Jenny32: I have been doing anal only with my boyfriend for the past couple years and I found switching from vaginal to anal to be easy, it feels better and it turns us on more and I love that he can cum in me every day and I don’t have to be on birth control. It’s been wonderful! But I admit I am still really reliant on my clitoris and my boyfriend has told me that he’d like it if I could stop rubbing myself and be totally anal only. I’d like that too, but I am not sure how to do it because it is a lot harder for me to stop. Any advice?

I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been having a great time since going anal only, and I hope that you continue to enjoy it long term. It sounds like the perfect time to give up clit stimulation and commit to pure anal only going forward, which will further strengthen and deepen your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

First, remember that it’s a process and failure is often part of any process of learning or mastering something. If you go back to clit stimulation at some point, don’t give up, just start again with not using it.

Establishing a challenge to go a week without clit stimulation can be a good way to start, and ease into it without worrying longer term just yet. Once you make it a week, try extending it another week, then to a full month, and just keep going from there.

If you end up giving in to clit stimulation, try setting your next challenge to be longer than your previous success and keep building on your past experiences from there! Before you know it, you’ll be clit free for good.

You might also try numbing creams like Orajel on your clit, which temporarily remove sensation and can be applied before sex to aid in giving up touching yourself. Also check out the page on our Guide about clitoral denial, which covers this topic in more detail!

Good luck! I’m sure you can do this!

This post has been cross-posted from our Bdsmlr page.

two-hole-slut: Not a question, I just needed to share… My Sir has taken away my cunt. I thought I needed it to squirt, but I don’t. I squirt so much more and so much harder when I’m stretching and fucking my arse.

Congratulations, that’s excellent to hear! Everybody’s a bit different, but in general, going anal only makes everything else more intense and pleasurable in the long term. Even if it’s hard at first, it’s worth doing.

Anal Only April has now officially begun! Read through the earlier post for the full details, but in essence, it’s a challenge for you and any partners you may have to only have anal sex for the entire month, as an opportunity to explore the anal only lifestyle without a long-term up-front commitment.

If being anal only intrigues you, here’s your chance to try it for yourself. If you’re already anal only, take it as a month of celebration and as much anal sex, masturbation and butt plugging as you can manage, or an opportunity to explore a new twist on the anal only lifestyle that you’ve been fantasizing about or are curious to try. In the past, some long-term anal only women have made Anal Only April a “double anal only” month!

As always, if you plan to participate, let us know and share your experiences and questions throughout the month and beyond. After all, most people who try going anal only for a month or two at first find that they don’t ever want to go back to vaginal by the time their trial period is over!

Have you been curious about going anal only but haven’t had the push to actually try it for yourself? Well, now is the perfect opportunity. Anal Only April is one of several challenge months where we encourage people interested in the anal only lifestyle to make a month-long commitment and try out pure anal for themselves.

The rules of Anal Only April are simple: starting April 1st, whether on your own or with your significant other, stop all vaginal penetration for sex and masturbation, and replace it with anal instead.

Clitoral stimulation is optional. If you would like to go for a more advanced form of anal only, try doing it without touching your clit and only orgasming through anal. If you need your clit in order to enjoy anal, combine it with anal, but only rub your clit while also masturbating anally.

Oral sex is still allowed and encouraged, especially blowjobs and rimming. Cunnilingus is optional—some choose to exclude it, others still include it but don’t engage in any vaginal penetration as part of it.

Try your best to stick with anal only for the whole month—it’s a long enough period of time that while you might struggle a little bit with it at first, whether adjusting to the frequency of anal sex, or dealing with lingering cravings for vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation, by the end of a month most people figure out what being anal only is really like, and a majority of people who enjoyed their month trial either choose to stay anal only and not go back to vaginal, or return to it again later after a break.

If you’re already anal only, don’t worry—you can still enjoy Anal Only April yourself. Challenge yourself to have anal sex every day of the month, or to start wearing a butt plug or masturbate anally every day, or to experiment with clitoral denial and anal only orgasms if you aren’t already, or to start doing ass to mouth regularly, or to train your ass with bigger toys to be able to do anal fisting or double anal. The possibilities are endless for exploring new things as part of the anal only lifestyle. If you already enjoy double anal, consider trying making April a double anal only month—whether with two partners every time, or with a partner and a dildo, or two dildos.

Over the next week, get your plans in order, get your partner (if any) on board, and if you haven’t had anal sex yet or for a while, start working on training so that by the time Anal Only April begins, you’re ready to dive in!

If you decide to take part, let us know! Share your plans, ask any questions, and keep us updated as you start exploring the anal only lifestyle!

Annie: I am having an argument with my friend, she says it’s important for a girl to use her clit to cum and I say it’s bad and girls shouldn’t use their clits and it’s better to only do anal. How can I show her that it’s true?

You’re both right and both wrong, to some extent. Every girl is different and has different needs, and it’s important to recognize and respect that. For some girls, clit stimulation is a need. For others, anal only without clit stimulation is better.

Some women struggle to orgasm without clit stimulation. If clit stimulation helps them to be anal only otherwise, isn’t that still a better option? It works for them and they enjoy it and everything is great.

Some women get more negative side effects from clit stimulation and lose their arousal and desire for sex if they use their clit, and so it’s often better for them to stick with pure anal only and no clit stimulation so they don’t crash post-orgasm as can so often happen.

