Jeremy and Anna: So she got into anal cuz she saw me playing with my toy and when she got comfortable she started using the toy on me and she would ask questions like doesn’t it hurt and what does it feel like for me and I would tell her.

One day I asked her do you want me to try it on you and she said sure so I took things slow just starting with a finger and we continued to mix some anal play into our mix and then about 3 months ago now I asked her if she would try an anal only month and I told her if it was to hard she didn’t have to keep doing it and through that month she tried clitoral denial and then after that month she went back to using her clit but has been anal only.

Now this month she is trying clitoral denial for my birthday present plus she has been wanting to try it lately so far she’s struggling but making it maybe you could give her some encouragement to stay on track and to keep her goal in mind thanks for your blog it’s great

That’s great that she was open-minded about not only doing anal play with you but also about going anal only herself.

If she needs clit stimulation in order to enjoy being anal only, then that’s a perfectly reasonable compromise, but since she wants to try eliminating clit stimulation as well, then I definitely encourage sticking with that goal and getting to where it’s entirely unnecessary for her. It can definitely be hard at first, if she’s been very used to using her clit to masturbate and orgasm up to this point, but keeping the goal of pure anal pleasure in mind and sticking with the routine of not using her clit for increasingly longer amounts of time will help it keep getting easier. You can continue to help her as well by encouraging and praising her and telling her how sexy you find it that she wants to give up her clit and be totally anal only.

If it’s hard to resist during masturbation/sex, you can use a topical anesthetic cream like Orajel applied in a small amount directly to the clit to temporarily numb sensation and eliminate the temptation to rub it. This only lasts an hour or two, but can be helpful if the urge is hard to resist at times.

For more information on the motivations behind clit denial as part of the anal only lifestyle and some ways that people use physical means to avoid clit stimulation, see our page on the Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex and The Use of Chastity Devices in the Anal Only Lifestyle.

Jeremy: So I have always had a interest in anal. I played with my ass from a pretty young age and learned how to orgasm from just anal. So I went back and forth playing with my ass and jerking off till I something violent happened to me sexually and after that I had erection problems and pills don’t help all that much so after a few years of trying to be able to jerk off and it not working I mostly went anal only and then I got with my current girlfriend and we decided that we would both be anal only and let me say we both have so much fun and if done properly anal can be extremely pleasurable btw thanks for making a section for male anal only

Though many people end up anal only simply because they love it, and would rather do anal than anything else, it’s also not that uncommon for a trauma or medical condition to prevent some other form of sex from being effective or enjoyable, and in those cases, going anal only can be a great way to continue to enjoy pleasure and intimacy with a partner while moving past those other forms of sex that no longer work for you.

I’m glad it was able to fill that role for you and that you’ve found a partner who you can be anal only together with as well, that’s great! How did you meet her and bring up the idea of being anal only together, and how did she take the idea at first?