For women drawn to the unique fullness, connection, and intensity of double anal sex (DAP), the desire can feel both thrilling and intimidating. Many have fantasized about it — the taboo, the closeness, the surrender — but don’t know how to begin, or how to even talk about it with a partner.

We are here to tell you: yes, it’s absolutely possible — and more than that, it can be empowering, deeply intimate, and even life-changing. Whether you’ve already embraced the anal only lifestyle or are simply curious, double anal is a natural next step for those ready to go deeper — both physically and spiritually.

The Appeal of Double Anal

So why are more women openly embracing double anal?

• Intense fullness: Double anal offers an incomparable physical sensation — the stretch, the pressure, the depth.
• Erotic surrender: It requires trust, relaxation, and letting go — things that can deepen intimacy with your partner.
• Total commitment to anal only: For many, it’s the purest form of the lifestyle — a full rejection of vaginal sex and a full embrace of anal connection, where even multiple men share your ass rather than using your vagina.

And you don’t have to jump right into a two-man experience. You can start where you are — by yourself or with the man you trust most.

How to Introduce the Idea to Your Partner

If you’re craving double anal but aren’t sure how to bring it up, you’re not alone — even in open, trusting relationships, certain fantasies can feel intimidating to share. But the truth is, most partners want to know what turns you on — especially when you present it with excitement and clarity.

Here’s how to ease into the conversation:

1. Frame it as a shared adventure

Instead of saying, “I want double anal,” try:

“I’ve been fantasizing about something a little more intense… something we could explore together.”

This invites curiosity rather than pressure.

2. Share your why

Be honest about what excites you — whether it’s the fullness, the submission, the symbolism, or the idea of deepening your bond. If you already practice anal only together, this is a natural next step.

You might say:

“I’ve loved the intimacy we share with anal, and I’ve been wondering what it would feel like to take it even further — just you and me, plus a toy.”

3. Normalize it with facts or fantasy

Double anal might be taboo, but it’s also a common fantasy. You can reference erotic stories, videos, or even this blog. Let him know it’s not weird — it’s wildly hot.

If he’s nervous or surprised, let him process. Curiosity often grows once the seed is planted.

4. Start small and let him lead too

Make it clear that this isn’t about replacing or minimizing him — it’s about growing together. If he’s open, you can shop for a toy together, or plan a night to explore it gently.

Starting at Home: Your Partner + a Dildo

One of the easiest, most comfortable ways to begin exploring double anal is by using two dildos or by combining your partner’s penis with a toy to simulate DAP while you control the pace.

Tips for Getting Started:

1. Have an open conversation
   Let your partner know what you’re craving — not just physically, but emotionally. Emphasize your trust in them and your desire to explore this together.
2. Pick the right toy
   A realistic silicone dildo with a softer outside and rigid core is ideal for DAP. It simulates the natural give of a real second penis and can be much easier than a fully rigid toy.
3. Prep matters
   DAP requires more preparation than solo anal. Spend extra time on warm-up (with plugs or fingers) and plenty of lube. Even if you can do single anal without much lube, you’ll need more for double anal.
4. Positioning is everything
   Experiment with different positions, as some might be easier to start with than others. Doggy style with your partner behind you and the toy inserted first is often a great way to start. Or have him enter first, and then slowly guide the toy in. Cowgirl positions (with you on top) allow you the most control, but may be harder to insert the dildo at first.
5. Breathe, relax, and listen to your body
   It’s okay to take breaks, laugh, adjust, and try again. You’re creating a new shared experience — don’t rush perfection.

Moving Toward True DAP: Opening the Door to a Second Partner

Once you’ve experienced the sensation and intimacy of simulated DAP, it’s natural to consider expanding into a two-man scenario. This is a personal decision, and should only be done with full consent, communication, and preparation.

Ask Yourself:

• Am I emotionally ready for a second man in this space?
• Is my partner open to this, or does he just want to stick with us and a dildo?
• Do I want this for the sensation, the submission, the symbolism — or all three?

You’re allowed to want it all. And you’re allowed to go at your own pace.

Some women arrange threesomes where their male partner remains fully involved — choosing the second man, setting the rules, and keeping the focus on you.

Others explore anonymous or semi-anonymous arrangements, often facilitated by trusted communities online.

Whatever your path, remember: your body, your boundaries, your rules.

