Jess: If my husband doesn’t want to have anal sex due to religious beliefs and only wants vaginal sex, would anal sex with another partner be cheating if we only do anal and not vaginal sex? Vaginal sex will only be for him and my ass for play. I think as long as I maintain the vagina just for him, then I am not really cheating since he doesn’t want anal, right?

This depends entirely on your relationship and dynamic with your husband. Most people consider cheating to be any sexual or romantic activity with another partner without everyone agreeing that you aren’t monogamous.

If your husband agrees to let you be anal only with another partner, then it’s not cheating.

I’d encourage moving past vaginal sex entirely and going fully anal only, even if that means not having sex with your husband anymore. Perhaps he would agree to go oral only instead, where you simply give him blowjobs but he doesn’t use your vagina?

Jess: Does an anal creampie allow your body to absorb more testosterone via the colon? I have low libido since starting menopause and I wanted to use a testosterone supplement or simply ask my doctor for testosterone prescription to help increase my libido, but I am intrigued that maybe I can do this the natural way and see if this method can raise my own levels. Any tips on this? I have been swallowing but doesn’t seem to be working, should I try retaining it in my colon? Has anyone tried this?

While I am not sure on the amount of testosterone in semen compared to other supplement sources, rectal absorption is a great proven way of getting other known benefits from semen and is also commonly used to administer drugs and supplements especially in cases where oral consumption may prevent it from being properly absorbed due to stomach acid breaking it down. Anal absorption also tends to work faster.

In addition to the potential benefits of semen absorption, you will likely find that your libido increases by eliminating any clitoral and vaginal stimulation and focusing purely on anal stimulation. This tends to be a massive arousal boost, especially with the exclusion of clitoral stimulation and orgasm and learning to orgasm from anal only, because you won’t get the loss of arousal post orgasm that comes with clit stimulation.

AubreyS: Hey! I went anal only with my husband in 2020 and we both really love it, we enjoy anal play a lot and have a really wonderful balance of him fucking my ass and me using dildos and strapons on him, and it’s really fulfilling. Neither of us miss vaginal sex at all!

But, we’d like to take it to the next level and stop clit stimulation for me too so I’m getting only anal stimulation and feel like we’re truly anal only. My husband wants this and finds it really arousing, but I honestly really want it too, the idea makes me super hot and I feel like my clit has held me back to some extent from true anal only.

I’ve been really addicted to my clit all my life, though, and giving it up is harder than expected. Do you have any advice?

Hey, that’s awesome that you have such a great anal only relationship together! I’m glad you’re committed to anal only and are ready to stop clit stimulation as well! There are a lot of benefits, including more intense pure anal orgasms and a total boost in desire when you eliminate the distraction and loss of arousal that clit stimulation brings.

I’d encourage trying a few different things:

• When you feel the urge to touch your clit, rub and finger your anus instead, clench down on a butt plug if you have one inside, or if riding a dildo or your husband’s penis, focus on the feeling inside your ass and thrust down deeper onto it. Really work on redirecting that clitoral arousal into an anal focus instead.
• Get and apply a topical anesthetic whenever masturbating or having sex so that even if you do touch your clit, you can’t stimulate it due to temporary lack of sensation. You can get mild anesthetics at most pharmacies over the counter, including Orajel and others intended for dental pain.
• Try taking it gradually. Giving up clit stimulation is more difficult for many women than giving up vaginal penetration, so this challenge is fairly common. See if you can get through a day without using your clit, then add another day. After a few days, try for a week. If you get through the week, see about going two weeks, or a whole month. Before you know it, you’ll have gone so long without it you won’t be as desperate for it, and you’ll have built up such a streak that you won’t want to go back. And if you do slip up, don’t feel too bad about it. It’s a part of the process oftentimes. Just jump right back in and keep going.
• If all else fails, you could consider a clit shield or chastity belt.

Good luck, and I’m sure before long you’ll be totally clit free and living the pure anal only life you want!

Anonymous: Hi! I’ve been following this blog for a long time (I hope you’re still active!), and I’ve been anal only with my current and previous boyfriend for a few years now. I love it and so does my boyfriend, and I really like the idea of encouraging my friends to do it too! I’m not sure how to really bring it up, though, do you have any suggestions?

