debaucherycat: So I’ve been toying with the idea of giving up my pussy and clit for good. I’m anal only for some time already. I don’t remember when exactly was the last time I had vaginal sex, but I’m sure it was spring still. So I’m counting from the start of this summer, which makes almost three months now. But I do edge and the only way I’m able to is by clit stimulation.

The basic rules for me now are quite simple. I cum only with my man and only on Saturdays. To be allowed an orgasm I have to collect points during the week. I get them for giving pleasure to him, edging and keeping myself pretty. It’s not hard actually and we both love it. So, what’s this all about?

The thing is, ever since I told him about my kink and he took control of my orgasms, my mind keeps reaching further. I just can’t stop fantasizing about all the ways I could be denied even more.

So, I’m asking for a bit of help here. I will not touch my greedy clit for this week. (I started on Monday, so I suppose I might have to skip my weekly orgasm on Saturday also). This is a big deal for me. And I could use all the encouragement I can possibly get. Even a simple like will make it easier. But please send me messages and asks. Tell me I’m doing right. Tell me it’s for my own good. Tell me how long should I go without touching. And tease me about it. Pretty please.

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fuckaliciousnes: Pussy and clit don’t give anything close to the amount of pleasure your ass can. Give them up ?

Hi, it’s the girl you tagged 20180705 again, I didn’t answer for two weeks because my boyfriend and I were on vacation. I thought a lot during those vacations (and we fucked a lot, too), and I realized my main issue right now is less about my pleasure (which I was worried about first) than about pleasing my boyfriend. Learning that he spent four years taking care about my vagina and clitoris even though he hated them shocked me even more than I thought it did initially (and that was a LOT).

Both to regain my pride as a woman and to reward his dedication, I realize I sort of feel like I must repay him with at least four years of anal sex only, to make him feel good, and to simply see if it works for me. In fact, to me, it’s like I let him down, and I’m looking to seduce him again. I know it may seems like I’m submitting to him (but hey, he did submit to me all those years), but to me, it’s the opposite, learning how to turn him on and make him crazy with lust for me is empowerment.

I think people will get that sort of impression of submission to him at the expense of what you want, but ultimately it sounds like that’s not how you see it and in fact are enjoying this change. And even if it were a form of submission, there’s nothing wrong with submission so long as it’s your choice and gives you what you ultimately need. (And sometimes what some people need is denial of their own desires and a focus on pleasing their partner instead. There’s nothing wrong with that dynamic if it’s what works for you.)

Does this make sense to you? To that end, I’m still “exercising” my ass in secret with my “almost my boyfriend’s” dildo, wearing lingerie a lot more often, taking attitudes and poses during sex that STRONGLY suggest I’m craving anal sex, I’m more verbal during sex, I’m entirely ignoring my vagina and pussy (including in private while I “exercise”, like you and my gay friend suggested), and I even fingered my ass then licked my fingers in front of my boyfriend, which turned him crazy.

Sounds like you’ve gotten your routine down and pretty well figured out. Acting like you love and crave and need anal, both to him and to yourself, has the added benefit of ultimately making you love and crave and need it for yourself, so that’s really a good way to sort of “retrain” your own thinking about it too.

I also never fail to compliment him after sex, which isn’t very hard for me, because like my friend foretold, the more I do all those things, the better he gets as a lover: more passionate, tender, harder, hotter, more creative, etc. He’s also more assertive in general, even outside of sex, which is very rewarding to me. The only thing is, before, he always waited for me to have an orgasm before ending sex, and now, he basically stops after he cums, like my orgasms are irrelevant.

I’m not sure why exactly. In fact, since we’ve had “that talk” more than three months ago, I haven’t had a single orgasm, which started to weigh heavily on me. The last times we’ve had sex (lately it’s generally more than once per day, before “that talk” it was about three times a week) I felt really close to come, and I may have caused it by touching my clitoris, but I avoided it both because it felt wrong, and because I actually wanted my ass fucked harder instead, which felt weird.

Even weirder, even though I felt close to orgasm those last few times and our sex stopped abruptly because he suddenly came into my ass, it didn’t feel frustrating, rather, strangely rewarding. Also, it sort of felt hot and made me look forward our next intercourse, which was oddly satisfying. I think I sort of like the idea of my boyfriend not “bothering” with me: he faked pleasure for four years, so I enjoy when it’s obvious he’s just having his own fun and not making any sort of effort.

