misschloekittenuk: I’m trans, so anal us kinda the only way I can play anyway, but I just wanted to say I think your blog is awesome, I’d never take it any other way 🙂

Thank you! And anal being the only option for a person doesn’t make it any less awesome—one could choose to just see it as a sort of physical manifestation of the fact that anal only is the best way to be anyway.

Anonymous: While I agree with anal sex and all, I find it unsettling how biased you can get. If someone likes vaginal, fine. If someone likes anal, fine. But diminishing either of them is kinda dumb. Everyone likes different stuff, and some people weren’t build for anal, just as some people weren’t build for vaginal

This message was sent to the former counterpart of this blog on Tumblr, which illustrated anal only-themed captions with anal images and gifs.

This blog advocates the anal only lifestyle. Its bias is quite clear and not even remotely hidden. I’ll repeat it here: I’m very strongly biased in favor of anal sex over vaginal. This comes originally from my personal preferences, then from my experiences with partners and conversations with other people—men and women—who have similar preferences or experiences.

My experience is that anyone can enjoy anal sex and pleasure, but it takes different amounts of time and different approaches for different people. Most of all, however, it generally takes an interest in trying it and learning to enjoy it. If someone’s willing to do that, then they can probably enjoy it quite a lot with practice.

This blog is sometimes more fantastical than other times, and it’s also known to dip into the ridiculous and whimsical, in an attempt to not take itself too seriously. Some of the scenarios presented in captions strike a very positive and pro-anal tone, others are more from an anti-vaginal perspective. Different followers of the blog enjoy different things, so I try to strike a balance between a range of content.

Here’s my actual stance: people should do what they enjoy, but also try things if they sound interesting or appealing to them in some way to see if that’s something they would enjoy as well. I think anal is the best way to have sex and promote it as such, because it’s not only my preference but because I’ve seen hundreds—maybe thousands—of other people who have come to the same conclusion over the course of this blog and the greater anal only community and I think other people should give it a chance as well to see if it’s for them. If you try it sincerely and it’s not—great, you gave it a shot. If you do love it, even better—you found something new you really enjoy.

In my experience, though, most people who try anal with proper technique and preparation without rushing into it unprepared do enjoy it, and those who decide to try going anal only for a month or two and stay committed to it during that time usually find by the end that they really enjoy being anal only and want to keep going with it. There might be some self-selection and bias going on there as well, but the end result is more people finding that they enjoy anal or being anal only. In the end that’s what it’s all about.

I’m not forcing anyone to do anything, I’m just presenting an argument and encouraging people to try it for themselves and come to their own conclusions from there.

For more information about dating and finding new partners within the anal only lifestyle, view our guide to anal only dating.

Anonymous: I wonder if there is an anal only dating site?

There are some spam/bot-filled ones out there that claim to be anal dating sites, but I wouldn’t expect much from them. Dating based entirely around a specific sexual concept isn’t generally going to go all that well. Rather, look for someone you like in a general sense and who is sexually open-minded, and discuss becoming anal only with her or just explore anal together without any commitments at first, make it really pleasurable for her and make her feel sexy about it, and if she likes it, she’ll probably want to do more, and from there you can ease naturally towards anal only together.

The majority of anal only relationships evolve naturally in that manner. Others have luck identifying early on as being anal only and wanting an anal only relationship, with varying levels of success. Being up front works great for some, and getting to know someone a bit more first works better for others.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response:

bukkakegirlblog: As with most kinks, an anal only relationship works better on paper than in practice. I love anal sex, and I have a lot of it, but I also like to eat burritos, and sometimes the two ought not to mix, if you catch my drift. Anal only is, in my mind, a fine goal, but my pussy is fun to fuck too. I promise you won’t be disappointed by it.

To which the following rebuttal was made:

I’ll have to respectfully disagree, as evidenced by the many people out there actively living an anal only lifestyle. Now, that doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily for everyone, and that’s totally fine! But there are those of us out there who love it enough to make it work. Sure, it might sometimes be challenging in somewhat different ways compared to other forms of sex, but it can absolutely be worth it, and in general there’s less of an impact to sexual spontaneity than one might suspect.

I totally understand if it might be a fantasy for some people that they aren’t interested in making a reality, but to generalize and say that being anal only works better on paper than in practice isn’t really correct for everyone.

Furthermore, there are a lot of anal only enthusiasts out there who have no interest in vaginal sex. We would be disappointed by pussy, not out of any fault of your own or in a way that should be interpreted as critical of your pussy, but by the simple fact that we aren’t attracted to pussy or interested in fucking it and do find it a disappointment in comparison to anal. Again, not trying to suggest that your opinion is personally invalid, just that it doesn’t apply to everyone, particularly those who are anal only enthusiasts.

Happy new year to everyone in the anal only community!

