Anonymous: Hi I had a couple questions , how do I get my girlfriend to want to do anal and like it more ? She loves it when I lick her lil butthole and rub it and put my finger in when I’m making love to her but other then that she says it hurts and I try to tell her to relax … we use lube and what not but her being anxious makes her scared … is there anything I can do? I recently bought her a princess plug but we haven’t used it yet. Thanks

Keep doing the things she likes and make them regular parts of sex for the two of you. Start using the plug as well. From the baseline of what she enjoys, gradually work up in size at a pace that she’s comfortable with. Encourage her to play with her ass as well and masturbate anally, and to tell you what feels good, what’s comfortable, and when things start to not be. Push her limits, but gently and slowly. As you work up in size and get near your own size, only then should you try going ahead with actual anal sex.

Play with her clit and give her lots of orgasms during anal training, and that will help her relax and develop the association between anal penetration and pleasure, and she’ll start wanting more and more.

say-no-to-the-o:

3 November, 2018
From @littlehumpybunny (Say No To The O Member and Sister in Denial)

From today onwards I, @littlehumpybunny, swear that I for at least one week will be participating in “No Pussy November, which means the following

1. I must play with my ass until I edge at least once a day.
2. I may not touch my clit unless I am also playing with my ass.
3. Toys may only be used on or in my ass.
4. That I must have my plug in at least an hour a day.
5. That if by the end of the week on Nov. 10th if I feel good about the week I will swear to my aforementioned statement for another week so on and so on until “No Pussy November” is over.

If I don’t follow these rules, the only way I’m allowed to edge for the rest of the week is by humping with clothespins on my pussy lips.

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Sleep well, @littlehumpybunny. The arousal will likely kill you in the morning (fingers crossed). You friends at Say No To The O Member

Read more about @littlehumpybunny HERE.

Anonymous: i’m working up to anal only as part of my edging + denial. currently, vaginal penetration is off-limits but i still touch my clit. i only allow myself to edge my clit with an anal plug inserted or while fucking my ass. having my ass full gets me to the edge so quickly and makes me drip so much. it also helps me train to associate pleasure with my ass. i’m scared to see what removing clit stimulation does to me. ?

It sounds like you’re approaching this in a way that works really well for most people, easing into anal only and gradually increasing your reliance on your ass for pleasure while removing your reliance on your pussy and reducing it on your clit, only using it to supplement and increase your anal pleasure, until you no longer need it anymore.

In a broad sense, if you no longer use any vaginal penetration, you’re already anal only. A lot of anal only women still use clitoral stimulation, and just replace vaginal penetration with anal every time. Over time, however, many work to remove their dependence on clitoral stimulation to be even more strictly anal only, and that’s a great thing if it’s what you want to work towards as a goal.

It sounds like you’ll love it.

Anonymous: It’s those few days of the month for me where I’m unbearably horny and it’s hard to stay anal only. So I’m currently out shopping, wearing an anal plug under my chastity belt. To add to my torture, I put some earbuds in and I’m forcing myself to listen to the sounds of women cumming hard as I feel my empty pussy drip. It’s making me wish a stranger would come pull my leggings down and fuck my ass hard while I’m locked in this belt. Ugh ?

A lot of anal only people get those challenging days where sticking to their goals seems hardly worth it and it’s so easy to give in, but at the same time you know that if you do, you’ll regret it. Having an outlet to share and talk about it is always a good way to back away from that edge, so I’m glad you shared this message.

At the same time, it sounds like you are familiar with the routine, and have a good strategy for dealing with it yourself—as well as deliberately making it worse for yourself! Here’s to hoping your wish comes true.

Anonymous: Maybe a weird question but I can’t really find answers. Are we suppose to be relaxed with a butt plug in, or staying clenching on it like a keagel? I usually relax totally with the plug but feel that while it’s stretching the anal opening itself it doesn’t do much for further up there. Maybe just a longer wider plug would be beneficial… Any suggestions or tips would be appreciated!

You can do and benefit from both. Most people are relaxed when they’re inside. You’re correct in that it’s primarily affecting the anal muscles rather than deeper inside the rectum. You would want to use a dildo for more active anal masturbation.

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been anal only for 2 years now and things are great, but we are trying to find something to really test my anal limits. We’ve used toys like dildos, vibrators, etc.. But we are looking for something new. Are there any interactions you can think of that will take our anal sex to an extreme? We are very adventerous. 🙂

Congratulations on the two years anal only! There are all sorts of things you could try doing to push your anal limits and get deeper into the anal only lifestyle.