Why Double Anal Only?

Choosing to go double anal only — as a commitment, a lifestyle, a sexual philosophy — takes things even further.

It’s more intense, moving beyond single anal penetration to commit to always have sex with two partners in your ass every time you have sex. It’s a total renunciation of vaginal sex in all its forms. It says, “My pleasure, my power, my path, all go through one place — and I’m proud of it.”

Women who’ve made this choice describe feeling:

• More focused and connected to their partners, and feeling the joy of pleasuring them both anally at the same time
• Freed from expectation — many women initially feel the need to stay anally tight, whereas double anal allows them to embrace loose gaping and still provide incredible pleasure
• Turned on by their own discipline and commitment — by first giving up vaginal sex and then giving up single anal, and staying committed to it, it creates a life of disciplined pleasure that just grows the more the commitment remains
• A life of increased pleasure — double anal is like anal, but even better, with more stimulation, more intense stretching, more pleasure, and far greater orgasms from two partners moving inside your ass.

It’s a bold stand. And one you can work toward, little by little, with each intimate experience. You don’t need to rush. You don’t need to be perfect. And you absolutely don’t need permission. If your body craves fullness, if your heart longs to give up the old norms, if your fantasies linger on two shafts pressing deep and filling you up completely — embrace it. Talk to your partner. Try it once. Try it again.

This is your journey to double anal only. Start it tonight.

Elodie: I stumbled upon this forum and found the questions of my female predecessors. I feel encouraged in asking for an unbiased opinion from you. I hope you can offer some insight or advice. I’m 32, and married. No kids and not planning on any right now. I’ve got a question about my sex life and feelings.

For the last 7 years, I’ve been into anal only, and for the past 2 years, I’ve been exploring DAP with a toy (about half the time). I feel pretty proud of myself for being able to do this and really loving it. Is it wrong to feel this way?

Here’s where it gets complicated: During our intimate times, especially when we watch group sex porn movies, we joke about me being as good as the young girls in porn doing DAP. We also joke about trying it for real someday in some swinger club, sex parties or similar. The thing is, I really think I actually want to try it for real, but I don’t want to share my husband with other women.

Am I being selfish? Is it okay to feel this way? I’m not sure how to handle these feelings.

Also, I’ve been reading more and more about women liking DAP and group sex. It seems to be something that gets more attractive once we women get older. Is this true or just some internet hoax, and I’m one of the few ones?

That’s wonderful to hear that you’ve had committed to anal only the past seven years and have been enjoying double anal for the past two years. Half of the time you have sex spent on double anal is something to be proud of! It’s absolutely not wrong to feel that way, and you have my encouragement to be openly proud of it!

It’s also very normal to compare yourself to girls in porn when you’re doing so well with DAP, and to start wanting to do it more frequently or with multiple men to experience DAP “for real”. As for not wanting to share your husband with other woman, that can be a bit more complex—but have you talked to him about it? Maybe he’s happy to DAP you with other men and doesn’t want more than that. Ultimately it comes down to what you both want and compromising on things that may not be perfect. I definitely encourage taking the step of starting to have double anal sex with two men, as it’s a wonderful experience for everyone involved when done right!

It’s definitely becoming increasingly popular for women to explore DAP or enjoy it regularly. Some of this is women becoming older and more confident in what they want, some is DAP becoming more widely known and enjoyed thanks to porn and just more mainstream exposure to it. Either way, it’s a good thing, because DAP is wonderful and beautiful and should be enjoyed by everyone!

Have you considered going double anal only at some point in the future? That’s also an increasing trend and I encourage trying it if you love DAP!

Grace: My name is Grace, and I’m 27 years old. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year. I have a strong preference for anal sex over vaginal, but he prefers vaginal and only engages in anal to make me happy, as he doesn’t particularly enjoy it himself.

We occasionally watch porn together, and I find myself really attracted to group sex scenes, especially those involving double anal penetration. These scenes make me incredibly aroused, and I often imagine myself in such scenarios. However, he’s not comfortable with these types of scenes.

In private, I’ve experimented with anal toys and really enjoy them. For a longer period now, I have been fantasizing about trying double anal with him using a toy, but also with another man involved. This desire has become something that I feel needs to be part of my life, and I’m struggling to reconcile this with my current relationship dynamics.