It can take some time for a lot of women to get to where anal orgasms are a regular thing for them, especially with a lifetime of vaginal/clitoral stimulation to overcome. It can get frustrating to not orgasm for that long, but that frustration and arousal can ultimately help to make sex a lot better, and over time further develop anal stimulation into your primary source of pleasure and ultimately an outlet for orgasm as well. It sounds like it’s become less of a priority for you to desperately seek orgasm, which helps as well—trying constantly for it rather than just enjoying anal for what it is can keep you from getting there, which seems kind of counterintuitive, but orgasms are weird that way. It sounds like you’re gradually getting to the point that some anal only women find themselves at, where in time they enjoy not orgasming and enjoy the constant pleasure and anal stimulation and denial more than an orgasm, and get satisfaction out of pleasing their partner more than their own release.

So long as you are happy with the arrangement, even with its challenges for you, and are willing to go forward with it, I see no problem with that. Just remember that even if you’re consenting to it now, if ultimately this dynamic doesn’t work for you and you need it to change, that’s absolutely your right.

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debaucherycat: This inspires me so much. I’m almost envious. And horrified at the same time.

It took me ages to find courage and ask my man to take control of my orgasms. Our current arrangement is that I get to cum on Saturdays, if I collect my „cum points“ over a week. I get them by giving pleasure to him and edging mostly. And when the day comes, he grants me an orgasm. If I’ve earned it. And if he is in the mood. And sometimes he just isn’t. Which adds a lovely twist to it. Along with me being anal only. Basically, he gets to fuck my ass or my mouth whenever he likes. And I get to edge and hope for the best.

But reading the story of that girl, who abandoned all of her pleasure for her boyfriend… Well, let’s just say, it gives me ideas. And that’s terrifying. Not so long ago orgasm denial was only an arousing idea. Something I liked to fantasize about. And now I’m living it.

Abandoning my clit for good is an arousing idea too. Maybe even more so…

I’m so fucked.

Anonymous: I’m practicing anal only orgasm denial (didn’t know anal only August was a thing until today!) and I decided to challenge myself. Today, I wore a thick, penis-shaped plug to work. I still have it in as I write this and it’s making me so wet feeling a cock up my ass in public. I feel like I’m squirming at my desk and it’s driving me crazy. All I can think about is the fullness of my ass, the emptiness of my pussy, and I had to tell somebody. I’m losing my mind (in the best way). ?

Thank you for sharing! Having a full ass and an empty pussy is an amazing feeling, isn’t it? That feeling right there, along with the increased pleasure and arousal from being anal only, as well as better opportunities for intimacy and more, are why so many go and stay anal only, not just as a short term challenge, but long term. It really is a much better way to be.

say-no-to-the-o: “Denial has turned me into a cock-loving, cum-swallowing girl, who is also really enjoying the thought of anal and oral only penetration.”

— @ quean-heather (Say No To The O Member and Sister in Denial)

Anonymous: I’d never go anal only just to please my boyfriend. I do it because I love it. But I can’t deny I’ve given up *a lot* of clit stimulation just for him, because I know how he loves when I don’t cum. I’m lucky I can’t cum from anal!

That’s totally reasonable and fair, doing things like that for a partner aren’t for everyone, and usually I would strongly encourage doing things because you enjoy doing them. But there are those who get more enjoyment out of pleasing their partner than from the physical act itself. So if that’s the case, being anal only for a partner might be a reasonable option for that person. But doing it because you love it is great as well.

If you’re happy to give up your clit stimulation for your boyfriend, however, it seems you understand the pleasure of doing something that pleases your partner, even if it’s a different level of sacrifice.

My point, I guess, is that there’s nothing wrong with either of these approaches if they work for the people involved, and there’s also nothing wrong with only doing anal only or clit denial if it’s what you yourself enjoy.

dumbandpretty: Starting now, 10:57AM PST, January 28, 2018, I solemnly swear to abstain from any and all orgasms, and to refrain from direct stimulation of both clit and vagina, and to rely on my ass and my ass alone for sexual gratification, until such time as you, my followers, say otherwise.

The more likes, comments, reblogs, etc, I get, the more willing I’ll be to surrender my privileges to you guys. I’m open to suggestions, though reserve the right to refuse, based on my current condition.

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ilikeitintheass: I’ve been meaning to post this but I got so busy..

Some of you know that I was edging for one week. And I finally had an orgasm two days ago. I love edging but I’ve never done it since i became anal only.

Somehow it made everything better. So for one whole week, I would pick a time I was free for around one hour and I would play with my ass. Only my ass no other stimulation. I’ll watch porn or browse Tumblr and finger my ass or wear a plug or fuck my ass with a toy. Every time I feel close to orgasm I stop, and then continue after a few minutes.

After 3 days I was feeling so desperate. My ass started to ache for play. I would be working going about my day and I feel this sudden urge to fuck my ass. My body needed the release and I was becoming more horny.