A new year is an excellent time for reflection, reprioritization, and making & adjusting plans for the future, and in the past few days I’ve been thinking about where the anal only lifestyle community should go from here to best benefit everyone and grow the lifestyle further.

Here are some of my ideas that I’ll be working on and implementing in the near future. There are other plans in the works as well that I won’t be mentioning just yet, but stay tuned. I also am always open to feedback, critique and suggestions.

In the early days of the Anal Only Lifestyle blog, I often wrote more original articles on the subject of anal sex and anal only. This is something I intend to start doing again to provide an ongoing flow of deeper reading and discussion on the subject, and to have resources for those interested to refer to. Some of you have already sent in suggestions for topics, but I welcome more ideas at any time.

More anal only challenges have been requested. Traditionally, we’ve had Anal Only August and No Pussy November each year. The problem is, these are rather close together and somewhat redundant as a result. Going forward, I’m going to promote Anal Only April instead of August, to space things out and balance with No Pussy November later in the year. Those two events will be the primary general AO months to encourage people new to the anal only lifestyle to participate and try it for themselves. As always, people who are already AO can participate as well with more specific personal challenges. Beyond that, though, there will also be other occasional challenges that anyone can participate in, relating to but not necessarily always specific to anal only: clitoral denial, anal edging, long term butt plug wear, anal orgasm training, etc.

A Frequently Asked Questions page for anal sex and the anal only lifestyle has been often requested, and it’s time such a thing existed. Expect a separate announcement for this in the near future, with a page outlining the basics of how to enjoy anal sex properly, as well as the basics of anal only.

And finally, I have lots of ideas in the works for continuing to grow and expand the anal only community—the forum, the chat, and more. These are constantly evolving and growing, so please keep checking back in if it’s been a while!

Here’s to another great year!

If you aren’t already living the anal only lifestyle, the new year is a perfect opportunity to take it out of the realm of fantasy and fully embrace it going forward. Make it your new year’s resolution for 2018 to give up vaginal sex and go anal only.

If you are already anal only, this can be a chance to reassess how anal only has been for you since you’ve started, whether you want to continue, and strengthen your commitment to it if you feel that it’s what you still want. It can also be an opportunity to mix things up a bit and explore more fun and related things—whether that be clitoral denial/anal only orgasms, ass to mouth, long term plug wearing, increased anal training, more frequent anal sex, or anything else you might think of.

If you’ve been anal only in the past but fell out of the habit and are finding yourself drawn to it again, take the new year as a sign that now’s the time to get back into the anal only lifestyle. Sometimes taking a break from it can be what it takes to make you realize that being anal only full time is what you really want and to dive back in stronger than ever.

Happy new year to everyone in (and interested in) the anal only community!

Anonymous: You used to post a lot of articles, both your own and quotes and stuff from other articles you found and you would respond to, I liked that a lot. Maybe do some more of that again?

I had forgotten all about some of those!

I’d love to do more original writing/articles on various aspects of the anal only lifestyle. I made some noise about this earlier this year, asking for suggestions on topics, and received some good feedback but didn’t follow through. I’d like to correct that (and I also welcome even more suggestions on topics people would like to see covered) going forward.

I’m also open to doing some more quoting of and responding to articles/stories/online commentary about anal/anal only, but I haven’t seen as much discussion to comment on of late. Google’s search quality for anal topics and sexual topics in general has really gone downhill, and content that still exists online often can’t be found through Google anymore.

Anonymous: More interaction with your followers would be great! I like reading people’s stories and seeing your responses and advice to people’s questions and issues.

I agree! I love chatting with followers, posting their shared experiences, and giving advice. But there’s two sides to any of that, and people have to ask me questions and share their stories for me to be able to post them. So by all means, I encourage everyone to do so. However big or small a question, whatever the story, feel free to ask or share at any time! That goes for private messages as well, if you don’t want a public conversation you can always message me via Tumblr’s chat.

And of course don’t forget the Anal Only Lifestyle forum and Anal Only Lifestyle Discord server — there’s a good bit of such interaction that takes place in both of those places, so if you aren’t participating you’re probably missing out on a lot of it.

Anonymous: I’d love to see more challenges throughout the year instead of just at the end of the year. Maybe a couple of basic anal only challenges as well as some more advanced ones for people who are already anal only?

This is a great idea, and I’ve been thinking of spreading them out for a while now anyway—more on that to come.

No Pussy November (and other challenges) have always encouraged people who are already anal only to try adding an additional challenge component to their routine for the month—whether clitoral denial/anal only orgasms, ass to mouth, 24/7 plugging, double anal, or whatever goal suits each person. It could be interesting to have a monthly challenge specifically for one of the various more niche elements of the anal only lifestyle, though. A month where everyone is encouraged to experiment with clit denial. A month where everyone is encouraged to wear a plug as often as possible. And so on, as an opportunity to explore new ideas and then incorporate them into their full time routine after if they enjoyed it.

