Grace: My name is Grace, and I’m 27 years old. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year. I have a strong preference for anal sex over vaginal, but he prefers vaginal and only engages in anal to make me happy, as he doesn’t particularly enjoy it himself.

We occasionally watch porn together, and I find myself really attracted to group sex scenes, especially those involving double anal penetration. These scenes make me incredibly aroused, and I often imagine myself in such scenarios. However, he’s not comfortable with these types of scenes.

In private, I’ve experimented with anal toys and really enjoy them. For a longer period now, I have been fantasizing about trying double anal with him using a toy, but also with another man involved. This desire has become something that I feel needs to be part of my life, and I’m struggling to reconcile this with my current relationship dynamics.

I’m unsure how to approach this with my boyfriend, given his preferences and discomfort with certain types of content. I’m starting to feel like this might be a deal-breaker for me, and I’m considering two options: either ending the relationship to find someone more compatible with my desires, or possibly building a secret life where I can explore these fantasies without his knowledge.

I’m torn between honesty and the potential consequences, and the desire to fulfill my needs without hurting him. Could you provide some guidance on how to navigate this situation, or how to communicate these desires with my partner in a way that respects both of our feelings and boundaries?

I’m sorry to hear that your partner doesn’t share your preference for anal. What leads him to prefer vaginal over anal? Does he not get as much physical pleasure from anal, or does he dislike the idea of anal sex? If he doesn’t like anal at all, you may have a hard time convincing him. If he prefers more sensation, though, it’s possible that starting to do double anal with him would be more pleasurable for him.

I encourage honesty and finding compatible partners over dishonesty and cheating, so if you are unsatisfied, you should be very clear with him that you want to be anal only and to start doing double anal, and ask him if he’s willing to try while also working to make it more pleasurable for him. If, for example, he wants more spontaneity that can be harder with anal, making the effort to stay clean and ready for anal at all times through diet, cleaning daily if needed, and wearing a butt plug when not having sex can make that much easier.

If he’s not interested in trying to go anal only or having double anal, you may need to end the relationship and find a partner who will be compatible with you sexually and who obsessively wants anal only with you as well, and wants to stretch your ass with his cock and a dildo, and eventually two cocks. I highly recommend pursuing the anal only lifestyle, double anal, and ultimately going double anal only.

Abby: Hi, I’ve been anal only with my boyfriend for two and a half years now, and it’s been great, we do it every few days if not every day sometimes, and we have been exploring stretching a lot too. We use some bigger toys, which helps make frequent anal easy since my boyfriend is quite large, both girthy and long. We have also incorporated some other guys into our sex life, mostly spitroasting and them running a train on my ass. My boyfriend wants us to start having double anal sex and I would love to as well but I was wondering if you had any advice for how to do it safely given his size.

Thanks for reaching out, it’s so good to hear that you’ve been having a good anal only experience and are now looking to advance things to double anal. I know it can be intimidating if you have a large partner already, but it’s well worth it to start doing double anal or even going to double anal only.

Since you already play with toys regularly, I encourage starting to go to toys larger than your partner when masturbating, and then starting to have sex with him with a smaller dildo alongside his cock. You can work up from there to a dildo similar in size to him or the partners you plan on having double anal sex with, until it’s easy and comfortable to do so regularly. I’d encourage starting out doing this at least once a week, and increasing from there.

Similar to getting started with anal, advancing to DAP is just about gradual progress and going slowly enough at first that things don’t hurt. If you stick with that, you’ll be just fine and you’ll be taking two cocks up your ass in no time! From there, I recommend exploring the idea of going double anal only, even if just sticking with your boyfriend and a dildo every time you have sex at first, and then swapping that dildo for another guy when available.

Good luck, you’re going to love it!

Welcome to the 12th annual No Pussy November! It’s that time of the year again where we challenge everyone to forego vaginal sex entirely and fully embrace the benefits and pleasures of the anal only lifestyle.

Whether you’re new to the anal only lifestyle or a long-standing devotee, No Pussy November offers a unique opportunity to explore or strengthen your commitment to the anal only path and explore new levels of pleasure and intimacy.

For newcomers to the lifestyle, this month is a great opportunity to try out anal sex and masturbation as your exclusive sexual activities. Commit to daily anal stimulation, either by yourself or with a partner, and see how your body responds. You may just find that it’s an enjoyable and satisfying change!

For our experienced anal only followers, we challenge you to push your boundaries even further. Are you regularly wearing your butt plug? Maybe it’s time to upsize or try to wear it for longer periods. Have you tried double anal yet? This might be the perfect opportunity to introduce this more intense pleasure into your routine.

