Anonymous: I have always been curious about the Anal Only Lifestyle, but I’m worried about the pain and discomfort that I’ve heard can be associated with anal sex. What can I do to prepare for and minimize pain during anal sex?

Pain and discomfort during anal sex can be a concern for many people, but it is often caused by a lack of preparation and proper technique. There are a few things you can do to prepare for and minimize pain during anal sex:

1. Start small: Begin with small, thin toys or fingers and gradually work your way up to larger toys or a partner’s penis. This will help your body adjust to the sensation and decrease the risk of pain or discomfort.
2. Use lubrication: Lubrication is essential for comfortable and enjoyable anal sex. Make sure to use a high-quality lubricant that is specifically formulated for anal sex.
3. Communicate with your partner: Communication is key when it comes to anal sex. Make sure to talk openly with your partner about your boundaries and any discomfort you may be feeling. This will help them understand what you need to feel comfortable and safe.
4. Take your time: Anal sex can be rushed, causing discomfort and pain. Make sure to take your time and relax, allowing your body to adjust to the sensation.
5. Practice good hygiene: Make sure to clean yourself thoroughly before engaging in anal sex to prevent any potential infections.

Remember that everyone’s comfort levels and pain tolerance are different and that it is essential to communicate openly and make sure that all parties are consenting and comfortable with the activity. Additionally, if you aren’t yet experienced with anal sex, you may not quite want to make the transition to anal only unless you have not had any sex yet and want to go straight to being anal only. Take your time and adjust to it.

Samantha: I recently heard of “anal only”. I find sexual psychology very interesting and I was browsing around trying to understand why anyone on planet earth would ever want to have anal sex, especially anal only. what goes through someone’s mind when they decide to use the anus for sex?

Thanks for the question! The anus contains a high concentration of nerve endings that feel really good when stimulated, the sensation of being filled is greater with anal, and it’s possible to orgasm easily from penetration alone without clitoral stimulation from anal. It’s also natural birth control, which is a great advantage!

For men, it’s tighter, it’s not self lubricating so there isn’t an issue with loss of sensation like happens often with vaginal, it’s got more of a grippy feeling, and it has a greater feeling of intimacy and being primally and naturally the right thing to be doing.

It’s also just sexy to reject the reproductive-centric norm of vaginal sex and replace it with pure anal.

Hanna: I’m Anal Only almost 10 years and happily married with my husband 7 years. He supports me in my passion in every way. We sometimes watch anal-centric porn movies and I really like to see a good action. This includes a nice, big, round anal gape. We are regularly having anal sex but I never was capable of showing such a gape like in the movies even though I am relaxed and pretty good stretched. What can I do to surprise my husband with such a nice big round anal gape myself? Any advices?

Congratulations on 10 years of anal only! How regularly do you have anal sex? If you can do it more often, that can help somewhat. Wearing a butt plug that has a thick neck can also help with more stretching.

You can also practice more anal muscle exercises to relax and control them more easily and practice spreading and holding open your anus after he pulls out which can help more with anal gaping.

Jess: If my husband doesn’t want to have anal sex due to religious beliefs and only wants vaginal sex, would anal sex with another partner be cheating if we only do anal and not vaginal sex? Vaginal sex will only be for him and my ass for play. I think as long as I maintain the vagina just for him, then I am not really cheating since he doesn’t want anal, right?

This depends entirely on your relationship and dynamic with your husband. Most people consider cheating to be any sexual or romantic activity with another partner without everyone agreeing that you aren’t monogamous.

If your husband agrees to let you be anal only with another partner, then it’s not cheating.

I’d encourage moving past vaginal sex entirely and going fully anal only, even if that means not having sex with your husband anymore. Perhaps he would agree to go oral only instead, where you simply give him blowjobs but he doesn’t use your vagina?

Jess: Does an anal creampie allow your body to absorb more testosterone via the colon? I have low libido since starting menopause and I wanted to use a testosterone supplement or simply ask my doctor for testosterone prescription to help increase my libido, but I am intrigued that maybe I can do this the natural way and see if this method can raise my own levels. Any tips on this? I have been swallowing but doesn’t seem to be working, should I try retaining it in my colon? Has anyone tried this?

While I am not sure on the amount of testosterone in semen compared to other supplement sources, rectal absorption is a great proven way of getting other known benefits from semen and is also commonly used to administer drugs and supplements especially in cases where oral consumption may prevent it from being properly absorbed due to stomach acid breaking it down. Anal absorption also tends to work faster.

In addition to the potential benefits of semen absorption, you will likely find that your libido increases by eliminating any clitoral and vaginal stimulation and focusing purely on anal stimulation. This tends to be a massive arousal boost, especially with the exclusion of clitoral stimulation and orgasm and learning to orgasm from anal only, because you won’t get the loss of arousal post orgasm that comes with clit stimulation.

AubreyS: Hey! I went anal only with my husband in 2020 and we both really love it, we enjoy anal play a lot and have a really wonderful balance of him fucking my ass and me using dildos and strapons on him, and it’s really fulfilling. Neither of us miss vaginal sex at all!

But, we’d like to take it to the next level and stop clit stimulation for me too so I’m getting only anal stimulation and feel like we’re truly anal only. My husband wants this and finds it really arousing, but I honestly really want it too, the idea makes me super hot and I feel like my clit has held me back to some extent from true anal only.

I’ve been really addicted to my clit all my life, though, and giving it up is harder than expected. Do you have any advice?

