yesannarose: Hi, im new to anal play and was wondering how long I can keep a silicone plug in?

As long as you want and it feels comfortable to do so! It’s certainly not going to harm you to keep it in even for quite a long time, and your body will let you know if it wants it out. Listen to your body, and the more you practice with it, the longer you’ll be able to comfortably wear it. Enjoy!

Hi, it´s Suvi from Finland again.

Thank you so much from the several useful advices and I wanna give you small update of our situation…

The biggest shock for me is that I have been asking advice from numerous people, but only useful help I have got is from men but zero from women!!

All my girlfriends and all girls that give me advice in different chat rooms seems to be shearing the same opinion that I should talk and/or force my boyfriend to change or dump him even when I have been very clear that´s not even an option.

Like you very well told me that sex is only one part in relationship and for me it´s the only thing that isn´t perfect at the moment, but everything else is more than perfect. I cannot think even one more thing what I would wish more from him to make my life better.

Also to add few thoughts for you feminists that might be reading this… My boyfriend has been trying his best to give me the same pleasure as I´m giving to him, but if he´s not able what can he do? How many girls are willing to have anal sex if cannot enjoy it and just say “my ass is exit only” or “no men will ever put anything up my ass”? How disgusting partners are you if you are not willing to do something or anything that your love one really likes? It has nothing to do with men trying to make us women feel like less or lower form of human beings or sex slaves but honestly vice versa. Cannot even count how many times my boyfriend tells me how much he loves me  when he´s getting the best sex he can desire and after sex and all times between having sex again he´s more thoughtful than ever before, like almost we would been dating just few months and not several years.

Someone wrote me if I cannot make him change and still date with him I deserve to get fucked in the ass for rest of my life… When did I ever mention that I do not enjoy getting my ass fucked? I just miss my pussy getting fucked that´s all, but I do enjoy anal sex and I´m trying to find ways now to satisfy my boyfriend however he wants and also to find ways for myself to enjoy more sex without using my pussy.

And I really want to underline the fact that we are if even possible more closer than ever before because this is the first time for me that I have the change to show my boyfriend how much he means to me and I am ready to do anything for him because he have showed me and proven it to me countless of times.

So now it´s been more than 2 months sens I have had anything and I do mean anything in my pussy, so only anal sex. Sometimes we haven´t have sex for few days at all but sometimes we have sex 3 times in one day. I still really miss my pussy to get fucked, but in the same time I got many tips from men how to enjoy anal sex more and last week I bought with almost 500 euros worthy of different toys from our local sex shop and the biggest success has been a clit stimulator.

I can honestly and really recommend this toy to any girl or woman because this one is simply just genious 🙂 Using this toy at the same time when having anal sex gives you mindblowing orgasms I can promise you that and I sure this one would work perfectly for anal first-timers.

I think as you recommended I will order one or two butt plugs also and let´s see if they are any good, but I have to say that now I´m much more confident about the future even I still hope my boyfriend would share even small interest some day also for my pussy, but at least now I have learned many things more for myself to enjoy anal sex.

Thanks for your thoughtful advices and comments…

Kisses 🙂

Thank you for the update! I’m glad to hear that you’re figuring out a good compromise together and are committed to each other and each other’s pleasure. I’m sure that as you continue exploring and enjoying the anal only lifestyle together, you’ll find that you won’t miss vaginal sex nearly as much and will come to enjoy the idea of being anal only and not using your pussy much more. It can really start to become a special thing to not have vaginal sex, as strange as that can sound to some.

I think a lot of the people who have responded to you misunderstood the situation and defaulted to the idea that you were being somehow mistreated by someone selfish rather than recognizing the fact that your boyfriend has specific needs and preferences, and while you do as well, you’re willing to work to satisfy his needs while also working together to make it satisfying for the both of you. There’s nothing selfish or wrong about anyone preferring anal and wanting nothing to do with vaginal—so long as its consensual and everyone is on board with at least trying it.

Anonymous: I am very new to anal and I’m wearing a plug for the first time. Any advice about wearing plugs?

Try wearing it every time you masturbate, to begin with, to start associating anal stimulation and penetration with pleasures you already enjoy. From there, try leaving it in longer, both after you’ve masturbated and orgasmed with it in, as well as other times. If it starts to get uncomfortable, take it out and then see if you can wear it longer the next time you try. Try sleeping with it in. With more practice, you’ll be able to wear it longer and it will both feel even better on its own, and help open you up to more anal pleasures and make anal sex easier.