Once a woman firmly establishes an anal only routine even if it includes clit stimulation, experimenting later with clit denial can be a good option as well!

As we bring in the new year, it’s time for new year’s resolutions. If you’re a follower of this blog and you aren’t yourselves actively anal only yet, this is the time to go for it! Why wait any longer when you can commit to the anal only lifestyle you really want. If you’re single or don’t have a partner who wants to do it yet, you can do it on your own or communicate your wants and needs with them. If you have a willing partner, take the time and effort to work together and get to where you’re anal only full time.

If you are already anal only, consider if there are any new anal goals you want to achieve—clit denial, full time plugging, stretching with larger toys, double anal, or even going double anal only—and make it happen!

Happy Anal Only New Year!

As anal sex continues to become more common and the anal only lifestyle more frequently adopted around the world, pornography for once is somewhat lagging behind rather than being a trendsetter.

This is not universally the case, of course: the anal focus can be found in many porn productions with vaginal sex either nonexistent or an afterthought at best, but even the latter should be eliminated until the vagina serves no role at all other than decorative in any porn whatsoever.

The reality is that people are influenced and inspired by porn and continuing to show occasional vaginal inspires people to keep having vaginal sex occasionally rather than committing to the purity of anal only and the benefits that come from doing so.

Stop including any sort of vaginal sexual activity. No more vaginal sex, no more double or triple penetration involving vaginal, no more vaginal dildoing or fingering, and no more clit stimulation. The time is now for porn, and all of us, to go purely anal only.

Anonymous: So, I’ve followed this site for a while. I’m a female. I get super turned on at the thought of vaginal abandonment and orgasm denial. However, the vaginal abandonment term is not something I hear or read about often. Wondering why that is? I’ll be discussing this with my partner and I am unsure of how he will feel about it. He comes from a fairly conservative culture. So it’s something I’ll need to bring up lightly initially. At any rate I’ve tried finding good resources such as other blogs or articles and even testimonials about specific vaginal abandonment and why it’s done. Not sure if I’m making sense. Perhaps it’s just a terminology issue and I’m missing the point. I dunno.

“Vaginal abandonment” is used interchangeably with “anal only”, and the latter is catchier and easier to use so is more common. But they generally mean the same thing. The end result is avoiding use of your vagina and having anal sex in its place.

There are lots of resources on the topic here, but outside of this community it’s less commonly discussed. If you have any other specific questions or advice wanted, feel free to ask! And let us know how it goes when you discuss it with your partner—I hope for your sake that he agrees to go anal only with you!

Anonymous: I am glad to inform you that today I reached an agreement with my GF: we are going from anal mostly to AO!! She is worrying that pussy orgasms are needed for the good health and hormonal balance of a young woman. Well, medicine is not my cup of tea hence I am not gonna judge the scientific basis of what she thinks. I anyway accommodate her concerns offering her the possibility to cum with pussy only out of her lesbo fantasies, while what concerns us both has to go anal only

Congratulations, it sounds like it will be a very rewarding arrangement for the both of you. I think you’ll find that a number of anal only women may still involve some clitoral stimulation with other women even if not with men. Others decide over time that it’s worth going pure anal only even when with men, and keeping things focused on anal penetration and rimming. Perhaps in time she’ll decide that as well.

Anonymous: My husband (34M) and I (29F) have been in a relationship for 10 years, married for 2. I’ve been attracted to anal since a teenager (the first time I masturbated was anally), but my husband is a pretty vanilla kind of guy, so it took a while to convince him to fuck my ass. That was some 6 years ago I think. Since then we’ve been having some anal occasionally (definitely much less than once every 2 months) and it’s always been me initiating.

Anyways, in April we got pregnant after a very long spell of no anal to achieve conception and my doctor forbade vaginal sex due to some complications. Oral was also out of the question for me (and still is) due to extreme all-day sickness that sent my gag reflex into overdrive. As a result, we’ve been sex free for 3 months and now that my all-day sickness is going away, my husband finally proposed by himself that he fuck my ass!

So we had a talk and told him that I’d gladly have regular anal sex with him, as many times a week as he wants. It’s been a week since then and he’s fucked my ass every other day, completely ignoring my pussy. He won’t even touch my clit, which I find extremely hot (so I stopped touching it as well, hoping to achieve pure anal orgasms). He just lubes his cock and goes straight for my ass. It’s like my pussy doesn’t even exist for him now! It honestly feels like I’m living the dream!

I hope those anal only months will tip the scales and make him want more of it after the pregnancy is over, although I won’t even dream that he’ll want to stay anal only. I know he loves my pussy too much.

I never expected that getting pregnant would make my anal only sex fantasy come true!

Congratulations! That’s wonderful that you’re living your anal only dream finally and that it seems he’s happy with the arrangement as well and is committed to ignoring your pussy and clit entirely at least in the moment. You must be loving it, and I hope that you update us with more details on how things are progressing since you first shared this.

Make sure to let him know regularly how much you love him in your ass and how happy you are to be his anal only wife and he may very well be happy to keep ignoring your pussy and keep you purely anal only even after the pregnancy is over. It would be a shame to waste such a wonderful streak that you both enjoyed just because it’s technically possible to return to vaginal despite anal being better for you both. Maybe help him to also see that just because he loves your pussy doesn’t mean he has to fuck it, and not fucking it and using your ass instead can be a stronger sign of love.