Hey, that’s awesome that you have such a great anal only relationship together! I’m glad you’re committed to anal only and are ready to stop clit stimulation as well! There are a lot of benefits, including more intense pure anal orgasms and a total boost in desire when you eliminate the distraction and loss of arousal that clit stimulation brings.

I’d encourage trying a few different things:

• When you feel the urge to touch your clit, rub and finger your anus instead, clench down on a butt plug if you have one inside, or if riding a dildo or your husband’s penis, focus on the feeling inside your ass and thrust down deeper onto it. Really work on redirecting that clitoral arousal into an anal focus instead.
• Get and apply a topical anesthetic whenever masturbating or having sex so that even if you do touch your clit, you can’t stimulate it due to temporary lack of sensation. You can get mild anesthetics at most pharmacies over the counter, including Orajel and others intended for dental pain.
• Try taking it gradually. Giving up clit stimulation is more difficult for many women than giving up vaginal penetration, so this challenge is fairly common. See if you can get through a day without using your clit, then add another day. After a few days, try for a week. If you get through the week, see about going two weeks, or a whole month. Before you know it, you’ll have gone so long without it you won’t be as desperate for it, and you’ll have built up such a streak that you won’t want to go back. And if you do slip up, don’t feel too bad about it. It’s a part of the process oftentimes. Just jump right back in and keep going.
• If all else fails, you could consider a clit shield or chastity belt.

Good luck, and I’m sure before long you’ll be totally clit free and living the pure anal only life you want!

Anonymous: Hi! I’ve been following this blog for a long time (I hope you’re still active!), and I’ve been anal only with my current and previous boyfriend for a few years now. I love it and so does my boyfriend, and I really like the idea of encouraging my friends to do it too! I’m not sure how to really bring it up, though, do you have any suggestions?

I’m glad being anal only has been such a positive experience for you that you want to share it with others! If your friends are more sexually open minded and you talk about sex on some level with them already, wait for one of those moments talking about your sex lives or what you like and bring up that you and your boyfriend are anal only and that you really love anal and prefer it to vaginal, and if they show any interest or curiosity encourage them to try it out as well. That’s probably the easiest approach!

Anonymous: Hi! I am curious about combining the anal only lifestyle with being a bisexual woman. If a woman never touches her pussy nor lets it be touched when she is having sex with men, would the same apply to women? Otherwise, what sort of sexual activity would be recommended among women who want to keep the anal only lifestyle?

Ultimately it’s up to you, of course. Some anal only women allow non-penetrative vaginal/clitoral play but exclude vaginal for intercourse. Some are more strict. If you don’t touch your pussy and don’t want it to be touched, however, then I would say the same should go with female partners. Just do rimming, anal fingering, plugging and anal dildo play together and keep things purely anal only!

Anonymous: Hi! Idk how many years I’ve been AO, but it’s been a long time. I always prioritize my personal hygiene, including waxing which is a better alternative for me since it’s more effective. I never used my front part, thus not shaving or waxing my front part since i don’t bother using it, Idk if I’m the only girl who feel this way, ofc I always practice waxing for my own leisure, not for anybody else.

Some anal only women choose to remove hair from their vulva even though they don’t use it, because they prefer how it looks or feels. Others choose to wax or shave everything else but keep their vulva hairy as a symbol of its lack of use. Both can be excellent options, depending on your personal preferences. What’s really important is not using your vagina and being anal only.

Edson: Hello, I am a 25-year-old man and my girlfriend is 23 years old, we have been in a relationship for 2 years and we both have something in common that is why we get closer: we both do not want to have children, we both want to have a comfortable life without children and economically stable. She has many friends and several have become pregnant at such an early age and some with boys who do not want to start a family. I always liked anal sex a lot and I always had the fantasy of having a relationship only anal but I did not know if my girlfriend would like that. She and I for the first 6 months of our relationship she sucked my dick and we had vaginal sex until one day her menstrual period was late in coming and she was scared of being pregnant and what would happen to her like her friends. I told her that I would support her and that I was not going to leave her but she was worried, obviously I would not leave her but I was still scared. The days went by and her period came and we were relieved that she did not get pregnant.

The days began to pass but she was distant with me she did not want to have sex. After several days she told me that she did want to have sex with me but she did not want to go back to the same thing of being worried and that’s when I talked to her and told her that I will tell her something very personal and I told her my fantasy of anal sex and that I would like to have only anal and oral sex. She said that we could try it, I told her that I had never had anal sex with a girl and I was afraid to tell her why she could say no but i was really excited to do it.

She said she hadn’t had anal sex either.

The first day we started having anal sex, I put a lot of lubricant in her anus and put my fingers in her, she sucked my cock and when I was very excited I began to penetrate her anus until I ejaculated on her buttocks. I asked her what it was like and she told me that it was fine, gave me a kiss and went to bathe. We spent the next 3 days having anal sex and my girlfriend liked it more and more because she did it with more intensity and I love it because it is tighter for my penis and I love the visual. A week later she and I were in the cowgirl position with her riding on my penis with her anus and I ejaculated on her breasts.

And later when we were in the car because we were going to the bar with some of her friends, she told me, it seems that we both win with anal, you want me to suck your dick and bounce with my anus on your dick until you leave it full and I win that I can have sex without worrying about getting pregnant.

We have been like this for 18 months and we are both very happy.

That’s really wonderful, I’m so glad that the two of you realized the advantage of switching to anal only for natural birth control without needing the fear of pregnancy from vaginal sex. Anal is better in more ways than just that, of course, but the fact that it’s sex purely for pleasure without reproduction is why it should be the default way of having sex for everyone and vaginal only for getting pregnant.