I’m glad being anal only has been such a positive experience for you that you want to share it with others! If your friends are more sexually open minded and you talk about sex on some level with them already, wait for one of those moments talking about your sex lives or what you like and bring up that you and your boyfriend are anal only and that you really love anal and prefer it to vaginal, and if they show any interest or curiosity encourage them to try it out as well. That’s probably the easiest approach!

Anonymous: Hi! I am curious about combining the anal only lifestyle with being a bisexual woman. If a woman never touches her pussy nor lets it be touched when she is having sex with men, would the same apply to women? Otherwise, what sort of sexual activity would be recommended among women who want to keep the anal only lifestyle?

Ultimately it’s up to you, of course. Some anal only women allow non-penetrative vaginal/clitoral play but exclude vaginal for intercourse. Some are more strict. If you don’t touch your pussy and don’t want it to be touched, however, then I would say the same should go with female partners. Just do rimming, anal fingering, plugging and anal dildo play together and keep things purely anal only!

Anonymous: Hi! Idk how many years I’ve been AO, but it’s been a long time. I always prioritize my personal hygiene, including waxing which is a better alternative for me since it’s more effective. I never used my front part, thus not shaving or waxing my front part since i don’t bother using it, Idk if I’m the only girl who feel this way, ofc I always practice waxing for my own leisure, not for anybody else.

Some anal only women choose to remove hair from their vulva even though they don’t use it, because they prefer how it looks or feels. Others choose to wax or shave everything else but keep their vulva hairy as a symbol of its lack of use. Both can be excellent options, depending on your personal preferences. What’s really important is not using your vagina and being anal only.

Edson: Hello, I am a 25-year-old man and my girlfriend is 23 years old, we have been in a relationship for 2 years and we both have something in common that is why we get closer: we both do not want to have children, we both want to have a comfortable life without children and economically stable. She has many friends and several have become pregnant at such an early age and some with boys who do not want to start a family. I always liked anal sex a lot and I always had the fantasy of having a relationship only anal but I did not know if my girlfriend would like that. She and I for the first 6 months of our relationship she sucked my dick and we had vaginal sex until one day her menstrual period was late in coming and she was scared of being pregnant and what would happen to her like her friends. I told her that I would support her and that I was not going to leave her but she was worried, obviously I would not leave her but I was still scared. The days went by and her period came and we were relieved that she did not get pregnant.

The days began to pass but she was distant with me she did not want to have sex. After several days she told me that she did want to have sex with me but she did not want to go back to the same thing of being worried and that’s when I talked to her and told her that I will tell her something very personal and I told her my fantasy of anal sex and that I would like to have only anal and oral sex. She said that we could try it, I told her that I had never had anal sex with a girl and I was afraid to tell her why she could say no but i was really excited to do it.

She said she hadn’t had anal sex either.

The first day we started having anal sex, I put a lot of lubricant in her anus and put my fingers in her, she sucked my cock and when I was very excited I began to penetrate her anus until I ejaculated on her buttocks. I asked her what it was like and she told me that it was fine, gave me a kiss and went to bathe. We spent the next 3 days having anal sex and my girlfriend liked it more and more because she did it with more intensity and I love it because it is tighter for my penis and I love the visual. A week later she and I were in the cowgirl position with her riding on my penis with her anus and I ejaculated on her breasts.

And later when we were in the car because we were going to the bar with some of her friends, she told me, it seems that we both win with anal, you want me to suck your dick and bounce with my anus on your dick until you leave it full and I win that I can have sex without worrying about getting pregnant.

We have been like this for 18 months and we are both very happy.

That’s really wonderful, I’m so glad that the two of you realized the advantage of switching to anal only for natural birth control without needing the fear of pregnancy from vaginal sex. Anal is better in more ways than just that, of course, but the fact that it’s sex purely for pleasure without reproduction is why it should be the default way of having sex for everyone and vaginal only for getting pregnant.

Becky: Hi! Last year I messaged you asking about girls who had gone double anal only and how much the idea excited me. I really appreciated your response on how to go double anal only myself and I started training with dildos almost immediately. I started by going straight to my biggest dildo whenever I masturbated so I would stretch more, and then once I did that for a few days I tried putting two smaller and then medium size dildos in, and eventually ended up getting another big dildo because I wanted even more and started masturbating with two big ones (about the size of two large penises) almost every day for a couple months. I was loving it!