Finally after one whole week of edging and getting so close to orgasm I allowed myself to cum, but I prolonged it. I spent 2 hours just getting close and stopping until I couldn’t anymore. At that point I was fucking my ass with my biggest toy, I pushed it deeper inside me and it just happened I wasn’t even trying to cum, I was still going to keep edging but the orgasm rushed through my body and it was the best orgasm I have ever had since I became anal only.

I think edging my be my new best friend

thechastityhousewife: So this has been a fetish of mine fot ages. I finally told my husband and he’s been enjoying it. For both of us the sex has been better since we both love anal. He still wants to make me cum from my clit and pussy though. How can I convince him to go more towards anal only?

female-orgasm-denial: So my mantra is ‘cumming is good, but not cumming is better’. I love to deny my wife, but I love making her cum too, it creates a connection between us that’s so powerful. So I’d say, talk to him about it, and suggest three things, one is that you prefer how it makes you feel about life, sex and him when you’re denied, so maybe could you limit how many times he lets you, and enjoy how horny it keeps you. Secondly, teach him about ruined orgasms, say if he does make you cum, it might be hot to ruin it, then read up on it on this blog, and practise!

Finally, once those two have bedded in, tell him more about anal only, just tell him the concept turns you on so much. Not that it’s something you want all the time but maybe could you try it for a bit and see how he likes it. Take little steps, and you’ll eventually get to where you want to be.

Anonymous: What made you decide to go anal only? What’s your perspective on it?

m-analqueen: To answer your question, there are many reasons, but the main ones are;
I really enjoy the feeling of having my ass filled, especially with big toys
I find that sex is more raw and passionate, and the angles tend to be better for penetration
I don’t have to worry about birth control
I practise orgasm denial and edge as often as I can, but I only allow myself to orgasm from anal as I find it way more intense, especially when I don’t waste any orgasms on my pussy!
I used to think my pussy was the centre of my sexual orientation, but it turns out it was my ass all along!

Hi, it’s again the housewife whose husband went anal only. My husband and I never talked about masturbation, it’s just something that I instinctively avoided before. During sex, I never rubbed my clitoris for example because I felt it would be rude to masturbate when you make love – I’d rather have my partner do it or not have it at all. And masturbating alone was weird to me for a married woman. That attitude probably helped me when my husband started to ignore my clitoris and orgasm needs.

Anyway, I did what I said in my previous message, I started masturbating my ass just before the time I knew my husband would come home from work so he “surprises” me. It was amazing. He just smiled at me and sat on a chair, looking awesome in his work suit, and told me to keep going. After a while, he took his cock out of his suit and started to jack off slowly, it was so hot. Then he joined me, removed the dildo from my ass, put it in my mouth, and fucked me like that, all dressed up.

We’ve never done anything so hot, me naked and him still in his suit, one hand gripping my hips while he fucked my ass and his other hand pushing and pulling the dildo out of my mouth. We did talk a lot after that, like I hoped. He told me that, as you predicted, he always preferred anal sex, to the point he was looking forward to my periods to have an excuse to fuck my ass rather than my pussy.

Then he said after I gave birth to our son, my “cunt got way too loose” (when he said that I felt humiliated and turned on at the same time, I blushed and felt a tingle in my ass, it was weird), and he realized he couldn’t stand vaginal sex any longer and wanted sex to be more about him and his own pleasure – so, he switched our sex little by little to check if I was OK with it, but he said he never thought I’d enjoy it to the point of masturbating anally when he wasn’t around.

He said he’ll buy a butt plug for me to wear so I’m not as frustrated when he can’t fuck me, and he’ll make sure to fuck my ass more frequently and harder. I then said everything you told me to say, that I love that we’ve only been having anal sex and that I want to stay that way, that it confused me at first and I felt some frustration, but the frustration turned into arousal, and I enjoyed our new sex and the denial of things he didn’t care about, and I added I would do anything for him.

After that, we made love again, then he asked if I’d be OK with more new stuff, like tying me up (“of course dear”). It’s funny how when I wrote to you, I wondered how to tell him I still wanted vaginal and clitoral stimulation and orgasms, and the end result is I’ve accepted those are gone for good and I’ll get much more anal. But I feel really great about it, relaxed.

I do have an advice for girls who can’t get into anal, though: try having enemas, it’s really what triggered it for me. I had problems opening up before and feeling free to push my ass muscles because I feared I may not be clean, but using a small anal douche really helped me feel more comfortable, and allowed me to both open wide and contract around my husband’s cock to bring him more pleasure.

Anyway, thanks a LOT for your feedback. I felt completely lost and “abnormal”, and now I feel great, like both me and my husband found our right place! Funny how my son’s birth reignited our sexuality! Kisses!

It sounds like communicating was a positive experience with a positive outcome for you both, and you’re both happier and know where each other stand as a result. Congratulations to the both of you, I’m sure you’ll both have a wonderful time exploring your new anal only life together.