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boredlittlehousekeeper:

Step1 – Decide to commit to it. Don’t wonder why, just do it. Helps if someone is pushing you to do it, but I’m sure you can try it on your own.

Step2 – Deny all vaginal stimulation.

Step3 – Start with a plug in while you masturbate, repeat daily for a week. Every time you climax repeat loudly: “Oh god, I love it when you fuck my ass.”

Step4 – Increase the time wearing the plug in public by 15 minutes a day, every time you tighten your ass on the plug out in the world you’re training yourself, enjoy it. Tighten your ass every time you see a cute guy. Tighten it twice if you get eye contact. Get to wear you can enjoy it out in the world for at least two hours a day. Keep using the plug in public through the rest of the plan.

Step5 – Replace the plug with a dildo in your ass while you continue to masturbate daily. At first don’t move the dildo at all, just climax on it while you touch your clit and cry out as before.

Step6 – Begin moving the dildo while you masturbate. Use tons of lube. Keep touching your clit till you climax.

Step7 – Repeat Step6 many many many times.

Step8 – Begin decreasing the clit stimulation every time you get close to climaxing. Keep repeating: “Oh god, I love it when you fuck my ass.” Get yourself right to the edge and then stop with your fingers, push yourself over the edge with the dildo.

Step9 – Repeat Step8 until the fingers become secondary to the orgasm.

Step10 – Don’t forget to keep wearing the plug daily, the stronger your muscles are and the more control you have, the more likely you’ll be able to climax from anal only.

Good luck!

Anonymous: Hi, just wanted to thank you. Your blog inspired me to try anal, and after a few weeks of me fingering my asshole to your blog my boyfriend bought me a plug. After another week of stretching my ass we tried anal for the first time last night. By far the best sex I’ve ever had and it never would have happened without you, so thank you (from me and him)! I’m looking forward to hopefully having a wonderful anal-only future!

Congratulations to you both and I’m glad to have been an inspiration for such an enjoyable experience for the both of you! Good luck and keep enjoying it!

Anonymous: I love anal, but I’m new to it, and have some trouble getting past the fear of awkward accidents. I’m a bit fecal-phobic, and the idea of him getting any sort of” residue” terrifies me. I’d like to be able to do ATM sometimes. Any advice on prep?

First, accidents can happen and if you and a partner are engaging in anal play you should both be mature enough to accept that “risk” and recognize that it isn’t really that big of a deal in the event it does.

There are things you can do to mitigate the risk, however. Eating a balanced diet with a healthy amount of fiber does wonders to keep you fairly well cleaned out on its own. In general, the rectum does not hold any solid fecal matter except for when you feel the urge to use the restroom, and since most anal sex takes place entirely within the rectum, you’re mostly in the clear just from that. If you wanted to make sure even more, a quick anal douche shortly before you have sex just to rinse out the rectum would be fine. What you want to avoid when doing that is to have the water go too deep beyond the rectum where it can end up making more of a mess.

Along those lines, deeper enemas can be a possibility, but some people suggest they shouldn’t be done too often as they can over time lead to an imbalance in digestive bacteria, and they take a lot more time and effort to really get clean deeper. It’s also just generally unnecessary for most anal sex, but if you were wanting to engage in more extreme deep anal play then it would be a necessary preparation for most people.

You can always verify your cleanliness a little before you have sex by inserting a dildo, or even to a certain extent wearing a butt plug for 15 to 30 minutes prior to having sex.

legalanal: Hey, I’m french I, have 18 years.I have two question?N°1, I want to discover squirt my girlfriend. How I can do it squirt ? N°2, what are the benefits rosebud (buttplug) for my girlfriend ? I like your blog ?

A lot of other people have written excellent guides to squirting, and as it is not directly related to the theme of this blog, I’d suggest that you search for and read through multiple such guides.

There are multiple benefits of a butt plug. As a training tool, regular use can make it much easier to engage in anal sex. But it can also just be an enjoyable toy to use, providing additional pleasure from passive anal penetration during masturbation or other sexual stimulation.