I started looking for guys who might be interested this on dating and hookup apps and kind of struck out for a while but then I found a guy who really loved gaping girls and big anal stretches and most importantly was really into anal only like me. I told him I wanted to go double anal only with two guys and he was really into the idea but didn’t know anyone else who would be a good fit in the arrangement. Still, we met up and we started having sex with one of my big dildos and him (also big) in my ass. Amazing! I loved it, and so did he, but I really wanted to go double anal only with two men still.

Well, my roommate is a bisexual man and one day when my boyfriend and I were having sex at home alone he walked in. I’ve talked a little bit about sex with him before and that I was anal only, and we shared appreciation for anal sex, but I didn’t tell him much more or pursue it because I thought it might be a bad idea to mix sex with a roommate. Now, he walked in and saw my boyfriend fucking my ass with a big dildo in there impossible to miss. Nothing happened, we stopped and he apologized for walking in and that was that.

But then a few days later he brought it up and apologized again but said that he didn’t know I loved anal quite that much and asked me about double anal and how I liked it. I told him about how I’d been craving double anal and double anal only for a long time and my boyfriend loved it too and we’d only ever had sex with both him and the dildo and how we really wanted to find another guy to do double anal only with full time. At this, he said that he was interested in that if we wanted to try. I didn’t know what to do at first because I didn’t want to complicate my living situation, but I told him I would talk to my boyfriend.

Obviously we ended up trying it and invited him to join us. Our first time together I gave them both blowjobs and then we got into a cowgirl position with me on top of my boyfriend and my roommate standing and penetrating my anus from above. It felt so good to have two real penises in me finally and I knew this was what I really wanted. I had been orgasming from double anal sex only for a while, but this was a particularly memorable time and I actually orgasmed twice in a row.

After, we all talked and decided to try being a three-way relationship together and it’s gone really well, my boyfriend has moved in as well and now we have sex together almost every day with both of them together in my ass and we’ve actually never done it with just one of them. I wanted to be very strict with double anal only and since I have both guys now we don’t even do it with one and the dildo anymore, just both men. It’s been over a year now since we first started together and we have no plans to stop.

I’m very happy and so are they and I want to thank you so much for inspiring me and helping me to do this! I really recommend it to everyone, anal only is amazing but double anal only is so much better.

Thank you so much for following up, it’s great to hear back from you and I’m so happy that it worked out and you’ve been able to do switch to double anal only! As I keep hearing from more double anal only women, it really seems like there’s a slow revolution forming as more people transition to anal only and those who like multiple partners and a bigger stretch are transitioning even further to double anal only. I love it and hope to see the double anal only lifestyle become increasingly mainstream and bring anal only along with it into total normalcy.

Jenny32: I have been doing anal only with my boyfriend for the past couple years and I found switching from vaginal to anal to be easy, it feels better and it turns us on more and I love that he can cum in me every day and I don’t have to be on birth control. It’s been wonderful! But I admit I am still really reliant on my clitoris and my boyfriend has told me that he’d like it if I could stop rubbing myself and be totally anal only. I’d like that too, but I am not sure how to do it because it is a lot harder for me to stop. Any advice?

I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been having a great time since going anal only, and I hope that you continue to enjoy it long term. It sounds like the perfect time to give up clit stimulation and commit to pure anal only going forward, which will further strengthen and deepen your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

First, remember that it’s a process and failure is often part of any process of learning or mastering something. If you go back to clit stimulation at some point, don’t give up, just start again with not using it.

Establishing a challenge to go a week without clit stimulation can be a good way to start, and ease into it without worrying longer term just yet. Once you make it a week, try extending it another week, then to a full month, and just keep going from there.

If you end up giving in to clit stimulation, try setting your next challenge to be longer than your previous success and keep building on your past experiences from there! Before you know it, you’ll be clit free for good.

You might also try numbing creams like Orajel on your clit, which temporarily remove sensation and can be applied before sex to aid in giving up touching yourself. Also check out the page on our Guide about clitoral denial, which covers this topic in more detail!

Good luck! I’m sure you can do this!

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