Anonymous: What are the best plugs for training your ass for every day use? I’d like to start training my ass but I’m not sure which plugs to purchase. Thank you ❤️ love your blog

There aren’t really any “best” plugs, it all comes down to personal choice and what works best for you. I usually recommend training with fingers first, and once you can fit three fingers fairly easily, upgrading to a plug at that point—otherwise you’ll probably end up getting a plug that’s really small and both won’t stay in place very well and you’ll outgrow pretty quickly. Once you can fit three fingers, consider something in the 1.5″ maximum diameter range.

There are multiple quality options around this size, including but not limited to the Tantus Ryder, Doc Johnson Mood Naughty and the Implicit Creations Core Plug (these are all silicone plugs, but stainless steel and glass options can be very good as well—but they don’t have any give or flexibility to them, obviously, and so can sometimes be harder for beginners to get used to). Jeweled/”Princess” plugs are a popular first plug for a lot of people because they’re visually appealing, but a lot of people find that the round/sharp edged base can get uncomfortable after a while if you’re wearing them long term, and the neck is usually very narrow, so it doesn’t hold open the anal sphincter very much and isn’t as useful as a training plug.

I would avoid the super cheap options outside of silicone, glass or stainless steel. A lot of cheap sex toy materials aren’t very body safe and can smell bad and sometimes even cause a burning skin reaction, so it’s best to go with a good quality material from the start.

Once you have a plug, you may not be able to wear it long term just yet (or you might—everybody’s different). Start by wearing it when you masturbate. Then try keeping it in longer. If it starts to get too uncomfortable to keep in, take it out and try it longer the next time. Try sleeping with it in. The more you practice with it, the longer you’ll be able to comfortably fit it. If you go out with it in, you may want to carry a small bottle of lube with you to reapply if it starts to dry out/get absorbed and you need to add more.

Have fun and enjoy!

Anonymous: every time I put in a plug I get too horny and need to cum immediately. I wish to wear it for longer than 10 minutes. Is there anything I could do to make it last longer?

You can try keeping it in after you cum. Some people find that uncomfortable, but see how long you can keep it in after, and try pushing it more and more each time.

You can try edging without cumming to extend the time you keep it in.

You can just not cum even though you feel like you have to.

You can fuck your ass with a dildo for a while to relieve some of the horniness, then put the plug back in.

Anonymous: Do you have any advice for keeping butt plugs in longer?

As with most things anal, practice with gradual increases—in this case, increasing time rather than, say, size. Each time you have the plug in, try to see if you can keep it in a little longer than the time before. Sometimes it might get uncomfortable sooner, but on average try to keep pushing your limits a little bit. Masturbate with your plug in regularly. And also try sleeping with it in. That can be a good way to passively get used to it while you’re asleep. You may not make it through the night with it in at first and might have to remove it, but after a few times you should be able to keep it in.

reguara: I really enjoy anal sex. Not only the sex itself, but lube, fingers, plugs. I quite frequently reach orgasms with nothing but anal stimulation. Nevertheless, i find it kind of sad thinking my pussy will never taste a cock again. .

It sounds like trying anal only would be perfect for you. It doesn’t have to be a permanent commitment, and if it stops being fun for you at some point, then no one would be forcing you to continue, but more often than not people who already love anal and decide to try anal only for a few months end up wanting to stay that way, both because they still love it—maybe even more than before—and because they don’t want to quit after such a long streak of only getting fucked in the ass, which can be both rewarding and a real turn on. So it often becomes less of a feeling of sadness that your pussy won’t feel cock again and more a turn on knowing your ass will always feel cock instead.

I’d definitely suggest giving it a try for a while! No Pussy November is going on right now, and it’s the perfect opportunity to go anal only.

Anonymous: So I have never been fucked in the ass, but it really seems to turn on my bf. How do I ease into it? Should I buy plugs? The idea of wearing a fox tail butt plug gets me wet. Will this train me to take his cock in my ass?

Yes, plugs are a very useful way to start getting used to anal penetration. You might want to start with a finger or two first, then get a small/medium plug and start to wear it whenever you masturbate, and ramp up wearing it more frequently other times as well. Using a dildo to masturbate anally once you’ve used the plug for a while will also help, then once you feel ready, give it a try with your partner. Use lube, go slow, and pause to relax if it starts to hurt.

Anonymous: Anal Only September girl going to class wearing a butt plug for the first time today (because I crave my ass filled all the time these days…)! How exciting… should make a boring lecture far more entertaining!

That’s great! Hope it went well! I think you’ll find that craving will grow even more the more you plug your ass—fortunately, it’s a craving that’s easily satisfied and far better for you than many cravings!

Anonymous: I recently bought a vibrating butt plug and am having an extremely hard time inserting it. I have been having anal sex for years now (not solely) but I just seem to be having a lot of difficulty. I want to surprise my BF with it but I have to get it inserted first 🙂 Any suggestions?

Aside from the basics of being sure to use enough lube and gently but firmly inserting it while relaxing and “pushing out” as if going to the bathroom, perhaps it’s the shape or size which is causing difficulty? If it’s particularly long, for example, it could take a little getting used to given its likely rigidity for the length.

Try easing it in as far as it will go, then relaxing your ass as much as you can and pushing it in a little more and repeating until it’s either in or you can’t take it any more, in which case, let it slide back out partway, and try again. Usually going back and forth like this for a while will ultimately let you get it in, but if it doesn’t, don’t force it. Try again the next time, and over time you’ll get there.

Anonymous: I bought my first anal training set. I’m on the quest for the perfect gape

Good luck, and enjoy! Work up through the sizes and use them regularly, and you’ll reach your goal.

Anonymous: i think about getting my ass fucked 24/7 i play with it every day. when im at work with no plug in which dosent happen much i can still cum from just thinking about anal sex. im such an anal whore. i recently got a large jeweled plug and holy shit i love it. i use it before i fist my ass or use a big dildo. mmmmm it just makes my pussy leak so much

That sounds wonderful, almost as if you were destined to be anal only!

Anonymous: if i can ware a large butt plug and want to go bigger should i get 2 smaller plugs or get a diff one?

Get a larger plug. Wearing two smaller plugs at once isn’t going to be very comfortable long term, while a single large plug can be very comfortable once you’re used to it.