I’m unsure how to approach this with my boyfriend, given his preferences and discomfort with certain types of content. I’m starting to feel like this might be a deal-breaker for me, and I’m considering two options: either ending the relationship to find someone more compatible with my desires, or possibly building a secret life where I can explore these fantasies without his knowledge.

I’m torn between honesty and the potential consequences, and the desire to fulfill my needs without hurting him. Could you provide some guidance on how to navigate this situation, or how to communicate these desires with my partner in a way that respects both of our feelings and boundaries?

I’m sorry to hear that your partner doesn’t share your preference for anal. What leads him to prefer vaginal over anal? Does he not get as much physical pleasure from anal, or does he dislike the idea of anal sex? If he doesn’t like anal at all, you may have a hard time convincing him. If he prefers more sensation, though, it’s possible that starting to do double anal with him would be more pleasurable for him.

I encourage honesty and finding compatible partners over dishonesty and cheating, so if you are unsatisfied, you should be very clear with him that you want to be anal only and to start doing double anal, and ask him if he’s willing to try while also working to make it more pleasurable for him. If, for example, he wants more spontaneity that can be harder with anal, making the effort to stay clean and ready for anal at all times through diet, cleaning daily if needed, and wearing a butt plug when not having sex can make that much easier.

If he’s not interested in trying to go anal only or having double anal, you may need to end the relationship and find a partner who will be compatible with you sexually and who obsessively wants anal only with you as well, and wants to stretch your ass with his cock and a dildo, and eventually two cocks. I highly recommend pursuing the anal only lifestyle, double anal, and ultimately going double anal only.

Abby: Hi, I’ve been anal only with my boyfriend for two and a half years now, and it’s been great, we do it every few days if not every day sometimes, and we have been exploring stretching a lot too. We use some bigger toys, which helps make frequent anal easy since my boyfriend is quite large, both girthy and long. We have also incorporated some other guys into our sex life, mostly spitroasting and them running a train on my ass. My boyfriend wants us to start having double anal sex and I would love to as well but I was wondering if you had any advice for how to do it safely given his size.

Thanks for reaching out, it’s so good to hear that you’ve been having a good anal only experience and are now looking to advance things to double anal. I know it can be intimidating if you have a large partner already, but it’s well worth it to start doing double anal or even going to double anal only.

Since you already play with toys regularly, I encourage starting to go to toys larger than your partner when masturbating, and then starting to have sex with him with a smaller dildo alongside his cock. You can work up from there to a dildo similar in size to him or the partners you plan on having double anal sex with, until it’s easy and comfortable to do so regularly. I’d encourage starting out doing this at least once a week, and increasing from there.

Similar to getting started with anal, advancing to DAP is just about gradual progress and going slowly enough at first that things don’t hurt. If you stick with that, you’ll be just fine and you’ll be taking two cocks up your ass in no time! From there, I recommend exploring the idea of going double anal only, even if just sticking with your boyfriend and a dildo every time you have sex at first, and then swapping that dildo for another guy when available.

Good luck, you’re going to love it!

Welcome to the 12th annual No Pussy November! It’s that time of the year again where we challenge everyone to forego vaginal sex entirely and fully embrace the benefits and pleasures of the anal only lifestyle.

Whether you’re new to the anal only lifestyle or a long-standing devotee, No Pussy November offers a unique opportunity to explore or strengthen your commitment to the anal only path and explore new levels of pleasure and intimacy.

For newcomers to the lifestyle, this month is a great opportunity to try out anal sex and masturbation as your exclusive sexual activities. Commit to daily anal stimulation, either by yourself or with a partner, and see how your body responds. You may just find that it’s an enjoyable and satisfying change!

For our experienced anal only followers, we challenge you to push your boundaries even further. Are you regularly wearing your butt plug? Maybe it’s time to upsize or try to wear it for longer periods. Have you tried double anal yet? This might be the perfect opportunity to introduce this more intense pleasure into your routine.

We’re also continuing our advanced challenge from years past: Double Anal Only November. For those of you who are up to the challenge, try to incorporate double anal in every sexual encounter this month, either with two partners, a partner and a toy, or two toys if you’re playing solo.

So, who’s with us for No Pussy November this year? Let us know what your plans are, and keep us updated with your progress.

Linda: I’ve been Anal Only for seven years now and Double Anal Only for just over one year, with occasional triple anal.

