Liz94: I grew up in the LDS church with a strong belief in saving myself for marriage and preserving my virginity. So when I first heard about the anal only lifestyle, I was intrigued by the idea of maintaining my vaginal virginity while still having fulfilling sexual experiences. I never imagined that I would end up fully embracing the lifestyle, but that’s exactly what happened.

When I first started experimenting with anal sex, it was simply a way to preserve my virginity and satisfy my sexual desires. But as I learned more about the lifestyle, I discovered that there was so much more to it. The focus on anal pleasure, the deeper connection with my partner, and the increased intimacy all had a profound impact on me.

I soon realized that this was more than just a temporary solution; it was a way of life. After leaving the Mormon church, I was faced with the question of whether to continue with the anal only lifestyle or not. But after much thought and consideration, I decided to embrace it fully. The benefits of anal sex, both physically and emotionally, far outweighed any societal norms or expectations.

I was finally able to fully embrace my sexuality and enjoy the deep pleasure that comes with anal sex. I’m now a firm believer in the anal only lifestyle and I’ve never looked back. It’s been a journey filled with growth, self-discovery, and amazing sexual experiences. And I’m so grateful for this blog for providing a supportive community and a wealth of information to help me along the way.

Anonymous: I have a question regarding the lifestyle. My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months now and she has recently expressed her preference for anal sex. She says it feels better for her and she would like us to move towards an anal only lifestyle. I have to admit, I am a bit hesitant about this. I have always been used to vaginal sex and the thought of giving that up is a bit hard. Also, I am worried about the pain and discomfort for her with transitioning to only having anal sex. But I also want to make sure that I am giving her the best possible sexual experience. What should I do in this situation? How can I make sure that we both enjoy the experience and make the transition to an anal only lifestyle as smooth as possible?

Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re a lucky guy to have a girlfriend who is so open with what she wants and needs, and who loves and prefers anal.

Have you done anal together yet? It sounds like perhaps not, if you are concerned about it hurting her. If she prefers it, chances are it’s very pleasurable for her and not going to be a problem with pain or discomfort, even if you switch to doing it full time.

As for giving up vaginal, that honestly is going to be a far better experience for both of you in the long run. Anal is more pleasurable and exciting when done well, and the more you do it the better it gets. Plus it’s natural birth control and you don’t have to worry about pregnancy scares with it. Once you’ve been anal only for a few months, you won’t miss vaginal at all and you won’t want to go back to it.

Tess03: Hey, I’ve been anal only for a while now and it’s been amazing but my boyfriend wants me to try ass to mouth and I’m not sure if I’m ready for that or even want to try it. Is it safe and what should I know?

Hey, glad to hear you’ve been enjoying anal only! Ass to mouth, or ATM, can be super fun and enjoyable and a lot of women truly enjoy making it a part of their regular sexual routine. Yes, it may seem daunting at first, but with proper communication, consent, and sanitation, it’s a safe and enjoyable practice to incorporate into your anal only lifestyle.

First off, let’s talk about the physical side of things. It’s always important to properly clean yourself and any toys or partners before and after any anal play to minimize the risk of bacterial transmission. However, the risk is much lower with your own body’s bacteria than with someone else’s anyway.

As for the emotional side of things — the trust and intimacy involved in ass to mouth play can enhance the overall pleasure and connection in a sexual encounter. It’s all about pushing boundaries and discovering new heights of ecstasy.

But, as always, it’s important to remember that everyone’s boundaries and comfort levels are different. If you’re not feeling it, don’t feel pressured to try it. If you’re curious and want to give it a shot, go for it!

Anonymous: I have always been curious about the Anal Only Lifestyle, but I’m worried about the pain and discomfort that I’ve heard can be associated with anal sex. What can I do to prepare for and minimize pain during anal sex?

Pain and discomfort during anal sex can be a concern for many people, but it is often caused by a lack of preparation and proper technique. There are a few things you can do to prepare for and minimize pain during anal sex:

1. Start small: Begin with small, thin toys or fingers and gradually work your way up to larger toys or a partner’s penis. This will help your body adjust to the sensation and decrease the risk of pain or discomfort.
2. Use lubrication: Lubrication is essential for comfortable and enjoyable anal sex. Make sure to use a high-quality lubricant that is specifically formulated for anal sex.
3. Communicate with your partner: Communication is key when it comes to anal sex. Make sure to talk openly with your partner about your boundaries and any discomfort you may be feeling. This will help them understand what you need to feel comfortable and safe.
4. Take your time: Anal sex can be rushed, causing discomfort and pain. Make sure to take your time and relax, allowing your body to adjust to the sensation.
5. Practice good hygiene: Make sure to clean yourself thoroughly before engaging in anal sex to prevent any potential infections.

Remember that everyone’s comfort levels and pain tolerance are different and that it is essential to communicate openly and make sure that all parties are consenting and comfortable with the activity. Additionally, if you aren’t yet experienced with anal sex, you may not quite want to make the transition to anal only unless you have not had any sex yet and want to go straight to being anal only. Take your time and adjust to it.

Samantha: I recently heard of “anal only”. I find sexual psychology very interesting and I was browsing around trying to understand why anyone on planet earth would ever want to have anal sex, especially anal only. what goes through someone’s mind when they decide to use the anus for sex?

Thanks for the question! The anus contains a high concentration of nerve endings that feel really good when stimulated, the sensation of being filled is greater with anal, and it’s possible to orgasm easily from penetration alone without clitoral stimulation from anal. It’s also natural birth control, which is a great advantage!