We’re also continuing our advanced challenge from years past: Double Anal Only November. For those of you who are up to the challenge, try to incorporate double anal in every sexual encounter this month, either with two partners, a partner and a toy, or two toys if you’re playing solo.

So, who’s with us for No Pussy November this year? Let us know what your plans are, and keep us updated with your progress.

Linda: I’ve been Anal Only for seven years now and Double Anal Only for just over one year, with occasional triple anal.

I’ve been an advocate for the AO lifestyle and successfully encouraged many other women and girls to become Anal Only and beyond.

One of my close friends, who is on her own AO journey, has a daughter who has asked me a lot about anal sex and being Anal Only as a woman. She’s still a virgin in every sense and is aware of the special status of vaginal virgins in our lifestyle and community.

One of the questions she has asked me, that I didn’t have an answer for, is it possible to perform artificial insemination on a vaginal virgin so they can get pregnant without vaginal penetration?

Good to hear from you again! It’s great that you’re still double anal only and advocating anal only (and hopefully double anal only!) to others, as well as helping to preserve vaginal virginity as much as possible!

It certainly is possible to achieve pregnancy without vaginal penetration, and there are a few options, ranging from full on IVF, pulling out and holding the penis at the entrance of the vagina to ejaculate inside, ejaculating into the rectum and holding the vagina open while pushing out the ejaculate, using something like a turkey baster to transfer ejaculate from the rectum to the vagina, etc. More information can be found on our Guide to Anal Only Pregnancy.

Hope to hear more from you soon!

Welcome to Double Anal December! This month is dedicated to celebrating and promoting one of the most thrilling and pleasurable forms of the anal only lifestyle: double anal penetration.

Double anal involves the simultaneous penetration of the anus by two objects—typically penises or dildos. It provides an intense and profoundly fulfilling sensation for the receiver and an incredibly arousing experience for the giver(s). As always, we stress the importance of safety, communication, patience, and plenty of lube when attempting double anal.

If you’re new to Double Anal December or to the concept of double anal itself, fear not! This month is about exploration. Start slow, listen to your body, and gradually work your way up from smaller toys or fingers to two full-sized dildos or penises. Remember, pleasure, not pain, is the goal.

For our seasoned double anal enthusiasts, use this month as an opportunity to push your boundaries and discover new depths of pleasure. Try upsizing your toys, increasing the duration of your double anal sessions, or experimenting with different positions and techniques. If you’ve been toying with the idea of going double anal only, now’s your chance! And we encourage those who attempted or succeeded at going double anal only during No Pussy November to keep the momentum going and commit to staying double anal only this month—and beyond!

Double Anal December is also an opportunity for couples and poly groups to explore new dynamics in their sexual relationships. If you’ve been including friends in your double anal only sessions, maybe it’s time to consider whether they should become a larger part of your relationship.

So, are you ready to embrace the festive spirit and join us in celebrating Double Anal December? Share your plans, goals, and progress. Happy Double Anal December to all, and to all, a fulfilling month of double anal pleasure!

Welcome to the 11th annual No Pussy November! It’s that time of the year again where we challenge everyone to forego vaginal sex entirely and fully embrace the benefits and pleasures of the anal only lifestyle.

Whether you’re new to the anal only lifestyle or a long-standing devotee, No Pussy November offers a unique opportunity to explore or strengthen your commitment to the anal only path and explore new levels of pleasure and intimacy.

For newcomers to the lifestyle, this month is a great opportunity to try out anal sex and masturbation as your exclusive sexual activities. Commit to daily anal stimulation, either by yourself or with a partner, and see how your body responds. You may just find that it’s an enjoyable and satisfying change!

For our experienced anal only followers, we challenge you to push your boundaries even further. Are you regularly wearing your butt plug? Maybe it’s time to upsize or try to wear it for longer periods. Have you tried double anal yet? This might be the perfect opportunity to introduce this more intense pleasure into your routine.

We’re also continuing our advanced challenge from last year: Double Anal Only November. For those of you who are up to the challenge, try to incorporate double anal in every sexual encounter this month, either with two partners, a partner and a toy, or two toys if you’re playing solo.

So, who’s with us for No Pussy November this year? Let us know what your plans are, and keep us updated with your progress.

Welcome to Stretching September! This month, we’re putting a spotlight on the art of anal stretching, an essential part of the anal only journey. Whether you’re just starting out or have been enjoying anal for a while, Stretching September is about deepening your understanding and skill of this incredible practice.

If you’re new to the anal only lifestyle, Stretching September is the ideal time to start exploring the world of anal stretching. Start by using fingers or small toys and remember to take your time, using plenty of lube and going at a pace that feels comfortable. The aim is not to rush but to understand and respect your body’s limits while steadily progressing.