I’d be interested in people’s feedback on that, as well as suggestions for such challenges—specifically with relation to the anal only theme—to be utilized going forward.

With 2017 nearly over and done for most of us, it’s time to reflect on what this year brought for the Anal Only Lifestyle and its community. In some regards it was a quieter year than others, in others it was very active and a giant leap forward.

The number of people talking about anal only online continues to grow, both on and off Tumblr, and that’s always a wonderful thing. Whether just discussing the idea, talking about one’s own interest in trying anal only, or documenting personal experiences, it all helps increase exposure and further normalize the idea of anal sex and of people preferring anal. The goal isn’t to force everyone to be anal only, but to level the playing field and get to where an anal only lifestyle is seen as one of multiple normal and legitimate choices for people, as well as to encourage more people to experiment with anal only and see if it’s something they enjoy, rather than simply saying “oh, I could never do that” and never even trying it.

Along those lines, the the number of people talking openly about enjoying anal sex in general, and the increased availability of good information about anal pleasure and proper technique continues to encourage more people to explore anal and discover how amazing it actually is. This can only ever be an excellent thing, and as time progresses more and more people will try anal for themselves and see why it’s so beloved.

Our anal only challenge months this year (Anal Only August and No Pussy November) were active but a bit more publicly quiet than in past years, especially in terms of other people posting and sharing their progress on Tumblr. I suspect part of this is due to changes to Tumblr that made this blog (and most other adult oriented blogs) hidden from the rest of the web and all external search engines, preventing a lot of non-Tumblr users from accessing or interacting with it without creating a Tumblr account and following it, as well as preventing discovery for new people outside of Tumblr. There may have been other factors as well, and I hope in the future to further grow these annual events into the more widespread periods of experimentation and celebration they should be.

The community has grown significantly this year, and this is probably our biggest and most positive change. In 2016, we started expanding to kik and then IRC to provide a realtime chat environment for people interested in anal and the anal only lifestyle to interact with each other in a faster-paced, more ephemeral environment. Our forum is a fantastic resource, but a bit more formal than a chat platform. Unfortunately, technical limitations made community growth difficult with both kik and IRC, so in mid-2017 we made the transition to an Anal Only Lifestyle Discord server, which is easy to use for just about anyone, and which has really taken off since then. We’ve got channels for general discussion, advice, porn sharing, personal nudes sharing, and more (with even more coming in the future!). If you aren’t there yet, stop by, read the rules, and say hi—there’s always plenty of room for more!

So what’s next for 2018? Well, first, I’d like to hear from all of you. What would you like to see the anal only lifestyle community become? Share your ideas, and stay tuned for a post in the next few days with some of my own ideas going forward.

Anonymous: You keep saying AO is not a forever thing for you, but you’re doing it. I just feel like you’re not respecting the lifestyle. I’ve been AO for 2 years and I will never go back. You’re not committed to the lifestyle if you keep saying you’re only doing it for a short while..

ilikeitintheass: Ok. First of all, congratulations on being AO for 2 years. Good for you. Honestly I think that’s a huge achievement and I can’t imagine doing this for 2 years.

Second of all, I think that being anal only is a hugely personal thing. It takes its toll on any person and surely, everyone that chooses it has their own reasons, limitations, ideas, expectations, etc.

I’ve always said, from the beginning that I don’t know if I can keep doing it. I love anal. I love getting my ass fucked. I love stuffing it with things. I also love my clit and my pussy and having orgasms using my clit and my pussy. I miss it sometimes. One day I’m gonna have sex with two men and get both my pussy and ass fucked at the same time. One day soon based on some recent conversations with friends in fact.

So I don’t appreciate being told that I’m not respecting the lifestyle. Everyone has their own way of doing it. I think I’ve done quite well with it. I choose to keep doing it every day. I will continue to choose it until I don’t want to choose it anymore. Am not gonna lie or pretend otherwise.

And I’d hardly call nearly 7 months of being Anal Only a short while.

While I didn’t coin the term anal only or start the first discussion of the concept online, I did create the first AO Tumblr blog, coined the term “anal only lifestyle”, and created and grew the associated communities. So I think I have a pretty good say as to what anal only and the anal only lifestyle means.

And I say that it’s a highly personal definition each person gets to apply to themselves however it fits for them. For some people, anal only is something to try for a few weeks or months at a time and nothing more. For others, it’s a lifetime commitment. And an entire spectrum in between. Some who start in the first category may gradually shift towards wanting it more permanently over time, while others who start out wanting it permanently may later change and move away from it. People change.

Everyone is welcome in the anal only community, and I really dislike seeing someone who identifies as AO attacking someone else for “not being AO enough”. It’s fantastic that the anon loves AO enough they’re committed to being that way permanently, but that’s a personal choice, and you can’t force that on other people or disparage them for not making that same commitment.