• If you use clitoral stimulation currently during masturbation or sex, you could work to stop that and focus on pure anal only and learn to orgasm from just anal (if you can’t already). Using numbing creams like Orajel can be a good part of this process as well, temporarily removing any sensations from your clit.
• You could start wearing a butt plug more often until you more or less always have one in whenever possible aside from when having sex, using the bathroom, or cleaning.
• You could buy larger dildos and plugs and continue pushing your size limits with them. Depth play can be fun in addition to increases in width.
• You could start working towards double anal, whether with a third partner if that’s something that interests the both of you, or with a dildo alongside your boyfriend.
• Similarly, you can start working towards anal fisting. The stretch can be similar to larger toys, but with the more intimate connection of your boyfriend’s hand inside you.
• Chastity piercings to close your pussy and anal only-themed tattoos can be more advanced ways of symbolizing your anal only status.

I’ll be interested to hear what you end up trying!

Anonymous: I love anal, especially brutal and dry, and forced, and I’d love to wear a plug to keep my hole ready to use at all times, but I can’t seem to hurt myself by shoving the plug in. Any advice?

Try a bigger plug, or one with more friction. Glass and steel are pretty smooth and can be used without lube fairly easily, especially for those already fairly experienced with anal, so you might want to try silicone to increase the friction. Going up in size will also increase the surface area and thus the available friction to make you feel it when you push it in.

I have recently discovered i LOVE anal never thought i would! super proud of myself lol!  BUT i think im overwhelming my husband as he does love it but he does not LOVE it like i do.( I take it or im receiving? im sorry i dont know the lingo yet! he does not and is not into that, no judgment this is just us!) Anyway I dont want him to feel forced to have more sex but sex 3x a week isnt enough for me! we start with bjs he doesnt finish, then move to vaginal, then the beloved anal until we cum. its beautiful.He does work a physically demanding job during the week so i know he is tired and i do take that into account! But any help or tips would be appreciated!! I would probably be anal only if he would be into it but i dont think he is. I made this tumblr just for this question! I have been stalking this blog for a month now at first i was surprised,  i thought ,like really anal only how could that be. But after the purchase of my first awesome training plugs and some different positions ive just fallen in love with it. I just feel alone and a little weird but then i find all these beautiful people who love it to, i just have no one who relates irl i suppose…Thank you for having this blog and everyone flowing it!! and  just allowing me to feel less alone!

I’m glad you were able to discover how much you love anal and that you’d like to go anal only, as well as discovering this community. (Don’t forget to check out the forum and Discord chat as well!)

Have you talked with your husband about it? Tell him that you really love and prefer anal and you’d like to try just skipping your pussy and start going straight to anal. No Pussy November, our annual month-long anal only challenge, is coming up soon, and is a good opportunity for people to experiment with going anal only without an up-front long-term commitment. You just give up all vaginal sex for a month and do anal as much as you can, and then at the end of the month reassess and if you’re still loving it, then commit to going anal only indefinitely. Perhaps you could try that with him?

If the frequency isn’t enough, masturbate your ass and wear plugs when you aren’t having sex. You can start by going anal only in your solo play, never masturbating vaginally and only playing with your ass, and then working to get to that same point with your husband.

Communication is important, though, and you should have an honest discussion with him about how much better anal is for you and that you want to try going anal only with him, at least for a while to start out.

Good luck!

The original poster responded to this post:

multitrack-mind: Thank you so much! He really likes it too, just I guess not as much as me haha. I am so excited for anal only November. We decided just yesterday so we aren’t going to do anything until nov. 1! I’m going to start more solo play for now! Thank you so much for you’re advice I will try and convince after November maybe he just needs more examples of why it’s the best!

To which the following response was made:

If he’s already agreed to try No Pussy November, I’m sure that month of anal only will help show him why pussy is unnecessary and anal is best, and it will no doubt be easier to convince him to stay anal only after then.

ilikeitintheass: Wedding planning and 3 full busy work schedules means we barely have time to see each other. I’ll be honest I’m having a rough go at it. I often feel when the day is over that I need more hours because the work isn’t done. I can’t be the only one that goes through that, but it feels like it at the moment.

Because I’m anal only, I find I’m horny more than ever. I’m someone who needs sex, on a daily basis. If it’s not sex then at least masturbate. Is anyone here like that? Do you find sometimes that work and life get in the way? And by the time you’re home all you want to do is crawl into bed alone? These questions have invaded my mind.

I need more sex if that’s at all possible. Who can relate? I need my arse fucked and filled all the time! Can’t be normal?!

puxxxyy: Thoughts

1. I love my plugged up little ass.. it makes me so drippy
2. My cunt is useless, I should only fuck my ass
3. My holes should ALWAYS be tight for master
4. I’m tired, I should be sleeping
5. I’m a desperate whore, id do anything to touch