Anonymous: I sent a message recently about wether or not I should lose my vaginal virginity to my boyfriend or not and in glad to say we talked and I haven’t! He is completely understanding and more than willing to stick to anal only. We have decided we want to be even more adventurous with our anal play. We already have his friends join us every now and again but i was wondering how to get even more adventurous? What do you recommend? Nothing is too crazy

I’m glad to hear that it worked out and that you were able to communicate your desires to him and he’s understanding that you want to stay an anal only vaginal virgin. That’s great. Communication is key, and is usually the most effective way of resolving such things and figuring out effective compromises. Keep it up!

As for being more adventurous, there are plenty of ways you could do that. Not knowing what you already do, there might be some overlap with existing activities for you, but I’ll list some ideas anyway. Not all may interest you, and while they’re listed in increasing order, they aren’t all necessarily dependent on previous ones.

• Experiment with clitoral denial and only orgasming from anal, which can have a similar amplification effect on arousal as edging and clitoral/vaginal orgasm denial does for a lot of women. If you like edging, you can actually do anal edging as well, which can be a lot of fun.
• Start incorporating regular ass to mouth into your routine. This pairs well with group sex with multiple men as they can take turns between your ass and your mouth.
• Start wearing a butt plug regularly and gradually training your ass for larger toys—plugs, beads, dildos, etc.
• After working up in size, try double anal. You can try this with toys first, then once you’re confident you’re ready, try it with your boyfriend and a friend of his.
• Anal fisting and large toy play can be a lot of fun once you’re ready for it.
• If you’re serious about remaining a vaginal virgin, you can help symbolize this with labia piercings that close off your pussy. This isn’t strictly necessary, of course, but some like the look and the symbolism of doing so. Plenty of women are anal only or vaginal virgins without doing this, though!

Hopefully those give you a few ideas and starting points to choose from. No doubt my followers can also reply and add some ideas of their own. Keep us updated with what you decide to do and how things progress for you! Enjoy!

Anonymous: So I’m a anal slut, I absolutely adore getting fucked in my ass. I’ve been having anal for the past 2 years but I’ve still never had vaginal sex. For ages all the boys loved this and so does my current boyfriend but he wants to take my pussy’s virginity and I don’t know if I want to break my anal only lifestyle. What do you suppose I do?

So, I’ll start by saying that my perspective and bias is going to be pretty obvious, considering the source. I say you should insist that you want to stay pure anal only and want to keep your pussy unused because you value that and think it’s hot to stay that way. Vaginal is likely to be a disappointment after being anal only for so long, anyway. A lot of women who start with anal for several years and then try vaginal later before ending up back in the anal only lifestyle later in life express regret that they broke their anal only streak and bothered with vaginal at all. You can always choose to try vaginal later, but you can never choose to go back to being a vaginal virgin.

That said, you should think about what you want. It sounds like you’re conflicted and if it was up to you wouldn’t be bothering with vaginal at all, so it’s more the pressure from your boyfriend that’s making you consider it. But it’s your body, your pussy, your lifestyle, your choice. If you value being anal only, and that’s what you identify with, you shouldn’t give that up lightly. You have to weigh the desire to stay anal only with what your partner wants.

If you do decide that you want to stay anal only, you should sit down with your boyfriend and tell him why and what it means to you, and that it’s not a rejection of him or what he wants, but that staying anal only and not using your pussy at all is something that you value and want to maintain, and that you’re not willing to give that up. Remind him of the positives: he can fuck your ass anytime he wants, anal is better than vaginal, he can cum in you all he likes without ever getting you pregnant, etc. You can also talk with him about anything else that he’d like to do that maybe you haven’t tried together yet, and start doing that instead of vaginal.