as well. That’s probably the easiest approach!

I’ve been pretty inactive for a lot of life reasons but I have some awesome updates!

1) we’re married!! Yay!! So happy to finally be a Wife.

2) I’ve graduated! Also yay!! I do have a job for now at an awesome company working a helpful role for a very traditional boss. He has been a wonderful mentor so far.

3) I was originally planning on losing my virginity when my wedding was consummated, but since we both want kids we did some fertility testing before the wedding. It turns out I’m unlikely to conceive from sex, and would need to do artificial insemination anyway. After some talking, my husband had decided I will stay anal only and a Virgin! 😱

4) my husband has decided we will pursue treatments and try to get me pregnant this year! we are doing lots of research on pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, working vs staying home to figure out what the best options are for me and my particular situation. I’m so lucky to have him.

I’m overwhelmed but excited by all the changes. It was a huge relief and turn-on to have my husband completely ignore my pussy on our wedding night; I’ve cum extremely sparingly the last year or so but I’m wet everyday.  I’ve never felt more happy and devoted. ☺️ 

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Anonymous: Hi! I am curious about combining the anal only lifestyle with being a bisexual woman. If a woman never touches her pussy nor lets it be touched when she is having sex with men, would the same apply to women? Otherwise, what sort of sexual activity would be recommended among women who want to keep the anal only lifestyle?

Ultimately it’s up to you, of course. Some anal only women allow non-penetrative vaginal/clitoral play but exclude vaginal for intercourse. Some are more strict. If you don’t touch your pussy and don’t want it to be touched, however, then I would say the same should go with female partners. Just do rimming, anal fingering, plugging and anal dildo play together and keep things purely anal only!

First, I want to say that I and this blog fully support women’s reproductive rights and I stand in firm opposition to efforts to remove the right to abortion and reproductive freedom in general. For anyone who thinks this is the only target, it’s not: access to contraception, LGBTQ rights, and more are the next target and we need to all prepare for a long fight for all our rights and freedom. Attempts to restore “anti-sodomy” laws is likely coming as well, trying to make non-reproductive sex illegal.

With that being said, I expect there will be an influx of people here who are looking for safe alternatives to enjoy sex without the risk of pregnancy, and the anal only lifestyle is still an excellent choice which provides pleasure, intimacy, passion and sexual freedom combined with excellent natural birth control.

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask, and be sure to check out our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle as well.

In a time of crisis and regression, the anal only lifestyle can provide sexual freedom and equality for women, and the act of going anal only can also serve as a form of protest.

Anonymous: Hi! Idk how many years I’ve been AO, but it’s been a long time. I always prioritize my personal hygiene, including waxing which is a better alternative for me since it’s more effective. I never used my front part, thus not shaving or waxing my front part since i don’t bother using it, Idk if I’m the only girl who feel this way, ofc I always practice waxing for my own leisure, not for anybody else.

Some anal only women choose to remove hair from their vulva even though they don’t use it, because they prefer how it looks or feels. Others choose to wax or shave everything else but keep their vulva hairy as a symbol of its lack of use. Both can be excellent options, depending on your personal preferences. What’s really important is not using your vagina and being anal only.

Hello everybody, I have noticed in several comments and chats that many people of the anal only community believe that to have children we must have vaginal sex, yes we keep our pussy for reproductive purposes and the ass for sex and pleasure, but there is another option that I decided to share here.

You can have anal sex and penetrate the pussy just to cum inside if you want to have children but this is not recommended because of the vaginal infections that can cause taking something from your ass to your pussy.

The better option is artificial insemination, you can go to a doctor for this but since it is not for fertility problems there is a simpler option, buy an insemination kit that is usually sold in pharmacies and do it yourself, the kits are simply sterile containers for the semen, a sterile syringe and some tube or utensil to penetrate the pussy and place the semen deep within it or directly into the uterus (a penetration much smaller than a cock)

This for example:
https://gyazo.com/da02c3eb1bcec4b692ff34513aa3931f
https://gyazo.com/cf14a9bbf433466524c148b98b09ea76

I think it’s a good option for those anal only couples who want to have children and keep the pussy unfucked and closed, they can also opt for a cesarean on the moment of birth.

