Anonymous: Do you have any recommendations for butt plugs that have a wide neck? I don’t feel like any of my plugs stretch me out as much as they could. I did find some but they come in a set and are expensive when I would only use the bigger ones.
How wide is wide? The Tantus A-Bomb has a fairly wide neck. Tantus Tex is even wider, but the main plug is huge at 3″ diameter. Various glass plugs places like Amazon are available with wider necks.
naughtywhore12: Maybe my Valentine’s Day gift to myself will be a month of strictly anal only play and complete pussy denial
Anonymous: I was wondering if you know anything about extended plug use? Like always wearing one to sleep and wearing one during the day. I enjoy it but I was wondering if there are any negatives?
If it’s comfortable for you and doesn’t start to hurt, there are no negatives. Wear it for as long as you like. It’s not going to make you gape open permanently or be loose long term. If it starts to hurt, however, or feels like it’s cutting off circulation in any way, take it out for a while and try again after a break.
ditzystella: hello! so i am wondering if a little tiny nick in the metal is ok for my princess plug? still safe to use as far as you know? thanks! your friendly neighborhood anal only bimbo slut
It depends on the nick—if it’s sharp or rough in any way, I wouldn’t use it as-is, because you don’t want to cut or irritate yourself with it. If it’s something you can feel but doesn’t really catch your finger as you rub it over from any angle, it’s probably fine.
deniedbydaddy: My dom and I are thinking of trying anal and possibly anal only. I’m getting my first butt plug today and I was wondering if you had any tips or advice? Also, can you fart? No one ever talks about that part. Love your blog thanks!
Firstly, good luck and enjoy your explorations with anal and AO!
I would generally only suggest silicone, glass or metal plugs. Lower grade materials can be cheaper, but usually are not as safe to use or may cause irritation and discomfort. Note that silicone toys usually cannot be used with silicone lubricant.
Don’t go too small or too big for your first plug—something with the widest part not much bigger than the neck will make it uncomfortable to keep in for long and hard to retain without it wanting to slip out all the time. If you’ve done anal play with fingers or other toys, you can probably get a good idea of what size you can comfortably fit based off that experience, and go for a plug around that size or a bit larger.
Yes, you can still pass gas with a plug in. Some plugs are designed specifically to make this easier, but that isn’t strictly necessary. Pressing on the plug, or sitting down with it, can release some of its sealing effect if necessary.
Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been interested into trying a month of anal only to see how it goes and we have been taking it slow to make sure I don’t get hurt and he doesn’t hurt himself either but we have run into an issue. Because of taking it slow he has an issue with staying hard enough (we really haven’t done anal much so he has to be 100% hard to get it in) and then I get turned off bc I feel like it’s my fault any advice?
Only go as slowly as you need to. If you’re fine and it isn’t hurting, you can try to go faster. You don’t need to go slowly just for the sake of going slowly, you should just listen to your body and what it needs, and go slowly when necessary but not when you’re fine. You can also warm up with some solo play and by wearing a butt plug before having sex so you’re more ready from the start.
Anonymous: I cant get butt plugs but love anal stimulation, what can i use?
Fingers are always a good option that many people have available with them at all times. Make sure your nails are trimmed and filed to avoid any rough edges. Some hairbrush handles, if there’s nothing sharp or rough or pointy, can work as impromptu household anal toys. Some people work up to small plastic bottles, etc. Don’t use anything glass that isn’t designed to be a sex toy, don’t use anything potentially sharp, and don’t use anything that could get easily lost inside like a ball or anything of the sort. Anal toys have a flared base for a reason, so you can’t get them stuck inside. Good luck and enjoy!
kinkyplaymate22: When starting to try out anal sex, I’ve been wearing plugs here and there. Last night we were successful. Yay! Lots of fun! But I was wondering do you take a few days in-between and start again or go for a couple days then take a break?
Yay indeed! You’ll have to play it by ear and see what works best for you. If you’re getting sore and it’s noticeably uncomfortable, then take a break. If everything’s still great and you feel fine, keep going.
Anonymous: my daddy gave me my first plug for Christmas today, yay!
Congratulations, and merry Christmas! I think butt plugs make for excellent gifts for any holiday and occasion, for a partner or even a close friend. The utilitarian value is one part of it, and a great way to start introducing someone to anal pleasure.
But it’s more than just that, and with so many aesthetically beautiful plugs out there these days as well, they really can and should be seen as a form of jewelry as well.
Anonymous: I want to start doing anal, what do you recommend to train my butt? I want to walk around all day with a butt plug
Start by fingering your ass regularly when you masturbate. When you can fit a few fingers in, upgrade to a butt plug. Try something like the Tantus Ryder or something of a similar size (1.5″ max diameter) for your first plug. Wear it while masturbating, and for as long as it’s comfortable, then take it out, and try for longer the next time. Keep repeating this, gradually increasing how long you can keep it in, and you’ll get more and more comfortable with it long term. Try to incorporate some dildo play into the mix as well too, and as you get able to fit things the size of penises in your solo play with no pain or discomfort, you’ll probably be ready to move to having anal with a guy.