Introducing Double Anal: Exploring New Depths with Your Partner
For women drawn to the unique fullness, connection, and intensity of double anal sex (DAP), the desire can feel both thrilling and intimidating. Many have fantasized about it — the taboo, the closeness, the surrender — but don’t know how to begin, or how to even talk about it with a partner.
We are here to tell you: yes, it’s absolutely possible — and more than that, it can be empowering, deeply intimate, and even life-changing. Whether you’ve already embraced the anal only lifestyle or are simply curious, double anal is a natural next step for those ready to go deeper — both physically and spiritually.
The Appeal of Double Anal
So why are more women openly embracing double anal?
- Intense fullness: Double anal offers an incomparable physical sensation — the stretch, the pressure, the depth.
- Erotic surrender: It requires trust, relaxation, and letting go — things that can deepen intimacy with your partner.
- Total commitment to anal only: For many, it’s the purest form of the lifestyle — a full rejection of vaginal sex and a full embrace of anal connection, where even multiple men share your ass rather than using your vagina.
And you don’t have to jump right into a two-man experience. You can start where you are — by yourself or with the man you trust most.
How to Introduce the Idea to Your Partner
If you’re craving double anal but aren’t sure how to bring it up, you’re not alone — even in open, trusting relationships, certain fantasies can feel intimidating to share. But the truth is, most partners want to know what turns you on — especially when you present it with excitement and clarity.
Here’s how to ease into the conversation:
1. Frame it as a shared adventure
Instead of saying, “I want double anal,” try:
“I’ve been fantasizing about something a little more intense… something we could explore together.”
This invites curiosity rather than pressure.
2. Share your why
Be honest about what excites you — whether it’s the fullness, the submission, the symbolism, or the idea of deepening your bond. If you already practice anal only together, this is a natural next step.
You might say:
“I’ve loved the intimacy we share with anal, and I’ve been wondering what it would feel like to take it even further — just you and me, plus a toy.”
3. Normalize it with facts or fantasy
Double anal might be taboo, but it’s also a common fantasy. You can reference erotic stories, videos, or even this blog. Let him know it’s not weird — it’s wildly hot.
If he’s nervous or surprised, let him process. Curiosity often grows once the seed is planted.
4. Start small and let him lead too
Make it clear that this isn’t about replacing or minimizing him — it’s about growing together. If he’s open, you can shop for a toy together, or plan a night to explore it gently.
Starting at Home: Your Partner + a Dildo
One of the easiest, most comfortable ways to begin exploring double anal is by using two dildos or by combining your partner’s penis with a toy to simulate DAP while you control the pace.
Tips for Getting Started:
- Have an open conversation
Let your partner know what you’re craving — not just physically, but emotionally. Emphasize your trust in them and your desire to explore this together. - Pick the right toy
A realistic silicone dildo with a softer outside and rigid core is ideal for DAP. It simulates the natural give of a real second penis and can be much easier than a fully rigid toy. - Prep matters
DAP requires more preparation than solo anal. Spend extra time on warm-up (with plugs or fingers) and plenty of lube. Even if you can do single anal without much lube, you’ll need more for double anal. - Positioning is everything
Experiment with different positions, as some might be easier to start with than others. Doggy style with your partner behind you and the toy inserted first is often a great way to start. Or have him enter first, and then slowly guide the toy in. Cowgirl positions (with you on top) allow you the most control, but may be harder to insert the dildo at first. - Breathe, relax, and listen to your body
It’s okay to take breaks, laugh, adjust, and try again. You’re creating a new shared experience — don’t rush perfection.
Moving Toward True DAP: Opening the Door to a Second Partner
Once you’ve experienced the sensation and intimacy of simulated DAP, it’s natural to consider expanding into a two-man scenario. This is a personal decision, and should only be done with full consent, communication, and preparation.
Ask Yourself:
- Am I emotionally ready for a second man in this space?
- Is my partner open to this, or does he just want to stick with us and a dildo?
- Do I want this for the sensation, the submission, the symbolism — or all three?
You’re allowed to want it all. And you’re allowed to go at your own pace.
Some women arrange threesomes where their male partner remains fully involved — choosing the second man, setting the rules, and keeping the focus on you.
Others explore anonymous or semi-anonymous arrangements, often facilitated by trusted communities online.
Whatever your path, remember: your body, your boundaries, your rules.
Why Double Anal Only?
Choosing to go double anal only — as a commitment, a lifestyle, a sexual philosophy — takes things even further.
It’s more intense, moving beyond single anal penetration to commit to always have sex with two partners in your ass every time you have sex. It’s a total renunciation of vaginal sex in all its forms. It says, “My pleasure, my power, my path, all go through one place — and I’m proud of it.”
Women who’ve made this choice describe feeling:
- More focused and connected to their partners, and feeling the joy of pleasuring them both anally at the same time
- Freed from expectation — many women initially feel the need to stay anally tight, whereas double anal allows them to embrace loose gaping and still provide incredible pleasure
- Turned on by their own discipline and commitment — by first giving up vaginal sex and then giving up single anal, and staying committed to it, it creates a life of disciplined pleasure that just grows the more the commitment remains
- A life of increased pleasure — double anal is like anal, but even better, with more stimulation, more intense stretching, more pleasure, and far greater orgasms from two partners moving inside your ass.
It’s a bold stand. And one you can work toward, little by little, with each intimate experience. You don’t need to rush. You don’t need to be perfect. And you absolutely don’t need permission. If your body craves fullness, if your heart longs to give up the old norms, if your fantasies linger on two shafts pressing deep and filling you up completely — embrace it. Talk to your partner. Try it once. Try it again.
This is your journey to double anal only. Start it tonight.