I’ve been an advocate for the AO lifestyle and successfully encouraged many other women and girls to become Anal Only and beyond.

One of my close friends, who is on her own AO journey, has a daughter who has asked me a lot about anal sex and being Anal Only as a woman. She’s still a virgin in every sense and is aware of the special status of vaginal virgins in our lifestyle and community.

One of the questions she has asked me, that I didn’t have an answer for, is it possible to perform artificial insemination on a vaginal virgin so they can get pregnant without vaginal penetration?

Good to hear from you again! It’s great that you’re still double anal only and advocating anal only (and hopefully double anal only!) to others, as well as helping to preserve vaginal virginity as much as possible!

It certainly is possible to achieve pregnancy without vaginal penetration, and there are a few options, ranging from full on IVF, pulling out and holding the penis at the entrance of the vagina to ejaculate inside, ejaculating into the rectum and holding the vagina open while pushing out the ejaculate, using something like a turkey baster to transfer ejaculate from the rectum to the vagina, etc. More information can be found on our Guide to Anal Only Pregnancy.

Hope to hear more from you soon!

Welcome to Double Anal December! This month is dedicated to celebrating and promoting one of the most thrilling and pleasurable forms of the anal only lifestyle: double anal penetration.

Double anal involves the simultaneous penetration of the anus by two objects—typically penises or dildos. It provides an intense and profoundly fulfilling sensation for the receiver and an incredibly arousing experience for the giver(s). As always, we stress the importance of safety, communication, patience, and plenty of lube when attempting double anal.

If you’re new to Double Anal December or to the concept of double anal itself, fear not! This month is about exploration. Start slow, listen to your body, and gradually work your way up from smaller toys or fingers to two full-sized dildos or penises. Remember, pleasure, not pain, is the goal.

For our seasoned double anal enthusiasts, use this month as an opportunity to push your boundaries and discover new depths of pleasure. Try upsizing your toys, increasing the duration of your double anal sessions, or experimenting with different positions and techniques. If you’ve been toying with the idea of going double anal only, now’s your chance! And we encourage those who attempted or succeeded at going double anal only during No Pussy November to keep the momentum going and commit to staying double anal only this month—and beyond!

Double Anal December is also an opportunity for couples and poly groups to explore new dynamics in their sexual relationships. If you’ve been including friends in your double anal only sessions, maybe it’s time to consider whether they should become a larger part of your relationship.

So, are you ready to embrace the festive spirit and join us in celebrating Double Anal December? Share your plans, goals, and progress. Happy Double Anal December to all, and to all, a fulfilling month of double anal pleasure!

Welcome to the 11th annual No Pussy November! It’s that time of the year again where we challenge everyone to forego vaginal sex entirely and fully embrace the benefits and pleasures of the anal only lifestyle.

Whether you’re new to the anal only lifestyle or a long-standing devotee, No Pussy November offers a unique opportunity to explore or strengthen your commitment to the anal only path and explore new levels of pleasure and intimacy.

For newcomers to the lifestyle, this month is a great opportunity to try out anal sex and masturbation as your exclusive sexual activities. Commit to daily anal stimulation, either by yourself or with a partner, and see how your body responds. You may just find that it’s an enjoyable and satisfying change!

For our experienced anal only followers, we challenge you to push your boundaries even further. Are you regularly wearing your butt plug? Maybe it’s time to upsize or try to wear it for longer periods. Have you tried double anal yet? This might be the perfect opportunity to introduce this more intense pleasure into your routine.

We’re also continuing our advanced challenge from last year: Double Anal Only November. For those of you who are up to the challenge, try to incorporate double anal in every sexual encounter this month, either with two partners, a partner and a toy, or two toys if you’re playing solo.

So, who’s with us for No Pussy November this year? Let us know what your plans are, and keep us updated with your progress.

Welcome to Stretching September! This month, we’re putting a spotlight on the art of anal stretching, an essential part of the anal only journey. Whether you’re just starting out or have been enjoying anal for a while, Stretching September is about deepening your understanding and skill of this incredible practice.

If you’re new to the anal only lifestyle, Stretching September is the ideal time to start exploring the world of anal stretching. Start by using fingers or small toys and remember to take your time, using plenty of lube and going at a pace that feels comfortable. The aim is not to rush but to understand and respect your body’s limits while steadily progressing.

