Anonymous: Anal sex with the last few partners I’ve had have been dirty/messy experiences. When i look down and see it happening it’s about as big a turn off as they come for both parties. I love fucking a woman’s ass but I feel like the reality of anal sex is very different than the super clean porn we see online. Do you have any advice on this?

Anal in porn is alway preceded by anal douching if not full blown enemas. In reality, while most people will be mostly clean most of the time assuming a healthy diet, etc., there is always the possibility of encountering fecal matter unless also doing anal douching beforehand. Some people don’t want to encounter any sort of mess when having anal and so douche every time. If done correctly, just flushing out the rectum and nothing beyond, this can be very effective, but too much or too deep and it can create a greater mess as well as pose a potential health risk if done too deep too excessively due to creating an imbalance of good bacteria essential to the digestion process. So I highly recommend reading up on the pros and cons of doing such a thing.

Otherwise, healthy diet, go to the bathroom an hour to 30 minutes before, and insert a butt plug 30 to 15 minutes before—the last helps with warmup and “activates” the colon a little bit, which can help move anything close by along that might potentially cause a mess during sex.

Anonymous: Isn’t it so satisfying to have the large plug stuffed in your asshole? It’s like it immediately turns your cunt into a faucet! I love that feeling!

scaredfeminist: Haha yes that’s so true! Just a moment of discomfort shoving it in, and then my brain scrambles and my mouth waters and my cunt swells!! It’s amazing the effect it has. Honestly anal is more pleasurable than vaginal in many ways. It’s like vaginal was just pushed on us for puritanical purposes and anal is like the purest form of pleasure for everyone.

alexamindslave: i completely agree. ANAL is the purest form of pleasure. it is literally the best sex. you should ALWAYS masturbate with something inside you. if you keep doing it, you will eventually actually crave that moment of discomfort because your body and brain will know what pleasure is just about to happen.  i am so addicted to anal i keep something inside me almost all the time. sleeping. work. all. the. time. i literally cannot imagine going a day without something inside me. anal forever!

Anonymous: is bad to leave a plug inside my butt all day? (taking it out just for the obvious and lubing).

Not unless it hurts. If it hurts, you should take a break. Otherwise, you’re fine. It’s not going to cause any sort of permanent looseness or anything, but it could put pressure on nerves depending on how it’s shaped and what positions you’re sitting in, etc. Plenty of people do it without issue, though, so give it a try and see if it works for you. One plug might be uncomfortable all day while another might work just fine.

Anonymous: lately i have been having lots of anal sex but always its kinda awkward and painful at the begining so i have been thinking about buying an anal plug, any recommendations on how to pick one or other methods to keep my fuckhole loose?

Butt plugs are great, both for additional play and for training purposes. As with any sex toy, you want to get one that’s a body safe material. Silicone, stainless steel and glass are all good for this. I would generally recommend silicone starting out, but everyone has different preferences. Note that with silicone toys you generally cannot use silicone lube. The Tantus Ryder is a good small/medium plug to start with—about 1.5″ diameter at its maximum—and only about $20. It’s a good shape for longer term wear if that interests you, but it should work well as a warmup before sex as well. Over time you may want a larger plug as well, and there are plenty of different good options out there. Pretty much all Tantus products are great, but there are other good brands as well. Just stay away from the cheaper materials, especially jelly. They can cause adverse skin reactions or worse.

You don’t necessarily want to (and won’t) actually stay loose all the time, the key is training yourself to be able to relax at will, and then going through a warmup process beforehand each time to ensure you’re relaxed and ready for sex. For many, a butt plug worn for 15 to 30 minutes before sex, often during other foreplay, works great for that purpose.

Anonymous: Sitting with my pussy clamped shut and my butt plug in just scrolling endlessly through your blog. Best night I’ve had in a long time.

Excellent, I’m glad to hear it. Keep it up and have fun!

sillysexystupid: My butt always feels so empty after plug time is over. I’m barely on day 5 of Butt Month, but having something inside my ass feels like my new normal.

That’s the idea. Before long it may be all you want, and if you do it right, you might even learn to need something in your ass in order to cum.

Anonymous: I’ve always wanted to be a good anal only girl, but I’ve always been a little afraid of it! Thanks to your tumblr and all the advise and suggestions, I’ve decided to really dedicate myself to being a good butt slut! I’m wearing a plug right now and it feels great! I can hardly wait to take my husbands cock deep every night!

Excellent! Remember: the more you practice and train and prepare for it, the better the experience will be for the both of you. Wearing a butt plug on a regular or semi-regular basis is a good way to start. Before you know it, you’ll wonder why you ever waited so long to be anal only.

Anonymous: What things can I use as butt plugs that I may have at my house

I don’t recommend the long-term use of objects not intended as butt plugs, because they aren’t designed with a flange that keeps them in place and there’s a chance you could lose them inside. Better to buy a real one—there are good ones that sell inexpensively at places like Amazon and come in discreet packaging as a result.

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Anonymous: For the anon asking about home made butt plugs: if they’re looking for general use butt toys, I suggest hairbrush and lint roller handles. Pick a small one to start, make sure it’s smooth and non-porous so cleanup is easy. I’d say it’s a good starter option (that’s how I got into anal myself), but you always have to be extra careful when using objects as sex toys…

temptationsparadise: How can you have anal sex without being in pain for the next few days?

Training, lube and warmup. You can’t just jump straight into anal sex. First you have to train and work up to comfortably fitting something penis-sized. Start with a finger, add another, repeat. Get a butt plug and wear it for as long as is comfortable, slowly increasing that amount of time each time you try it. Masturbate or engage in other sex acts while wearing a butt plug or getting fingered anally. After you can comfortably do all this, then consider trying anal sex for real again. Use the fingers and butt plug beforehand still, gradually warming up and increasing the size, then switch to the real thing.

Always use plenty of lube, stop moving if something hurts and try again slower after the pain fades, and always stop if there’s any blood. Anal sex should not hurt or cause damage. If it does, you’re not properly warmed up enough for the level of anal penetration you’re experiencing and you need to back off and gradually work up to that size some more first.

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