I know that not everyone here wants to have children or that they are single or already have children, I dont want children but in the future if I want, I will use this option, it seems useful to me as anal only woman, I hope it will be useful to you too, in the present or the future.
Greetings, good luck and have lots of anal sex

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Edson: Hello, I am a 25-year-old man and my girlfriend is 23 years old, we have been in a relationship for 2 years and we both have something in common that is why we get closer: we both do not want to have children, we both want to have a comfortable life without children and economically stable. She has many friends and several have become pregnant at such an early age and some with boys who do not want to start a family. I always liked anal sex a lot and I always had the fantasy of having a relationship only anal but I did not know if my girlfriend would like that. She and I for the first 6 months of our relationship she sucked my dick and we had vaginal sex until one day her menstrual period was late in coming and she was scared of being pregnant and what would happen to her like her friends. I told her that I would support her and that I was not going to leave her but she was worried, obviously I would not leave her but I was still scared. The days went by and her period came and we were relieved that she did not get pregnant.

The days began to pass but she was distant with me she did not want to have sex. After several days she told me that she did want to have sex with me but she did not want to go back to the same thing of being worried and that’s when I talked to her and told her that I will tell her something very personal and I told her my fantasy of anal sex and that I would like to have only anal and oral sex. She said that we could try it, I told her that I had never had anal sex with a girl and I was afraid to tell her why she could say no but i was really excited to do it.

She said she hadn’t had anal sex either.

The first day we started having anal sex, I put a lot of lubricant in her anus and put my fingers in her, she sucked my cock and when I was very excited I began to penetrate her anus until I ejaculated on her buttocks. I asked her what it was like and she told me that it was fine, gave me a kiss and went to bathe. We spent the next 3 days having anal sex and my girlfriend liked it more and more because she did it with more intensity and I love it because it is tighter for my penis and I love the visual. A week later she and I were in the cowgirl position with her riding on my penis with her anus and I ejaculated on her breasts.

And later when we were in the car because we were going to the bar with some of her friends, she told me, it seems that we both win with anal, you want me to suck your dick and bounce with my anus on your dick until you leave it full and I win that I can have sex without worrying about getting pregnant.

We have been like this for 18 months and we are both very happy.

That’s really wonderful, I’m so glad that the two of you realized the advantage of switching to anal only for natural birth control without needing the fear of pregnancy from vaginal sex. Anal is better in more ways than just that, of course, but the fact that it’s sex purely for pleasure without reproduction is why it should be the default way of having sex for everyone and vaginal only for getting pregnant.

At this point, a majority of porn and interest in porn is anal. Porn producers like AnalVids (formerly LegalPorno) have very popular series like their 0% Pussy category which focuses on exclusively anal and oral sex, and other studios have shifted to primarily or exclusively anal as well. More recently, the “Anal Only” studio has gained popularity and while they’ve occasionally included vaginal for reasons that are completely baffling, they have a huge following due to the prominent focus of vaginal abandonment and mostly anal only.

It’s time to move past vaginal sex in porn completely, recognize the great value that porn provides as an influence for people’s sexual behavior, and use that influence to help shift the world away from vaginal sex and to anal only in their own lives.

Anal Is Already Among the Most Popular Porn

When looking at popular porn categories, anal is almost always one of if not the most popular, and vaginal porn the least popular. This makes sense since people often seek porn as an alternative to what they’re getting, and most people who aren’t yet having anal sex are very interested in it and turned on by it. Very few people seek vaginal as a fantasy.

Data Shows Vaginal Gets Skipped

When looking at porn websites that track viewing statistics within the scenes themselves, scenes which contain both vaginal and anal and follow an outdated formula of oral –> vaginal –> anal have a high percentage of skipping over the vaginal portion to watch the anal directly. Why waste time and money filming an act people literally don’t want to see?

Porn Stars Prefer Anal

Talk to porn stars and the reality is that most of them prefer anal. It feels better, makes them feel sluttier and sexier, and their assholes are just more resilient and can handle more hard and deep fucking. Most can’t handle frequent vaginal sex but can easily spend the day doing double anal nonstop.

So, let’s put an end to vaginal sex in porn and start making what the world wants and needs: 100% anal only porn that goes straight to the butt.