I have just bought the Trinity Vibes 5 Piece Anal Trainer Set to start her anal training. Looking for advice on how to take this forward, this will be out first time I was thinking to make her wear each for 10 minutes a day for a few weeks is 10 min enough

You’ll probably want to approach it in a more flexible manner. Start with the smallest one and see how long she can comfortably wear it. If she gets comfortable with that one in, try going to the next size. You should only go up to the maximum size that feels comfortable each time, gradually working towards the next largest. Rather than having a set amount of time for each plug, do it for as long as it’s comfortable for her at the largest size she can fit at any given time, and just as long as it takes to adjust to each of the smaller. Definitely work through each size as part of each training session to warm her up for the larger ones, but as she progresses she’ll need less time at the smaller sizes.

hornylilly: i am gay. please guide me how i train my self as a bottom i mean how i train my ass hole. my ass hole is too tight

Same as anyone trains their ass: use lube, start small, and slowly work up in size. A finger is a good starting point, and over time you can add a few more fingers before going to something larger like a dildo or plug.

quietsilentlove: Thanks so much, I didn’t know about the push while I insert something so that’s a new bit of info. Also will the jewel plugs work too I keep reading mix reviews on them about long term wear. Or should I stick with a softer material? Or should I just buy one of the kits that has the three different sizes? And do you have a favorite lube you prefer?

Jeweled plugs can look sexy but are often not comfortable for long term use. They also have a very narrow neck, generally, so once they’re inside they’re not doing much to stretch and relax the anus itself. Perfectly fine to have one as a sexy accent, but I wouldn’t use it as a primary training tool. Some of the training kits can be fine, but I find that using fingers to train instead is easier and then invest in a good mid-sized plug instead that you’ll want to keep using for a long time.

Lube is a bit of a personal preference. There are plenty of good water-based lubes, silicone lube can be great but cannot be used with silicone toys, and coconut oil is popular with a lot of people.

Anonymous: I’ve always been interested in anal, I even bought plugs. However, I can never wear one for too long because I end up feeling dirty. Do you have any tips that could maybe help me be more dedicated?

Dirty in the sense of hygiene or feeling bad/ashamed?

If the former, go to the bathroom before and you’ll be okay most of the time.

If the latter, it can take some time to work through. Always tell yourself there’s absolutely nothing wrong with what you’re doing. It’s important to consciously believe this—but that’s often not enough, and people can still feel bad after doing certain things even if they enjoy it and don’t have any rational reason to feel that way. Being aroused tends to keep that feeling of doing something wrong away, and then there can be a crash after you orgasm where you feel shame, even if you have no reason to be ashamed about anything.

To start out, put in your plug and masturbate while wearing it. After you orgasm with it in, try to keep it in for as long after as you feel comfortable doing so. This may not be very much time at all at first, which is fine. The important thing is to try and keep pushing that limit. As you get further along with this, you’ll get more comfortable with having something in your ass in general.

Another alternative is to experiment a while with keeping yourself in a longer term state of arousal through either edging or ruined orgasms, neither of which give the same amount of crash as a normal orgasm. These aren’t necessarily for everyone, though, but may be useful in the short term just to provide you with a period of time to experiment with anal play while being more aroused and thus more open to it.

Anonymous: My bf loves to fuck my pussy. Should I anally service him more? Should I just beg for anal every time we have sex? Should I beg him to try my ass only for a fortnight? Please tell me how to be a better anal slut and help him appreciate my ass more.

Let him know that you’d enjoy having more anal. Communication is always a good start. You can suggest trying No Pussy November (coming up in just a week) with him. Wear butt plugs around him and when you have sex so he knows you like having something in your ass. Helping others appreciate the joys of the anal only lifestyle is a very positive thing!

It’s nearly that time of year again, so start making plans! If you already enjoy anal and going anal only is something you’ve thought sounded interesting but haven’t tried yet, this is the perfect opportunity to give it a one month trial run and see how it goes before making any bigger decision about it.

Those who are already anal only could choose some other variation on it, such as going the month without clitoral stimulation, or only edging clitorally with no orgasms unless they come from anal.

Those who do not yet have experience with anal can take the opportunity to train and practice over the course of the month with fingers and toys, working up in size until you’re ready for anal sex.

As always, feel free to ask any questions along the way or share your plans and progress!