Anonymous: First of, I love anal! I’m in the process if trying to make my hole bigger by wearing plugs regularly but everytime I put on a plug it makes me wanna go poop. Even if I have just poop!!! Please help.

Does this happen immediately after you put a plug in, or does it start after a little bit of time has passed? It’s not uncommon when first getting into long-term plug wear that it can start to be uncomfortable after a short bit of time at first, and you have to gradually ease into it, wearing it as long as you can comfortably do so, taking out, and trying again later to go longer. Over time, it will become a lot more comfortable.

However, it could be one of several other factors as well, especially if you can already enjoy anal sex without experiencing that sensation. Certain materials can either cause a reaction or have a certain texture that can give a feeling like needing to poop. Steel and glass are often the best at not doing that, as well as high quality silicone. Certain lubes could cause this as well.

Finally, you could try rubbing your clit while it’s in and see if the sensation goes away. Again, it may not be as big of a factor for you if you love anal already, but people just starting with anal stimulation often experience such sensations and need to “re-train” themselves a little bit to interpret anal stimulation as a source of sexual pleasure rather than just a sensation of needing to go to the bathroom, and so combining anal with other things you may find enjoyable like clit play can be an effective technique.

Anonymous: Recently my foxtail buttplug broke (the tail fell off so now it’s just a plug) and my first thought was “now I can be plugged all the time and work up to anal only!”

Excellent! Train that ass of yours as often as you can and work to move away from your pussy and you’ll be well on your way to anal only bliss.

Anonymous: Hello! I really wanna do anal, but I’m a anal virgin. I have a vibrator and occasionally play with my ass. What training can I do?

Keep up the occasional anal play and start to make it a lot more frequent. Getting into a routine of frequent anal penetration is one of the best ways to start training, and I advocate making it a standard part of your masturbation routine—every time you play with your clit, play with your ass at the same time. Regularly make yourself cum while you have something in your ass, further developing the association between anal penetration and pleasure.

As you feel comfortable doing so, try putting gradually increasingly larger things in your ass. Fingers are a good way to start, first with one, then two, then three, etc. Once you’ve run out of fingers to comfortably fit, try getting a butt plug or a dildo that looks like a good size a little larger than what you’re comfortable with already at that point. Just keep going gradually up from there at a pace that works for you, and once you’re around the size of an average penis without pain or discomfort, you’re probably ready to try it with a partner. Make sure it’s someone you trust and who will be patient and take their time if you need to pause or adjust or if something starts to hurt, and just listen to your body and back off if something starts to hurt, then try again.

Good luck and enjoy!

Anonymous: I love how every time I plug my ass I can feel my pussy soaking wet which gets me even hornier

Isn’t it great? Nothing makes a woman’s pussy wet like anal does.

feral-baby: We had an unintentional no-play day yesterday (thanks allergy meds) but we’re right back on schedule today. He made me put my plug in before we went to the store for dinner. When we got home I couldn’t stop looking at anal porn because I’m obviously a glutton for punishment. He let me take the plug out but he immediately replaced it with his dick and it slid right in. Which is good because he told me beforehand that I’m not allowed to touch my clit anymore to relax. My favorite part about all of this is how no load is wasted. I love feeling him twitch in my ass when he fills me with cum ?

Anonymous: Hello!! I’m an anal virgin and my bf loves anal. He’s planning to come over and I wanna be ready. What are some ways I can do some anal training so it won’t hurt as much?

Using a lubricated finger, massage around the outside of your anus, then slip a finger inside gently as you feel yourself relax, and continue adding fingers as you feel comfortable. Once you have several fingers inside, you can also try spreading them while inside your ass to help stretch/relax further before the next finger.

Beyond using fingers, butt plugs and dildos are very helpful for anal training. Take your time, stop/pause/back off if something hurts, and try combining it with clitoral stimulation at least at first if it’s uncomfortable or feels weird.

feral-baby: We’ve finally decided I’m going to be anal only. For now, the only time my clit is allowed to be touched is when he’s helping me relax while getting his dick in my ass. As soon as I’m a little more loose there will be absolutely no touching my clit or my pussy. But that shouldn’t take long since I’ll be wearing my plug a lot more often and working up to wearing it full time and possibly even sizing up. This also means the only way I can orgasm is through anal. But I’m sure he’ll toy with me and refuse to let me come if I’m about to.

He’ll be leaving soon for 2 weeks and I have a feeling he’s going to plan something extra mean. I’m really looking forward to it.