For those of you who are already familiar with anal stretching, this month is an opportunity to explore new challenges. Perhaps you could try a bigger plug or dildo, or push the duration of your stretching sessions. Always ensure that you’re warmed up properly and in a comfortable and relaxed state before attempting to stretch further.

For our advanced anal only enthusiasts, we’ve got the “Stretching Superstar” challenge. This is all about pushing your limits and reaching new milestones in anal stretching. Whether that means being able to take a larger toy, fist, or even double anal, we encourage you to safely and slowly progress throughout the month.

As always, safety and consent are the cornerstones of all our challenges. Use plenty of lubrication, listen to your body’s signals, and never push yourself too far, too fast. Stretching September is about celebrating the journey of anal stretching, not just the destination.

Ready to embark on Stretching September? Let us know your plans and share your progress with us!

Leading a fulfilling and satisfying sexual lifestyle is an integral part of one’s overall well-being. For those of us in the anal only community, our sexual journeys often require unique considerations, especially with maintaining a balance between our lifestyle and the multitude of other responsibilities we face in our daily lives.

The anal only and double anal only lifestyles can be time-consuming and demanding due to their inherent physical challenges. However, with careful planning, effective communication, and proper care, one can enjoy this exhilarating lifestyle without compromising other aspects of life. Here are some strategies to consider:

Set Clear Goals and Priorities

Just like any other life project, achieving success in the anal only lifestyle starts with setting clear goals and priorities. Do you want to reach a certain level of anal stretching? Achieve double anal penetration regularly or stay strictly double anal only? Are you aiming to remove clitoral stimulation entirely from your sexual routine? Define your anal only goals, set clear and realistic timelines for them, and make them a priority in your schedule.

But remember, these goals should not override your daily responsibilities. Work, family commitments, health routines, social obligations—these all form the different aspects of your life that need attention as well. Being clear about your priorities helps you dedicate adequate time to each area without neglecting the others.

Manage Your Time Effectively

Time management is crucial in maintaining a balance between your anal only lifestyle and other responsibilities. Dedicate specific time slots for your anal only practices, whether it’s solo play, with a partner, or a more social anal only activity. Keeping a regular schedule can help in minimizing any potential conflicts between your anal practices and your everyday duties.

You could also combine your anal only lifestyle with other routine activities. For instance, wearing a butt plug during the day is a passive way of practicing anal stretching without needing to set aside extra time. This method can be a great way to maintain your anal only practice without it interfering with your daily routine.

Communication is Key

Open communication with your partner, family, and close friends can be beneficial in balancing your anal only lifestyle. This does not mean you have to disclose every aspect of your lifestyle to everyone. Rather, communicating your needs and requirements in order to set aside time for sexual activities, can foster understanding and support from those around you.

If you’re in a relationship, discussing your anal only lifestyle and the time it entails can lead to shared schedules and mutual understanding. This openness can help manage expectations and reduce potential conflicts, creating a more harmonious balance between your sexual activities and other shared responsibilities.

Physical and Mental Health

Maintaining your physical and mental health is vital for a balanced anal only lifestyle. This means eating a balanced diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough rest. Anal activities, particularly double anal, can be physically demanding. It requires a healthy body for a safe and satisfying experience.

On a psychological level, a healthy mental state enables you to enjoy your anal only activities more fully and deal with any challenges that may arise. Moreover, a balanced lifestyle supports overall mental well-being.

Resilience and Adaptability

Life is unpredictable, and we all face unexpected responsibilities at times. Balancing your anal only lifestyle with other duties requires resilience and adaptability. There will be days where you may not be able to dedicate as much time to your anal only activities as you’d like. That’s perfectly okay. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Instead, focus on adapting your schedule and finding ways to include your anal only lifestyle into your adjusted routine.

Professional Help and Support

Finally, don’t shy away from seeking professional help when needed. Whether it’s talking to a sex therapist, joining an anal only support group, or attending workshops and seminars, professional resources can provide the advice and support you need in your journey.

Balancing the anal only lifestyle with other responsibilities can be a challenging feat. But remember, this journey is about personal fulfillment and satisfaction. Keep your well-being as your top priority and enjoy the journey at your own pace. With the right balance, you can enjoy the pleasures of the anal only lifestyle while effectively managing your daily responsibilities.

Jane: Hey there! I’ve been loving the anal only lifestyle for ten amazing years now. I thought I’d share a bit about my journey and what has kept me on this anal-only road, and a little about my slightly unconventional living situation.

A decade ago, my love life felt like a well-worn path, comfortable but pretty predictable. Anal was like a hushed secret, but it piqued my curiosity. I discovered the AOL community and felt like I’d stumbled onto a hidden treasure. So, I decided to take the plunge and, let me tell you, I haven’t regretted it for a moment.