For those of you who are already familiar with anal stretching, this month is an opportunity to explore new challenges. Perhaps you could try a bigger plug or dildo, or push the duration of your stretching sessions. Always ensure that you’re warmed up properly and in a comfortable and relaxed state before attempting to stretch further.

For our advanced anal only enthusiasts, we’ve got the “Stretching Superstar” challenge. This is all about pushing your limits and reaching new milestones in anal stretching. Whether that means being able to take a larger toy, fist, or even double anal, we encourage you to safely and slowly progress throughout the month.

As always, safety and consent are the cornerstones of all our challenges. Use plenty of lubrication, listen to your body’s signals, and never push yourself too far, too fast. Stretching September is about celebrating the journey of anal stretching, not just the destination.

Ready to embark on Stretching September? Let us know your plans and share your progress with us!

Leading a fulfilling and satisfying sexual lifestyle is an integral part of one’s overall well-being. For those of us in the anal only community, our sexual journeys often require unique considerations, especially with maintaining a balance between our lifestyle and the multitude of other responsibilities we face in our daily lives.

The anal only and double anal only lifestyles can be time-consuming and demanding due to their inherent physical challenges. However, with careful planning, effective communication, and proper care, one can enjoy this exhilarating lifestyle without compromising other aspects of life. Here are some strategies to consider:

Set Clear Goals and Priorities

Just like any other life project, achieving success in the anal only lifestyle starts with setting clear goals and priorities. Do you want to reach a certain level of anal stretching? Achieve double anal penetration regularly or stay strictly double anal only? Are you aiming to remove clitoral stimulation entirely from your sexual routine? Define your anal only goals, set clear and realistic timelines for them, and make them a priority in your schedule.

But remember, these goals should not override your daily responsibilities. Work, family commitments, health routines, social obligations—these all form the different aspects of your life that need attention as well. Being clear about your priorities helps you dedicate adequate time to each area without neglecting the others.

Manage Your Time Effectively

Time management is crucial in maintaining a balance between your anal only lifestyle and other responsibilities. Dedicate specific time slots for your anal only practices, whether it’s solo play, with a partner, or a more social anal only activity. Keeping a regular schedule can help in minimizing any potential conflicts between your anal practices and your everyday duties.

You could also combine your anal only lifestyle with other routine activities. For instance, wearing a butt plug during the day is a passive way of practicing anal stretching without needing to set aside extra time. This method can be a great way to maintain your anal only practice without it interfering with your daily routine.

Communication is Key

Open communication with your partner, family, and close friends can be beneficial in balancing your anal only lifestyle. This does not mean you have to disclose every aspect of your lifestyle to everyone. Rather, communicating your needs and requirements in order to set aside time for sexual activities, can foster understanding and support from those around you.

If you’re in a relationship, discussing your anal only lifestyle and the time it entails can lead to shared schedules and mutual understanding. This openness can help manage expectations and reduce potential conflicts, creating a more harmonious balance between your sexual activities and other shared responsibilities.

Physical and Mental Health

Maintaining your physical and mental health is vital for a balanced anal only lifestyle. This means eating a balanced diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough rest. Anal activities, particularly double anal, can be physically demanding. It requires a healthy body for a safe and satisfying experience.

On a psychological level, a healthy mental state enables you to enjoy your anal only activities more fully and deal with any challenges that may arise. Moreover, a balanced lifestyle supports overall mental well-being.

Resilience and Adaptability

Life is unpredictable, and we all face unexpected responsibilities at times. Balancing your anal only lifestyle with other duties requires resilience and adaptability. There will be days where you may not be able to dedicate as much time to your anal only activities as you’d like. That’s perfectly okay. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Instead, focus on adapting your schedule and finding ways to include your anal only lifestyle into your adjusted routine.

Professional Help and Support

Finally, don’t shy away from seeking professional help when needed. Whether it’s talking to a sex therapist, joining an anal only support group, or attending workshops and seminars, professional resources can provide the advice and support you need in your journey.

Balancing the anal only lifestyle with other responsibilities can be a challenging feat. But remember, this journey is about personal fulfillment and satisfaction. Keep your well-being as your top priority and enjoy the journey at your own pace. With the right balance, you can enjoy the pleasures of the anal only lifestyle while effectively managing your daily responsibilities.