Anonymous: My husband (34M) and I (29F) have been in a relationship for 10 years, married for 2. I’ve been attracted to anal since a teenager (the first time I masturbated was anally), but my husband is a pretty vanilla kind of guy, so it took a while to convince him to fuck my ass. That was some 6 years ago I think. Since then we’ve been having some anal occasionally (definitely much less than once every 2 months) and it’s always been me initiating.

Anyways, in April we got pregnant after a very long spell of no anal to achieve conception and my doctor forbade vaginal sex due to some complications. Oral was also out of the question for me (and still is) due to extreme all-day sickness that sent my gag reflex into overdrive. As a result, we’ve been sex free for 3 months and now that my all-day sickness is going away, my husband finally proposed by himself that he fuck my ass!

So we had a talk and told him that I’d gladly have regular anal sex with him, as many times a week as he wants. It’s been a week since then and he’s fucked my ass every other day, completely ignoring my pussy. He won’t even touch my clit, which I find extremely hot (so I stopped touching it as well, hoping to achieve pure anal orgasms). He just lubes his cock and goes straight for my ass. It’s like my pussy doesn’t even exist for him now! It honestly feels like I’m living the dream!

I hope those anal only months will tip the scales and make him want more of it after the pregnancy is over, although I won’t even dream that he’ll want to stay anal only. I know he loves my pussy too much.

I never expected that getting pregnant would make my anal only sex fantasy come true!

Congratulations! That’s wonderful that you’re living your anal only dream finally and that it seems he’s happy with the arrangement as well and is committed to ignoring your pussy and clit entirely at least in the moment. You must be loving it, and I hope that you update us with more details on how things are progressing since you first shared this.

Make sure to let him know regularly how much you love him in your ass and how happy you are to be his anal only wife and he may very well be happy to keep ignoring your pussy and keep you purely anal only even after the pregnancy is over. It would be a shame to waste such a wonderful streak that you both enjoyed just because it’s technically possible to return to vaginal despite anal being better for you both. Maybe help him to also see that just because he loves your pussy doesn’t mean he has to fuck it, and not fucking it and using your ass instead can be a stronger sign of love.

I am not a newbie, but recently I have experienced things I have never seen before. My girl likes to be fucked longer, harder and more all the time. She has been getting really into total pussy denial, i used to be allowed to lick her and spank her pussy but now she wants it absolutely untouched. She is also really insisting on natural lubricants and without her pussy it’s just spit (mine and hers) and she has become totally obsessed with deep-throating ass-to-mouth for extra lube.

I have known girls who love anal above all else. I even knew anal-only girls, but I never experienced something like that. It’s like a manifestation of the anal-only mythology where she always wants more and I get addicted to her ass.

She says she always loved anal but this is the first time she realizes that she wants to have her pussy completely denied, only have her ass licked and fucked and only come from anal or not at all.

Has anybody had such an experience too. Is that happening more often or am I just experiencing something very special?

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Anonymous: Dear Sir

I wrote to you last June asking for advice on becoming anal only for my Master. First, a huge thank you. Your advice was great and i am officially an anal only slut since April. It feels amazing to say that and my Master is so proud of me. Second, i would like to get your opinion on something. What is your stance on orgasms in the anal only lifestyle? My Master never allowed me to orgasm freely and always made sure i earned it. But since i am anal only it feels wrong to ask for clitoral stimulation (my only way to orgasm). I still want to orgasm but it just does not feel right. Do you have any advice?

Thanks for your guidance and your blog. 

humbly honey 

Thank you for following up! You’re quite welcome, and I’m glad to hear that you have decided to officially go anal only and are loving the experience! Ultimately, that’s what matters most, that you and your partner want it and are happy with it, and if so, then by all means, being anal only is what you should do!

As for orgasms, I’m all for them personally, but each person has their own individual preferences and goals. Excluding clit stimulation can certainly help with amplifying anal pleasure and arousal even further, and if that also works with your dynamic of orgasm denial, then I encourage continuing to explore it further. You may discover that after an extended period of time without clit stimulation, you can start to orgasm from anal penetration on its own!

We’ve never made it a full week doing anal only. I think 5 days has been our max and then he’s back to my pussy and my ass gets ignored for many months.

For years before we met, I fantasize about being someone’s little anal slut and having my pussy ignored completely. That doesn’t seem like an option right now but does anyone have advice on convincing him to try this for more than just a few days?

CuriousKitten, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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AnnaB: My boyfriend eagerly agreed when I said we should try Anal Only April, and I really love it so far, it makes me so horny and wet to only do anal and ignore my pussy! We’re going to try anal only without touching my pussy at all for the whole month and I really hope it goes well because if it does I’m going to ask him if I can stay anal only!