I know a lot of people worry about the “loose anus” thing. Yes, my bum has gotten more flexible over the years, but boy, has it been a fun ride! Our society has this tight-is-right mindset. But bodies are meant to change, adapt, and let’s not forget, experience pleasure! As my anus became more flexible, my sexual experiences escalated to levels I never imagined.

Enter the double anal part of my story. Single anal was awesome, but as my bum got more accommodating, I decided it was time to up the ante. Double anal seemed daunting at first, but with plenty of prep (and a metric ton of lube!), it’s been a source of power, pleasure, and even pride. Today, I wear my “double anal only” badge with a sense of accomplishment, and my newfound bum flexibility has made this exciting journey possible.

As a double anal only woman, I live with two fantastic partners. We share an understanding, a unique bond, and a mutual respect for each other’s pleasure. Living together means navigating the practicalities of life while maintaining the thrill of our sexual dynamic. There’s always open communication, loads of fun, and, of course, plenty of double anal! And yes, every time we have sex, it’s with both of them in my ass together. When only one of them is around, we do oral instead.

For anyone who’s worried about anal only changing your body, remember this: change is growth. It’s about pushing boundaries, exploring new forms of pleasure, and most importantly, embracing every part of yourself. If you’re thinking about starting the anal only journey, dive in! This community is here to offer support, share experiences, and shower understanding. We’re all about acceptance, celebration, and breaking societal norms.

Here’s to another decade of living anal only, challenging norms, and embracing the wild, wonderful, and pleasurable changes. Remember, there’s no shame in pursuing pleasure, no disgrace in body changes, and absolutely no fear in being your true self.

Becky: Hi! Last year I messaged you asking about girls who had gone double anal only and how much the idea excited me. I really appreciated your response on how to go double anal only myself and I started training with dildos almost immediately. I started by going straight to my biggest dildo whenever I masturbated so I would stretch more, and then once I did that for a few days I tried putting two smaller and then medium size dildos in, and eventually ended up getting another big dildo because I wanted even more and started masturbating with two big ones (about the size of two large penises) almost every day for a couple months. I was loving it!

I started looking for guys who might be interested this on dating and hookup apps and kind of struck out for a while but then I found a guy who really loved gaping girls and big anal stretches and most importantly was really into anal only like me. I told him I wanted to go double anal only with two guys and he was really into the idea but didn’t know anyone else who would be a good fit in the arrangement. Still, we met up and we started having sex with one of my big dildos and him (also big) in my ass. Amazing! I loved it, and so did he, but I really wanted to go double anal only with two men still.

Well, my roommate is a bisexual man and one day when my boyfriend and I were having sex at home alone he walked in. I’ve talked a little bit about sex with him before and that I was anal only, and we shared appreciation for anal sex, but I didn’t tell him much more or pursue it because I thought it might be a bad idea to mix sex with a roommate. Now, he walked in and saw my boyfriend fucking my ass with a big dildo in there impossible to miss. Nothing happened, we stopped and he apologized for walking in and that was that.

But then a few days later he brought it up and apologized again but said that he didn’t know I loved anal quite that much and asked me about double anal and how I liked it. I told him about how I’d been craving double anal and double anal only for a long time and my boyfriend loved it too and we’d only ever had sex with both him and the dildo and how we really wanted to find another guy to do double anal only with full time. At this, he said that he was interested in that if we wanted to try. I didn’t know what to do at first because I didn’t want to complicate my living situation, but I told him I would talk to my boyfriend.

Obviously we ended up trying it and invited him to join us. Our first time together I gave them both blowjobs and then we got into a cowgirl position with me on top of my boyfriend and my roommate standing and penetrating my anus from above. It felt so good to have two real penises in me finally and I knew this was what I really wanted. I had been orgasming from double anal sex only for a while, but this was a particularly memorable time and I actually orgasmed twice in a row.

After, we all talked and decided to try being a three-way relationship together and it’s gone really well, my boyfriend has moved in as well and now we have sex together almost every day with both of them together in my ass and we’ve actually never done it with just one of them. I wanted to be very strict with double anal only and since I have both guys now we don’t even do it with one and the dildo anymore, just both men. It’s been over a year now since we first started together and we have no plans to stop.

I’m very happy and so are they and I want to thank you so much for inspiring me and helping me to do this! I really recommend it to everyone, anal only is amazing but double anal only is so much better.

Thank you so much for following up, it’s great to hear back from you and I’m so happy that it worked out and you’ve been able to do switch to double anal only! As I keep hearing from more double anal only women, it really seems like there’s a slow revolution forming as more people transition to anal only and those who like multiple partners and a bigger stretch are transitioning even further to double anal only. I love it and hope to see the double anal only lifestyle become increasingly mainstream and bring anal only along with it into total normalcy.