For men, it’s tighter, it’s not self lubricating so there isn’t an issue with loss of sensation like happens often with vaginal, it’s got more of a grippy feeling, and it has a greater feeling of intimacy and being primally and naturally the right thing to be doing.

It’s also just sexy to reject the reproductive-centric norm of vaginal sex and replace it with pure anal.

Hanna: I’m Anal Only almost 10 years and happily married with my husband 7 years. He supports me in my passion in every way. We sometimes watch anal-centric porn movies and I really like to see a good action. This includes a nice, big, round anal gape. We are regularly having anal sex but I never was capable of showing such a gape like in the movies even though I am relaxed and pretty good stretched. What can I do to surprise my husband with such a nice big round anal gape myself? Any advices?

Congratulations on 10 years of anal only! How regularly do you have anal sex? If you can do it more often, that can help somewhat. Wearing a butt plug that has a thick neck can also help with more stretching.

You can also practice more anal muscle exercises to relax and control them more easily and practice spreading and holding open your anus after he pulls out which can help more with anal gaping.

Jess: If my husband doesn’t want to have anal sex due to religious beliefs and only wants vaginal sex, would anal sex with another partner be cheating if we only do anal and not vaginal sex? Vaginal sex will only be for him and my ass for play. I think as long as I maintain the vagina just for him, then I am not really cheating since he doesn’t want anal, right?

This depends entirely on your relationship and dynamic with your husband. Most people consider cheating to be any sexual or romantic activity with another partner without everyone agreeing that you aren’t monogamous.

If your husband agrees to let you be anal only with another partner, then it’s not cheating.

I’d encourage moving past vaginal sex entirely and going fully anal only, even if that means not having sex with your husband anymore. Perhaps he would agree to go oral only instead, where you simply give him blowjobs but he doesn’t use your vagina?

Jess: Does an anal creampie allow your body to absorb more testosterone via the colon? I have low libido since starting menopause and I wanted to use a testosterone supplement or simply ask my doctor for testosterone prescription to help increase my libido, but I am intrigued that maybe I can do this the natural way and see if this method can raise my own levels. Any tips on this? I have been swallowing but doesn’t seem to be working, should I try retaining it in my colon? Has anyone tried this?

While I am not sure on the amount of testosterone in semen compared to other supplement sources, rectal absorption is a great proven way of getting other known benefits from semen and is also commonly used to administer drugs and supplements especially in cases where oral consumption may prevent it from being properly absorbed due to stomach acid breaking it down. Anal absorption also tends to work faster.

In addition to the potential benefits of semen absorption, you will likely find that your libido increases by eliminating any clitoral and vaginal stimulation and focusing purely on anal stimulation. This tends to be a massive arousal boost, especially with the exclusion of clitoral stimulation and orgasm and learning to orgasm from anal only, because you won’t get the loss of arousal post orgasm that comes with clit stimulation.

AubreyS: Hey! I went anal only with my husband in 2020 and we both really love it, we enjoy anal play a lot and have a really wonderful balance of him fucking my ass and me using dildos and strapons on him, and it’s really fulfilling. Neither of us miss vaginal sex at all!

But, we’d like to take it to the next level and stop clit stimulation for me too so I’m getting only anal stimulation and feel like we’re truly anal only. My husband wants this and finds it really arousing, but I honestly really want it too, the idea makes me super hot and I feel like my clit has held me back to some extent from true anal only.

I’ve been really addicted to my clit all my life, though, and giving it up is harder than expected. Do you have any advice?

Hey, that’s awesome that you have such a great anal only relationship together! I’m glad you’re committed to anal only and are ready to stop clit stimulation as well! There are a lot of benefits, including more intense pure anal orgasms and a total boost in desire when you eliminate the distraction and loss of arousal that clit stimulation brings.

I’d encourage trying a few different things:

• When you feel the urge to touch your clit, rub and finger your anus instead, clench down on a butt plug if you have one inside, or if riding a dildo or your husband’s penis, focus on the feeling inside your ass and thrust down deeper onto it. Really work on redirecting that clitoral arousal into an anal focus instead.
• Get and apply a topical anesthetic whenever masturbating or having sex so that even if you do touch your clit, you can’t stimulate it due to temporary lack of sensation. You can get mild anesthetics at most pharmacies over the counter, including Orajel and others intended for dental pain.
• Try taking it gradually. Giving up clit stimulation is more difficult for many women than giving up vaginal penetration, so this challenge is fairly common. See if you can get through a day without using your clit, then add another day. After a few days, try for a week. If you get through the week, see about going two weeks, or a whole month. Before you know it, you’ll have gone so long without it you won’t be as desperate for it, and you’ll have built up such a streak that you won’t want to go back. And if you do slip up, don’t feel too bad about it. It’s a part of the process oftentimes. Just jump right back in and keep going.
• If all else fails, you could consider a clit shield or chastity belt.

Good luck, and I’m sure before long you’ll be totally clit free and living the pure anal only life you want!

Anonymous: Hi! I’ve been following this blog for a long time (I hope you’re still active!), and I’ve been anal only with my current and previous boyfriend for a few years now. I love it and so does my boyfriend, and I really like the idea of encouraging my friends to do it too! I’m not sure how to really bring it up, though, do you have any suggestions?

I’m glad being anal only has been such a positive experience for you that you want to share it with others! If your friends are more sexually open minded and you talk about sex on some level with them already, wait for one of those moments talking about your sex lives or what you like and bring up that you and your boyfriend are anal only and that you really love anal and prefer it to vaginal, and if they show any interest or curiosity encourage them to try it out as well. That’s probably the easiest approach!