That sounds like the perfect goal, and he’s a lucky guy to have someone so enthusiastic about anal only!

At the moment I can only cum from clitoral stimulation and anal, but I’ve read some posts on here where ladies have cum from just anal and I want that

An excerpt of several good responses:

I started to be fucked in the ass in July or August last year. Then closer to Christmas I started using buttplugs when I played with myself and earlier this month I used a vibrator and a dildo to play only with my ass! I kept playing when my body wanted to stop and then I squirted and came on the dildo! I was so proud I had to tell my Daddy (Dom) immediately

Little-CocoPops, /r/analonlylifestyle

My wife is the same way as you but unfortunately she doesn’t have the same hunger to cum solely from anal as you. We’re AO at this point because of some ongoing vaginal issues she’s having (which we suspect are due to her taking immunosuppressants for her autoimmune disease), but she needs her vibrator on her clit to cum, no matter what. She’ll have massive anal orgasms, but once she cums her psychological lust for anal dissipates, and she’s like “honey you gotta try to cum, I can’t go much longer.” Every time I broach the subject of “why don’t we try to slowly gradually train you away from your vibrator?” She gets pissed.

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Ted: Hi! I’m Ted, a 26yo male VERY MUCH into anal. I knew I wanted anal only after watching my first porn video at 16yo. Thankfully, I’m attractive, with a boyish face that pleases the ladies, so I never had to compromise too much with vaginal or clitoral action. I’m either dating women who are already into anal, or getting women to try it.

My ultimate dream would be to be in a couple with a younger, complete vaginal virgin, who never had her pussy fucked and who barely/never stimulated her pussy at all (no clit/vaginal action), but who’d be available non stop for oral and anal action. Also, I’m into orgasm denial in the sense that to me, the only orgasms a woman should get are those gained naturally from anal.

Months ago, through friends, I met this cute 21 year-old who quickly grew fond of me. We had a few dates, we got closer, and recently, she confessed to me she’s a complete virgin, and she’d love me to teach her what sex is all about.

This is a golden opportunity. She’s beautiful, small, smart, innocent, funny, we have good things in common, she’s just my type of girl. I tried to question her about sex, and apparently, she has next to no experience, even by herself or through porn.

I’d like to know if you have any advice to help me get her into pure anal, no compromise. I’m very afraid to screw up and chase her away, even if she’s so much into me that IMO she could accept a lot.

I thought the better approach, rather than flat out say I prefer anal, would be to suggest anal for contraception, as a first step. I know she doesn’t take the pill, so I could say I can’t stand condoms and I’m scared to penetrate her vaginally. Then if I can get her hooked on anal, or at least be used to it, it’d be easier to go from there.

I’m already planning to use the content you have here, like the super well-made The Dangers of Clit Stimulation, to keep her from pussy action once she’s accepted anal.

What do you think?

I recommend being honest and up front and not trying to manipulate her, just present your case for preferring anal, why you think anal pleasure is so much better than vaginal, and how it can amplify her pleasure to keep things anal only from the start without distracting her pleasure with multiple sources and reducing both rather than focusing just on the one with the most potential for pleasure.

Present the benefits: greater pleasure, more intimacy and trust, and natural birth control. From there, you can talk about how it’s what you’ve always much preferred and how you think it’s really attractive and sexy that she hasn’t had vaginal sex and that you’d like her to try going and staying anal only with you and keeping her pussy virgin.

40 F here, new to the AO Lifestyle. I haven’t actually begun my journey as AO yet. It’s something I discovered recently while evolving in my submissive role. I just got out of a relationship with someone who loves my pussy more than anal so, it was impossible to het him to even go AO with me temporarily. 

But it was because of something he did that got me into this. Basically, he has a thing against period sex, but we were still so horny when I had my period that he decided to go anal on me one morning. And from then on that’s what we did instead of PIV see during that time. What I noticed was the sexual rush I’d get from being teased. From almost getting what I really wanted – my pussy taken and the resulting big O – and getting something else instead. I cannot come from anal. I can get to a point where it almost feels like I’m climaxing but then the feeling drops. What happens is that I’m left feeling super horny because my orgasm needs weren’t fulfilled and I stay aroused for days on end. It’s crazy. I love it.

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Serve Anal Only Clients as a Sex Worker

As a sex worker, my job is primarily to cater to the fantasies of my clients. I have little control over what those are and most of the time, they already know what they want when they approach me to book an appointment.

That said, some of my clients certainly do have anal sex fetishes. And that’s fantastic! Needless to say, they are automatically bumped to the top of my list.

Unfortunately, I don’t have a large enough group of clients with an anal fetish to exclusively offer services to them while still being able to fully support myself financially.

That part is something I could probably overcome with enough time and patience. It wouldn’t be impossible to slowly build a list of steady clients who love anal sex.

But the bigger problem with that is the majority of those clients I have with an anal fetish also seem to expect vaginal sex as well. I only have two reliable clients who are truly anal only.

Alas, it would be the ultimate accomplishment if I were able to pull this off!

Have 100% Anal Only Orgasms

While each woman is different, I know I can’t be the only one who struggles to master the art of the 100% anal only orgasm.

While there is absolutely no doubt that anal sex feels far superior to vaginal in terms of pleasure, neither type of penetration has ever resulted in orgasms for me.

“I have arrived at the conclusion that the pleasure I feel from anal is more intense and far preferable to any orgasms I could have by stimulating my clit.”

Ashly

Which is actually kind of okay, I have come to realize over time.

I know some women who are anal only still include clitoral stimulation in their sex lives in order to climax, and there is nothing wrong with going that route at all!

But I happen to be in the no clit stimulation camp, which may simply mean I end up not experiencing orgasms at all.

While this might not be acceptable to all women, I have arrived at the conclusion that the pleasure I feel from anal is more intense and far preferable to any orgasms I could have by stimulating my clit.

Get My Boyfriend to Commit to Anal Only

Don’t misunderstand me here, my boyfriend loves anal sex as much as I do!

In fact, according to him, it was when I told him to put it in my ass during our very first hookup that he claims was the moment he knew he wanted to marry me someday.

All jokes aside though, we are both all about it. But to be honest, I have not brought up the idea of being strictly anal with him yet. Granted, we have only been together about six months so far.

It’s not that I’m worried he will react in a negative way, but I want to be sure that he understands where I’m coming from fully before I broach the subject.

I guess it’s just got to be the right time and setting and I need to be totally confident in how I communicate the idea to him.

I don’t imagine it will be much longer before I bring it up, so wish me luck!

Get a Vaginal Chastity Piercing

I first found out about this type of body art several years ago when I stumbled upon a couple of Tumblr blogs featuring photos of all the variations available.

While I had heard of clit piercings, I had no idea about chastity piercings or how many different styles were possible.

While imagining myself in the chair about to be pierced makes me wince a good deal at the pain involved, the main reason I haven’t taken the leap yet is that I’m pretty shy about this sort of thing with strangers.

I’m not the type of gal who would just walk into a body piercing parlor and walk right up to the desk and ask if vaginal chastity piercings are a thing they offer. I’m just not comfortable with that situation.

Personally, I’d need to do enough research privately beforehand or get a recommendation from someone I know in real life before approaching any place where I could get something like this done.

But once I have a trusted recommendation, I think I would like to get one.

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Of course, this list is just the tip of the iceberg for me.

Ideally, I’d like to publish more about my love for anal sex and help to promote its acceptance as a healthy and desirable way of life to help others discover better sex sooner in life than I did!

My hope is that I can make some small contribution to normalizing the lifestyle on a greater societal level.

Cheers!
Ashly

Anonymous: I’ve been only having anal sex for several years and I love it. I have really wanted to stop rubbing my clit too, but I struggle with that a lot more than stopping vaginal penetration. It was easy to stop doing vaginal, anal feels a lot better. But I always still give in to rubbing my clit sometimes, especially on my own. When I’m having sex it’s easy. But if I’m just masturbating, it’s hard to resist. Do you have any advice, and how important do you think it is for anal only girls to not touch their clit?

Congratulations on being anal only for several years now!

Clit stimulation and whether it continue it as part of being anal only is very much a matter of personal preference. Many people in the anal only lifestyle have no problem with continuing clit stimulation and just replace vaginal penetration with anal. Some avoid it during sex but do it when masturbating. And others avoid it entirely, finding that it makes it harder to commit to the anal-centric mindset and lifestyle or makes it harder for them to orgasm from anal.

If you’re happy with how you are, then enjoy it and don’t worry about what other people do. Anal only is fundamentally about anal penetration instead of vaginal penetration, and things like excluding clit stimulation as well are additional choices on top of that which can pair well with it for some. But if you really want to pursue clit denial, especially if you feel like you lose arousal or feel depressed after clit orgasms, there are some things that you can do.

• Work on orgasming from anal penetration instead. If you can already do this, try doing it more often to make it easier so your body gets more used to anal orgasms instead of clit orgasms.
• Challenge yourself to gradually go longer and longer without clit stimulation. A few days at first, then a week, then a few weeks, then a month, etc. If you give in to the urges, just pick back up and try to beat your previous record. The longer you go without it, the easier it will get in time, and the more your arousal will become anal centric.
• Use tape on your pussy or a small amount of numbing cream to temporarily remove sensation from your clit when masturbating. If you want a long-term solution, consider a clit shield.

For more information on clit denial and how to move past it, read our guide on the Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex.